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Nico

Team Writer

Joined A-Team: November 2019

Articles written: 238

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Nico's Featured Posts on Autostraddle

That Time I Binged Freaks and Geeks While My Stalker Ex Held Me Captive

The Seduction of Aliens

Top 15 Books That Gave Me Weird Ideas About Sex and Pregnancy

Work and Class in The Haunting of Bly Manor

I Unicorned for a Couple at a Quirky Rural Swingers Club

"We Don't Want to Live in a Police State": Stop Cop City Still Needs Your Help

"Love on the Spectrum" Fails to Give Its Queer Woman the Date She Deserves

Untethered: The Designated Girl-Son

Pay Attention to the Light Source

15 Things I Drank in My Year of Not Drinking

An Interview with the Queer Creator of the Gandalf Big Naturals Meme

All Posts on Autostraddle

five cans of retro Britney Spears Diet Coke against a purple and gray fuzzy background

First Person

On 2018’s Britney Spears Diet Pepsi Cans and the Most Intense Gaslighting of My Career

2 years ago 21 Comments

The book matchmaking in the Archive: 19 Conversations with the Dead and 3 Encounters with Ghosts

LGBT Book Reviews

“Matchmaking in the Archive” Connects Today’s Artists and Queer Ancestors

2 years ago 4 Comments

A woman looks on in delight and awe at the letters "AMA" in a glowing neon heart. they are set against a gradient pink and blue background with a cupcake on it. a glowing neon triangle and plus sign are in the bottom right corner

Meet-Ups / Events

Get Pumped: Our 14th Birthday A+ Ask-Us-Anything is on March 7th!

2 years ago 3 Comments

M. Crane is between two images of their book cover. The book cover is a simple plane of blue with a rippling human shadow on the cover and the title text I KEEP MY EXOSKELETONS TO MYSELF layered on top. M. Crane is smiling. They have long brown hair, tan skin, and are wearing a colorful button up shirt.

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Literature

Right Now – A+ Read a Fucking Book Club: I Keep My Exoskeletons to Myself

2 years ago No Comments

Photo 1: an old white guy wizard in a white outfit gestures while lightning strikes behind him. Photo 2: a screencap of howl lying depressively on a brocade pillow. he is an anime guy with dark hair and an earring. Photo 3: a photo of a piece of wizard art on my sister's wall that depicts a wizard in a brown robe with long white beard sitting in a city apartment kitchen holding a beer with chips spilled at the bottom of his feet. Photo 4: a screen shot of merlin in disney's the sword and the stone dancing around in his vacation outfit which is a red baseball cap, rainbow tee shirt, florida shorts, and converse sneakers. he is giddily dancing. Photo 5: an image of Orko who wears a red hat and robe and purple scarf. his blue hands and ears are the only body parts visible and his glowing yellow eyes peer out from darkness. Photo 6: a purple wizard wearing a studded red outfit and cap reaches out toward the viewer. he has sharp nails and evil orange eyes and sharp teeth

Comedy

19 Wizards Ranked by How Well They Match My Gender Feelings

2 years ago 32 Comments

Unsafe Words: Queering Consent in the #MeToo Era

LGBT Book Reviews

In Challenging, Complex Essays, “Unsafe Words” Queers the #MeToo Movement

2 years ago 1 Comment

M. Crane is between two images of their book cover. The book cover is a simple plane of blue with a rippling human shadow on the cover and the title text I KEEP MY EXOSKELETONS TO MYSELF layered on top. M. Crane is smiling. They have long brown hair, tan skin, and are wearing a colorful button up shirt.

Literature

A+ Read a Fucking Book Club: I Keep My Exoskeletons to Myself

2 years ago 1 Comment

A kaleidoscope esque mirrored image of Sadie and Nico in N 95 masks and backwards hats, with wide eyes standing on ladders beneath a ceiling full of holes exposing the lathe behind the plaster. the vibe is chaotic.

