Queer Horoscopes for Capricorn Season 2024

Hi folks! I’m Deb with Queerstrology, here to share your horoscopes for Capricorn Season and the beginning of 2025!

Capricorn Season begins with the Winter Solstice and ends in a new year. Wrapping up the holiday season can bring both merry and scary times. ‘Tis the season to spend more time on your personal life. Capricorns are often associated with hard work, but during their season, they are given a break.

Ruled by Saturn, the planet of restriction, Capricorn also governs the 10th house, associated with ambition and achievements. This means you may feel significant effects in these areas of your birth chart, particularly where Capricorn and Saturn reside, as well as any activity in your 10th house.

Capricorn Season brings the energy of structure and ambition. Embracing the framework of this season will allow you to push toward your future goals. As the year comes to an end, keep what works and carry it into 2025 as a year of transformation.


Key Dates to Note:

Capricorn Season begins Saturday, December 21 at 4:20 am ET. The Sun moves into the constellation of Capricornus, ending on January 19, 2025, with the start of Aquarius Season.

December 30: New Moon in Capricorn
New moons symbolize rebirth, and under the influence of Capricorn, they bring an energy of ambition. This is a time to fully embrace your goals using that ambition to make them come true.

January 6: Mars Retrograde moves into Cancer
Mars is the planet of initiative and is retrograde 10% of the year. In the sign of Cancer this indicates emotional drive that may lead to emotional exhaustion.

January 13: Full Moon in Cancer
Full moons bring a time of reflection, and under Cancer asks for a review of your feelings. Make sure to take care of your emotional needs.


How Capricorn Season Affects Your Sign

Aries


The intensity of your energy warns you to move forward with intention. Your ruling planet, Mars, is in retrograde until late February, which may be creating extra tension for you. The areas most affected are communication, daily activities, and home life. While you may feel tempted to avoid backing down for fear of seeming weak, doing so is essential for finding resolutions. Steady your drive and focus on moving past this period into a time of reconnection.


Taurus

TAURUS
After taking some time to spoil yourself, this season encourages you to connect with others. Your social calendar may fill up quickly, so watch out for the costs associated with going out—not just financially, but for your health as well. Make sure to balance social interactions with time in your safe space. Your hard work is about to pay off.


Gemini


Your ability to adapt to various environments makes you good at what you do. The generosity you show to your loved ones will come back to you. It’s time to upgrade your finances by gathering additional resources from people you trust. When was the last time you wrote a note to those you cherish? Now is the time.


Cancer

CANCER
Every season seems to bring you the message to take care of yourself, yet you still prioritize others more often than you should. Imagine what would happen if you asked for what you want. During the full moon, the emotional journey may leave you feeling tired. Assert your need for rest and care, or you may risk your ability to nurture others.


Leo


The holiday season brings with it decorations, baked goods, and crafting. Your creativity thrives with so many opportunities for expression. Invite the people you adore to join you. Others will notice your efforts, asking, “How do you do it?” Share your ideas and enjoy spreading the fun. This will help you connect more deeply with people. Don’t forget to set boundaries to prevent emotional overflow.


Virgo

VIRGO
Virgos often feel the need for perfection, which usually leads to hosting events. Make a list of what you need to create your ideal gathering. Your social interactions during this time may inspire you to set new goals. Sometimes, the perfection you seek comes from those you surround yourself with. Your personal life feels solid, enabling you to embrace the more playful side of life.


Libra


You love the harmony and joy of this time of year. It ignites an energy within you, creating a leadership role in social situations. While you enjoy being aesthetically pleasing to others, this season pushes you to be a cheerleader for them. The need to feel comfy and cozy reflects a balanced home life. Those who experience life with you will return your grace with love and support.


Scorpio


You are intensely focused on your responsibilities, but this time of year, you allow yourself more grace than usual. Take time to step away from your burdens and check in with yourself. Maybe you need a change of scenery or time to restore your energy. Meeting new people with different perspectives may help guide your ongoing transformation.


