My spouse would rather not pretend to be someone they're not, but I really want them there.
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Hey Autostraddle peeps. So I’m an ex-Mormon pansexual cis woman and my spouse of five  years is AMAB non-binary and over the past few years has come to  present their gender very fluidly, they often wear dresses, crop tops, makeup, etc. Where we live, they experience some microaggressions but we have a very queer community and social group and places where they can be themselves. They don’t take hormones or anything so their physical body still looks very “male.”
One of my sisters is getting married next year. My mom has told me in no uncertain terms that they would expect my spouse to wear a suit to the wedding and no makeup because their typical...