House & Garden
Relationships

Homo Reno: 13 Tips for Keeping Your 5 Year Queer Relationship Intact While Renovating the House You Live In

2 years ago 27 Comments

Sweetlust by Asja Bakić features a crashing wave in seafoam and pink shades

LGBT Book Reviews

Speculative Short Fiction Collection “Sweetlust” Disturbs and Delights

2 years ago 2 Comments

a photo of shea, a Black nonbinary human with glasses and short hair wearing a long sleeved polo is superimposed on a houseplant filled background with an open notebook on top. on the notebook are the words "writing yourself home"

AF+
Meet-Ups / Events

Now A+ Members Can Take shea’s “Writing Yourself Home” Workshop at Your Own Pace

2 years ago 5 Comments

there is a creepy stone tunnel in the dark, barren woods. from it emerges a cut-out figure from a vintage valentine's day card. instead of a head there is a heart with a disturbingly realistic mouth as well as giant soul-piercing eyes. the rest of the figure is some kind of cutesy white girl in a blue dress holding a purse with a heart on it. the heart head also has a hat.

Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft
Valentine's Day

Your Zodiac Sign as a Creepy Vintage Valentine’s Day Card

2 years ago 34 Comments

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Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

I Used an App To Communicate With the Ghost in My House

2 years ago 29 Comments

Robin, a red haired pale woman in the game Stardew Valley, says "Hi Spooky Nico, I was just cleaning the dust off my saw"

First Person

I Played Stardew Valley With My New Name for a Year Before Announcing It Publicly

2 years ago 39 Comments

Kayla sits on an ornate Victorian sofa holding aloft a cocktail in a stemmed glass. She is wearing a doll-esque baby blue dress that is all gauzy with incredibly puffy sleeves, layers of pearls and a lace choker, ribbons in her hair which is braided, and glasses. She is holding her book, Helen House, which is pink with the title on it in white whimsical font and the "o" in house replaced with a smudgey lipstick kiss.

AF+

The A+ Book Club Talked with Kayla About Queer Monsters, Writing Craft and “Hot Horror”

2 years ago 1 Comment

a stock photo of a woman freaking out about a burning turkey who is FULLY GRIPPING the turkey pan with her bare hands and screaming as she takes it from the oven, all against a dark cyberspace vector backdrop

AF+

13 Days of A+ 2022: The Editor’s Notes are Screaming Internally

2 years ago 3 Comments

Christmas
Quizzes

Holigay Quiz: Which Christmas Monster Should You Date?

2 years ago 52 Comments

Holigays

Eight Queer Cozy Baking Mysteries I Wish Existed

2 years ago 23 Comments

A film still from Lost & Delirious where one girl stands on the left holding two swords by the hilt and looks quizzically at the girl on her right, who's wearing a red sweatband over her forehead and hoisting a falcon on her arm. the still is within a cyberspace style black hole

AF+

Today at 11am PST / 7pm GMT: Get Lost & Delirious with Sally!

2 years ago No Comments

a collage of the same photo repeated eight times. in the photo, sadie, nico and mya the dog pose in the snow. nico is a white genderqueer human with short dark hair that is shaved on the sides and glasses. they are wearing a black coat. sadie is a white butch woman with short hair and glasses who is also wearing a black coat and a burgundy scarf. mya is a fluffy white, gray and brown malamute mix with two different colored eyes

AF+

Interview With My Girlfriend: Sadie

2 years ago 29 Comments

Silverware on a white plate with a red ribbon tied around them. There are cranberries and a piece of a Christmas tree on the table next to the plate.