Sagittarius


Be careful not to dig too deep into your travel fund. Since most people travel this time of year, you don’t — instead, you prefer to travel during the off-season. This is because you crave new experiences and understanding, preferably by exploring them yourself. Spending more time at your home base may inspire you to start some projects around the house.


Capricorn

CAPRICORN
Ah, the season of receiving a combined birthday and holiday gift. That doesn’t matter much to you this year, because Pluto has left your sign for good. Now is your time of exuberance, as your confidence grows stronger. Be careful not to let the power go to your head; instead, maintain a calm, clear perspective on what you want.


Aquarius


The intensity of the holiday season, combined with Pluto stationing direct in your sign until 2044, may leave you feeling drained. Make resting and resetting your top priority, or the time it takes to resocialize will be longer. The state of the world may be adding additional stress, so take care of yourself — because we need you.


Pisces


Feeling refreshed from grounding yourself, you’re ready to be more social. During the holidays, you’ve realized how much you’ve missed interacting with others. However, with more interactions come more opportunities for misunderstanding. This may lead to a need for alone time and introspection. It is best to keep balance in your interactions to keep a level head.


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Kate Moennig and Leisha Hailey Want To Read Books and Eat Snacks With You

The PANTS podcast debuted in May of 2020, thick in the middle of a spring saturated with existential terror and wells of loneliness. Hosted by actors Kate Moennig and Leisha Hailey, the podcast promised to deliver unto its listeners a window into the real-life friendship between the actors who played legendary best friends Shane and Alice on seminal lesbian television series The L Word and its uneven reboot, Generation Q. They interviewed original series cast-mates like Mia Kirshner and Sarah Shahi, chatted about their own lives, and eventually started recapping the show that brought them together. They made merch, did live shows, and, in 2024, added video. Their dynamic felt familiar and lived-in, their dialogue as charming for its banality as it was for its casual glimmers of stardust. Listeners, who they called “pockets,” were hooked. “It’s a show about nothing,” writes one reviewer. “But their openness and wit make it one of the best parts of your day.”

In October, they took that openness to a new level, revealing the 2025 debut of a project they’d kept close for the year it took them to write it So Gay For You, a memoir on “friendship, found family, and the show that started it all,” a book described by Tegan Quin as “must-read queer lit and a testament to the enduring legacy of The L Word and the culture-changing stars at its heart.”

In December, they announced they’d be starting a Book Club with Allstora, an online queer book marketplace founded by RuPaul and author Eric Cervini. Spun out of Cervini’s prior venture ShopQueer, Allstora is an enterprise dedicated to improving royalties for authors (who receive a higher percentage of sales for books sold through the platform than they do from Amazon) and ensuring distribution of LGBTQIA+ banned books. The store has been gradually rolling out a modest selection of book clubs, including a flagship club hosted by RuPaul and another focused on queer history. This week they announced two more: Olympic skiier Gus Kenworthy’s Coffee Table Book Club and “fierce female leads, steamy rom-coms, empowering self-help” from trans TikTok legend Dylan Mulvaney.

The PANTS Pod Book Club is Allstora’s sole sapphic-focused faction, and Moennig and Hailey are stoked about uplifting lesbian authors. They declared their intentions for the project in an announcement video: They’ll be picking books that made their hearts skip a beat,” “whether it’s a raw memoir or a compelling piece of fiction,” and then taking that reading experience, bringing it into a shared space, and talking it out. Their first pick is How Does That Make You Feel, Magda Eklund? by Anna Montague, a “heartfelt and hilarious” story about a 70-year old therapist realizing her feelings for her dead best friend were more than platonic. For a limited time, it’s just $1 to sign up.

Just like The L Word’s very special and unique storylines provided a foundation for queers to connect with each other, working out their own personal drama through microaggressions against Jenny and affection for Bette & Tina, they’ll now be invited to do the same with sapphic books, in conversation with their favorite queer television stars.

When it comes to queer representation in the arts, progress has rarely been linear. But when it comes to queer literature specifically, things truly have just gotten better and better every year. There’s never been more out there to choose from or more specific identities showcased than there are now. In that spirit, the PANTS pod book club will be a space for passionate readers as well as those who’ve not picked up a book in a long while.

Last week I hopped on a quick zoom call with Hailey and Moennig to talk about the project and tangentially related topics. This interview has been edited for clarity, style and length.


Riese: Okay, if your book club did take place in real life and it wasn’t a virtual one, what space would you imagine it being in? What would the vibe be?

Kate: Oh, wow.

Leisha: Let’s see.

Kate: I would choose an old school library.

Leisha: Oh, I was going library too—

Kate: An old one. One of those older ones that are—

Leisha: Good, we had the same thought.

Kate: Okay, great. So then you and I won’t argue about the location. An old school library.

Leisha: At night when it’s closed down.

Kate: I’m thinking of the Philadelphia Public Library on the Parkway. It’s really beautiful…

Leisha: Yeah, the lighting would have to be really good.

Riese: That’s really important for all things, for the lighting to be good.

Kate: It’s all about the lighting.

Leisha: Someone would have to be in charge of catering.

Kate: You’re not allowed to eat in the library.

Leisha: I think after hours, a lot of rules can be broken.

Riese: Yeah, you can do whatever. That’s the unspoken truth of the library.

Leisha: There’s no librarian like, “Shh.”

Kate: They’re pretty strict in libraries, Leish.

Leisha: I know, but this is a fantasy. We make the rules.

Riese: It’s like The Library After Dark. It’s like a different vibe, I guess, I mean, you’d have to be safe. You don’t want to ruin the books with your food. You wouldn’t serve ribs.

Leisha: We would have napkins.

Kate: It would really wind up being cheap wine and cheese—

Riese: Boxed wine and string cheese?

Kate: Boxed wine and string cheese. As long as there are leather club chairs that everyone can sit in, like you’re at Oxford during a lecture, then that is my fantasy.

Riese: What made you wanna start a book club?

Kate: Well, RuPaul and Allstora reached out to us and we figured it seemed like a great opportunity.

Leisha: They wanted us to take over their Sapphic book club, and that just sounded really interesting and cool for us. We’ve never done anything like this, so we thought it was a great opportunity to get PANTS involved with books because we have a book coming out, and it all seemed on brand and fun for us.

Riese: Do you guys read a lot of books?

Leisha: I don’t read a lot of books. We spend a lot of time reading scripts, so we’re entering into a new thing — one of the things that was appealing about the book club to us was that it would help us learn more about this world. So every month we’ll take part of an episode of PANTS to go through what we read with the people. I’ve always wanted to join a book club personally.

Riese: What did you imagine it would be like?

Leisha: Ok, so my friend has one, and they rotate hosting the party, they have snacks, they all pick a book, they have snacks and wine. To me, it’s more of an intimate, personal experience—

Kate: That’s what it is.

Leisha: So I’d be with my friends and it’s less of an insular experience when it’s a book club. That’s what I like about it, and I’m hoping we can do this virtually with people. We can have our callers ask questions about the book so it’s something we can share with them. Right now we don’t have that connection, besides the advice questions on PANTS. We don’t have that kind of outlet.

Riese: That’s interesting too, because a lot of your fans obviously connected over the stories that were told in The L Word, and that was a subject matter for them to come together and talk about and build their own community around it. And now you’re kind of trying to do that with talking about a different kind of story, like a literal story in a book. You know what I mean?

Leisha: You get it.

Kate: Full circle. It’s full circle.

Riese: How does the process start for you guys with deciding which books to feature?

Kate: We have a team at Allstora, and they’ll bring us ideas, and also our publisher has ideas, and then if something pops up on our end, we add add, and then Leisha and I decide, all right, which one sounds most exciting?

Leisha: What’s great about this team is that we get books that are not out yet, so we’re getting pre-reads of something that the world doesn’t have access to yet. So that’s great that we can take this platform that we’ve built and help people promote their books.

Riese: Yeah, it’s always a good cause to be supporting lesbian books and publishing.

Leisha: Exactly. And we actually understand what that means now, because we’re doing it next year!