First Person
Holigays

Three Stages of Never Ever Doing Holiday Meals the “Right” Way

2 years ago 22 Comments

a screenshot of Laneia and Kayla on side by side screens each assembling a home made snow globe in their own home and holding them up to the camera

AF+

Glitter and Glycerin: A Snow Globe Workshop Recap

2 years ago 3 Comments

A grandparent applies makeup to their grandchild in a whiskey commercial

Culture

A Close Look at the Ridiculously Sweet Trans Whiskey Commercial

2 years ago 39 Comments

against a cyber spacey background, finley and sophie from the l word gen q point excitedly at the audience. a popcorn image floats above finley's arm and a tv showing sophie in it floats near sophie

AF+
Meet-Ups / Events

Tonight! Gen Q Watch-Along with Analyssa, Drew and Riese

2 years ago 2 Comments

AF+
Meet-Ups / Events

Alright! Come Join Us on the Totally Temporary, Ephemeral A+ Discord!

2 years ago 1 Comment

an image showing shea, a queer Black human with short hair and glasses, a pair of hands typing at a computer, and a crystal ball all set against a cyber-spacey background

AF+
Meet-Ups / Events

Writing Yourself Home: A Generative Writing Workshop on December 21

2 years ago 7 Comments

against a cyber spacey background is written Mark Your Gay Agenda!

Meet-Ups / Events

Put These 13 Days of A+ Discord Events on Your Gay Agendas

2 years ago 2 Comments

several spruce branches in a pot of simple syrup which nico is stirring

Food and Drink
Holigays

Break the Kitchenette With Some Herbaceous Simple Syrups for the Holigays

2 years ago 21 Comments

Gandalf photoshopped to have large breasts as part of the meme "Gandalf Big Naturals"

Visual Art

An Interview with the Queer Creator of the Gandalf Big Naturals Meme

2 years ago 25 Comments

A collage of three photos. On the left, a young Carmen smiles outside. In the center, Nico and Carmen post for a photo opp outdoors in Buffalo, arms outstretched, and to the right, adult Carmen poses in a flowing white dress and Birkenstocks outside

AF+

Things I’ve Never Asked Carmen About Growing Up in a Theater Family, Her Dating Habits, and More!

2 years ago 24 Comments

against a spacey, colorful backdrop, text reads "welcome!!!" 550 new members!

Straddleverse

Thank You and Welcome to 550+ New A+ Members!

2 years ago 5 Comments

A wooden spoon in front of a white background with gold oil/lube dripping off the side.

Lesbian Sex

What If, Lube?

2 years ago 13 Comments

Pomegranate seeds pour out of the menstrual cup

Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

Switching to Menstrual Cups Made Harvesting My Blood for Witchcraft 1000% More Convenient

2 years ago 44 Comments

the autostraddle senior team: riese, carmen, kayla, laneia, nico, heather, anya and viv smile against a spacey background, planets around them

AF+
Meet-Ups / Events

Right The Heck Now: You, Us, the A+ Pop-Up Discord?

2 years ago 2 Comments

a photo of providence rhode island

AF+
Meet-Ups / Events

Should We Have an A+ Meetup in Providence, RI Next Week? Discuss!

2 years ago 30 Comments

against a colorful background, YOU DID IT!!! And in just five days?!?

Straddleverse

WHAT In the Queer Media Happened You All!?!??

2 years ago 28 Comments

the autostraddle senior team: riese, carmen, kayla, laneia, nico, heather, anya and viv smile against a spacey background, planets around them

Meet-Ups / Events

Next Weekend: You, Us, the A+ Pop-Up Discord?

2 years ago 3 Comments

An illustrated city-scape against a marbled background with bright bold text over it that reads "Together We've Got This" and then in smaller text "The Autostraddle Fundraiser 2022." A few stars grace the image.

Straddleverse

STILL HERE AND QUEER AFTER ALL THESE YEARS — Queer Media Needs Your Help!