Riese: Now that you’ve been through the process of writing a book, what do you think about Alice having done all of her rewrites in 12 days?

Kate: I think that’s my favorite question.

Leisha: I realize it would take longer than that. Yes. It’s a very, very long, laborious process to write a book, and Alice is incredible.

Kate: Yeah, that’s true.

Leisha: And that’s why she could do it.

Riese: I mean, Jenny did too, Jenny wrote her book pretty fast.

Leisha: Jenny was pretty good.

Kate: Jenny made a lot of money off her book. I mean, that girl was able to finance a lot of things just based off of one book and a movie that was made off of it.

Leisha: She had her movie deal pretty quickly too.

Kate: It was immediate. She had a whole entire lifestyle change based off those two things, and I think, you know — The L Word was a special place.

Riese: I think it was a New Yorker article, and then it became a book, and then it became a movie, and then she was off!

Kate: And then she’s able to afford Porsches and photography studios.

Leisha: You know… life might imitate art this time.

Riese: Definitely I think that will happen for you.

Leisha: We’re waiting.

Riese: Ok so how many of the books that are currently behind each of you would you say that you’ve read? [ed note: we were on a zoom call and they were each sitting in front of bookshelves in their own homes] 

Kate: Actually, I can answer that very easily, because I just did an audit of my books.

Riese: Oh, you did?

Kate: I’d say out of all the books up there — I’m going to say 85%, I can say that in all honesty.

Riese: Wow. Yeah, that’s good. I don’t know if my bookshelf is 85%. It’s probably like 60%.

Leisha: I can say 100% because they’re all art and design books.

Riese: So you looked at all of the the pictures.

Leisha: I looked at all of them. I look at the pictures, Riese.

Riese: That’s great! How has your interest in reading changed now that you’ve become writers of a book?

Kate: I respect anyone who puts out a book truthfully, because the process is laborious and intense, and it’s not for the faint at heart, so a massive amount of respect, truthfully, to anyone who puts one out and births it into the world.

Leisha: The process of writing a book was one of the most vulnerable things I think either one of us has ever done. Ours obviously is a memoir, but I’m just picturing the years and years people spend writing. It took us over a year. Imagine the people that have just tucked away forever, their life’s work.

Riese: Some people take ten years to write one book.

Leisha: Aren’t you writing a book?

Riese: Yeah.

Kate: Are you writing a book?

Riese: I am writing a book. Yeah. It’s taking ten years.

Kate: What kind of book?

Riese: Well, I was writing a book, and then I kinda finished it, and then I decided I didn’t like it, and now I’m writing a different book, so I probably am always perpetually saying that I’m writing a book, but yeah, I’m writing—

Kate: Nonfiction?

Riese: No, I’m writing sort of a queer romance novel right now, it starts in the mid-nineties, there’s some love triangles, friends-to-lovers and so on. It’s centered on these four main characters, two are in their thirties, one owns this exclusive resort in Palm Springs, and then her best friend is this novelist, then there’s two girls in their early twenties, both students and one is more naive and the other is a former child star. So it’s a lot of intergenerational friendships, and there’s a love story that traces through it all, and it’s centered around this resort in Palm Springs where lesbians go, but I’m explaining it really poorly right now. I guess I could describe it better than that, but it’s going to be good, I think.

Leisha: Great. See? So you know.

Kate: When does it come out? Maybe we can promote it in our book club.

Riese: Well, I have to finish writing it first.

Kate: Well, okay. When you finish writing it.

Riese: For a while I was like, “I want to write a National Book Award-winning book,” and then I was like, “No, I think I just want to write a book that will be fun for people to read.” You know what I mean? Anyway, so that’s what I’m working on, and I’m also going to work on my way of describing it to people as well, so that it sounds more captivating.

Kate: You got to find that one magic sentence.

Riese: Right. Yeah. I need an elevator pitch! Something like that. But in the meantime I am very excited to read your book!

Leisha: Did you pre-order our book?

Riese: I will.

Leisha: You will?

Kate: You did or you’re about to?

Riese: I will, I’m about to. I’m about to. I actually, I’m going to do it today. [editor’s note: I did]

Kate: Okay.

Riese: I really will. Preorders are important.

Kate: They’re very important.

Riese: Are you going to do your own book in the book club?

Leisha: I don’t know if we want to do that.

Kate: It’s a little self-serving.

Leisha: Yeah. We’d rather help someone else.

Kate: Honestly, I think at that point we’ve spoken enough about ourselves. We don’t need to add to it, so I’m going to say, no.

Riese: But you also get to go on a whole book tour and talk about yourselves even more.

Leisha: We are. We are.

Kate: Exactly. We’re going to, which is why — let’s pay it forward and we talk about someone else’s book.

Riese: Well, I’m really excited about it. I think it’s going to be great. Everyone’s really thrilled. I’ll interview you guys again about the book when it comes out but I think it’s gonna be a hit!

Leisha: We worked really, really hard on it.

Kate: We sure did. We sure did. Yeah, we sure did. It was an experience for sure. We can’t spill too much now, because we have to make you look forward to something in a few months.

Riese: Well, congratulations! Finishing a book is hard.

Kate: Thank you very much.

Leisha: When you’re done with your book. Let us know.

Riese: I will!


You can sign up to join the Pants Pod Book Club on Allstora for just $1.

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Riese is the 43-year-old Co-Founder of Autostraddle.com as well as an award-winning writer, video-maker, LGBTQ+ Marketing consultant and aspiring cyber-performance artist who grew up in Michigan, lost her mind in New York and now lives in Los Angeles. Her work has appeared in nine books, magazines including Marie Claire and Curve, and all over the web including Nylon, Queerty, Nerve, Bitch, Emily Books and Jezebel. She had a very popular personal blog once upon a time, and then she recapped The L Word, and then she had the idea to make this place, and now here we all are! In 2016, she was nominated for a GLAAD Award for Outstanding Digital Journalism. She's Jewish and has a cute dog named Carol. Follow her on twitter and instagram.

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  1. this interview made me laugh so much!!! i already signed up for the book club. thrillllled to see kate and leisha on autostraddle.

  2. Well, I loved “How Does That Make You Feel, Magda Eklund?” Such a good pick! Can’t wait for the pants pod convo.

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‘The Room Next Door’ Is Almodóvar’s Tribute to Life Through Death