2 years ago 29 Comments

A blue haired queer person sits at a computer, and a green leaf wall is behind them

Culture

Today I Wondered Why AFAB Was Trending on Twitter

2 years ago No Comments

Dana Scully stands in front of an open car trunk

First Person
Movie Features

The Seduction of Aliens

2 years ago 5 Comments

Kayla sits on an ornate Victorian sofa holding aloft a cocktail in a stemmed glass. She is wearing a doll-esque baby blue dress that is all gauzy with incredibly puffy sleeves, layers of pearls and a lace choker, ribbons in her hair which is braided, and glasses. She is holding her book, Helen House, which is pink with the title on it in white whimsical font and the "o" in house replaced with a smudgey lipstick kiss.

Literature
Meet-Ups / Events

A+ Read a Fucking Book Club Q&A with Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

2 years ago 6 Comments

a teacher leans over two students, instructing them in the use of a tablet

AF+

Member2Member Advice: This Post Is a Space for Educators

2 years ago 55 Comments

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya takes a mirror selfie, surrounded by copies of her novelette HELEN HOUSE. A small ghost comes out of her phone.

Book Features

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya on Writing a Lesbian Horror Protagonist Who Has Been to Therapy

2 years ago 5 Comments

a collage showing Anya, a white woman with long brown-blonde hair smiling in an orchard and balancing an apple on her head, Kayla a South Asian woman with glasses and long brown hair smilign with a jack o lantern she carved that says gay with her partner Kristen in the background, a white butch human with long brown hair that is holding up a jack o lantern that is smiling, then there is a photo of viv with their sisters and family dog and they are all asian humans, sitting outside in fall weather, and finally, there is a photo of nico and their partner sadie outside of gertrude stein's birth home in the autumn. nico, a white human with bleached hair wearing fall clothes and a beanie is kissing the head of their partner, sadie, a white gender non conforming woman wearing a beanie and coat

AF+

REMINDER: Submit to the A+ Member 🎃 Autumnal Photo Gallery 🎃

2 years ago 18 Comments

an image of the cover of All This Could Be Different as well as an author photo of Sarah Thankam Mathews, a young South Asian woman, and in the center, against a black background, are white chat boxes representing chatting together with the author on discord

AF+

Sarah Thankam Mathews Chatted With Us About Collectivism, Spreadsheets, Queer Sex Scenes and More!

2 years ago 5 Comments

AF+
Meet-Ups / Events

Today’s A+ Read a Fucking Book Club Starts In 20 Minutes!

2 years ago No Comments

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LGBTQ+ Businesses
Shopping

Introducing the A+ Discount Marketplace!

2 years ago 33 Comments

Three photos of Nico as a teenager, they are a white person who has bleached blonde bangs on a brunette layered bob, they have on sunglasses and a grey tank top and are smiling. They are collaged in front of the Bi Pride colors (pink, purple, blue)

Identity

15 of the Most Chaotically Bisexual Things I Did as a Bisexual 15-Year-Old

2 years ago 22 Comments

Photo 1: Doc Martens. Photo 2: Artwork of cats. Photo 2: A dying plant. Photo 4: A water bottle. Photo 5: A yellow sweater. Photo 6: A craft aisle. Photo 7: A green couch. Photo 8: Kombucha.

Quizzes

Quiz: What Lesbian Household Item Are You?

2 years ago 51 Comments

a lesbian couple with an adorable baby shop for clothes in a store. they're smiling at each other and looking at a pair of jorts.

AF+

Member2Member Advice: Where the Heck Do You Buy Your Clothes?

2 years ago 63 Comments

An image made of two repeating images of the author Sarah Thankam Mathews photo and the cover of her book All This Could Be Different. The author is a South Asian woman with long dark hair wearing a red and black boldly patterned top and orange earrings. She is looking at the viewer. The cover of all this could be different features a painting of a crowded room of a diverse array of people all interacting, drinking, talking, sitting, standing, leaning on each other. It is very colorful.

Literature
Meet-Ups / Events

A+ Read a Fucking Book Club Q&A with Sarah Thankam Mathews

2 years ago 20 Comments

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