This review of The Room Next Door was originally published as part of our TIFF 2024 coverage.
Five years ago — despite his protests — many called Pain and Glory a swan song for Pedro Almodóvar. It wasn’t an unfounded conclusion. After all, it was an autobiographical work about illness starring a long time collaborator that seemed to reflect on an entire life. Even if it wasn’t his last, many wonder what Almodóvar could do next. What does an artist do after that sort of career capping masterpiece? So far, Almodóvar’s answer has been to play and to expand. He made two English language short films — an adaptation of a play he’d long-referenced and his sensual take on a western — and he made Parallel Mothers, his most political work in years. Having dealt with his personal demons, Almodóvar seemed ready to experiment and to confront the broader demons of past, present, and future. Those modes combine in The Room Next Door, his first full-length film in English. Julianne Moore plays Ingrid Parker, a writer whose latest book confronts her fear of death. At a signing, one young reader asks her to write the inscription to her girlfriend with the note: It won’t happen again. Ingrid obliges and says, “I hope it doesn’t,” with the melancholy tone of someone who knows it will. Death arrives again for Ingrid when an old friend at the signing tells her that their mutual friend, Martha (Tilda Swinton), is in the hospital with cancer. Ingrid visits her and the two rekindle a close friendship that culminates in Martha requesting Ingrid’s presence when she takes her own life. The title refers to this request, Ingrid wanting no witnesses but someone nearby. The title is said multiple times, each time increasing in stylized intensity. When a celebrated filmmaker makes their first film in English, people are quick to judge whether or not their style translates. Many will observe the heavy-handed script and decide it does not. This is a mistake. Almodóvar’s dialogue has always been stylized — American audiences are just quicker to accept this when a film is foreign. In fact, Almodóvar is in total control here both in moments that are grounded and moments that exaggerate for melodrama or comedy. He has also found two English-speaking actresses wholly equipped to embody his words. Tilda Swinton — the star of Almodóvar’s short The Human Voice — was an obvious choice. But so was Julianne Moore, an actress whose best performances were with another gay auteur with a unique style. Both actresses are exceptional, balancing the various tones and portraying a deep intimacy with ease. The film is explicitly in support of euthanasia. It’s also explicitly anti-cop, anti-fascist, and anti-neo liberal. Ingrid and Martha’s shared ex (John Turturro, also perfectly cast) is a climate scientist and in his doomsday speeches, Almodóvar’s own anger and frustrations can be felt. This is a film about a dying woman — it’s also a film about a dying world. How should someone spend their final days? How should the human race? What does hope look like when it’s not just a tool to evade the realities of mortality? Like the writing, the formal style is also undoubtedly Almodóvar. New York has never looked like this. His signature colors and attention to design are on full display. And yet it doesn’t feel like a pastiche of old work. He seems inspired by this new setting, managing to mix the old with the new to achieve a stunning craft that’s both personal and fresh. Before her illness, Martha worked as a war photographer. The Vietnam War and the Bosnian Genocide are mentioned, the War in Iraq is even shown in one of the film’s brief, sporadic flashbacks. This is the most unruly aspect of the film, but the reach is appreciated. How could a film about death and the consequences of human action leave out humankind’s most destructive impulse? This is a film brimming with questions and ideas, a desperate attempt to draw connections between the personal and the global. By leaving his home country of Spain, Almodóvar has not just made a movie with famous English-speaking actors. He’s also challenged himself to expand beyond the world he knows. If Pain and Glory was a reckoning with self and Parallel Mothers a reckoning with Spain, The Room Next Door is a reckoning with the entire world. There is so much suffering endured and witnessed by us all. But there’s also the sound of birds singing, passages of literature that remain like memories, late night movies with friends, and, of course, fucking. Almodóvar isn’t ready to give up on the world quite yet. For a movie about death, his latest is full of life.
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Drew is a Brooklyn-based writer, filmmaker, and theatremaker. She is a Senior Editor at Autostraddle with a focus in film and television, sex and dating, and politics. Her writing can also be found at Bright Wall/Dark Room, Cosmopolitan UK, Refinery29, Into, them, and Knock LA. She was a 2022 Outfest Screenwriting Lab Notable Writer and a 2023 Lambda Literary Screenwriting Fellow. She is currently working on a million film and TV projects mostly about queer trans women. Find her on Twitter and Instagram.

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  1. Thank you for this review Drew, and all the festival coverage. I seem to have stopped watching (many) movies but I still enjoy a good review.

  2. So…..no lesbians in this movie? Surprising, I could’ve sworn from the trailer Tilda and Moore would be a couple. Not sure why it’s being reviewed on Autostraddle if there’s no sign of queerness

  3. I’m so unbelievably excited for this film, I’ve been waiting for your review specifically and this fantastic piece is even better than I could have imagined. Teared up reading your take on the themes of the film, what a brilliant filmmaker — I will be sat day one!

    • “Same here! Almodóvar never fails to amaze, and this one sounds like it’s going to be something truly special. Counting down the days!”
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  4. “This is a beautifully written and insightful reflection on Almodóvar’s evolving artistry. I love how you connect his past works to The Room Next Door and highlight his willingness to confront deeply personal and global themes. The idea of blending stylized melodrama with political undertones feels quintessentially Almodóvar, and your description of the performances, especially from Julianne Moore and Tilda Swinton, makes me even more excited to watch this. It’s fascinating how he manages to expand his scope while staying true to his unique vision. For those who enjoy deep dives like this, I’ve also found great movie-related discussions at winkproapks.com. Thank you for such a thoughtful analysis!

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Autostraddle’s Favorite Queer Movie Scenes of 2024

Considering my own picks were a make-out and an expression of longing, I shouldn’t have been surprised to scroll through the rest of the teams’ favorite movie scenes of 2024 and see make out make out sex crush thirsting. With a handful of notable exceptions, the team was horny at the movies this year and what a blessing.

I love deep-dives on individual moments. It allows us to go beyond the vague platitudes inevitable in a blurb to really zoom in on why a work makes us feel a certain way. And yes that feeling is often lust.


The Three-Way Kiss, Challengers

Mike Faist and Josh O'Connor kiss Zendaya's neck.

How could we start anywhere else? As Tashi Duncan says, tennis is a relationship. And while this makeout is certainly delicious, what makes the whole scene so effective is that it’s a synecdoche of the film’s relationships. The writing is economic, every moment operating on a level of entertainment and character development. The performances then deepen what doesn’t even need deepening. And yet, in every glance and laugh and line delivery, who these people are and who they are — and could someday be — to each other is made clear. But what really makes this scene THE SCENE is the filmmaking. It’s true in the tennis moments and it’s true here. Guadagnino refuses to be a passive observer. The way the camera pushes in as all three characters kiss until it moves past the boys as Tashi leans back. The way we’re placed in her perspective as they continue to physically connect with only a shred of plausible deniability. When we’re close, when we’re wide, when we’re medium, when we’re moving, when we’re static. It’s perfection. I love the whole movie, but this is its best moment — and not just because it’s the horniest. — Drew


Bathroom Sex, Love Lies Bleeding

Katy O'Brian leans on a wall with one muscly arm and looks down.

I’m staying on brand here by choosing a sex scene, but wow this was truly my favorite queer sex scene in a minute! It felt so real, lived-in, erotic, specific. Dirty talk rarely hits in films in my opinion, but it did here. The script, the blocking, the acting! It’s all hitting for me. — Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya


The Conversation with “Tara,” Fanatical: The Catfishing of Tegan and Sara

A close up of Tegan Quin on zoom with the text: How could this not affect me?

I couldn’t stop thinking about this film for weeks after watching it. It chronicled an era and a corner of the internet I am deeply familiar with — in the late aughts/early 10s my blog and Autostraddle were engaging the same demographic as Tegan & Sara fans, and I also am and was a Tegan & Sara fan. Those wide-eyed hipster lesbians in their beanies with their asymmetrical bangs and skinny jeans? I knew them. And catfishing was indeed so rampant, and lines were so blurry, and internet social spaces were so new and also so unique and it was so meaningful to be able to connect with queers and help them feel better about themselves. Tegan & Sara were specifically so accessible to and open with their fans, and this documentary really blew open the heartbreaking worst case scenario of all that, in which a fan began catfishing other fans, pretending to be Tegan and carrying on relationships with many of them, while also hacking into Tegan’s private files and email. The documentary also looks at the viciousness and cruelty that also thrived in so many of these communities who often seem thirsty for a target to undermine or bully.

One person, “Tara,” continued appearing throughout their investigation into Fake Tegan’s identity. Tara seemingly never accepted that they weren’t in a relationship with Real Tegan, and after being blown off by fake Tegan when asking for a real-life meetup, they went on an online rampage, building a tumblr page to out Tegan as a horrible person and release her personal information, reaching out to other victims, contacting Tegan’s then-girlfriend and management, and doing what felt to Tegan like a clear attempt to ruin her life. When Tegan probes Tara to explain that behavior, Tara refuses to acknowledge that their behavior, despite being driven by a desire to destroy Tegan, had any impact on her whatsoever. In that moment a key element of the dissonance that occurs in these parasocial relationships, even those without catfishing or malice involved, is laid so bare — this idea that a person, solely due to their fame or artistic success (and the false perception that all famous people are financially comfortable and somehow inoculated from harm by that comfort), cannot possibly be hurt by a non-famous person. Tara cuts Tegan off as she attempts to summarize Tara’s actions — declaring definitively, “You weren’t affected in that capacity. It barely skimmed the surface.” Tegan is stunned. “Why do you think that it didn’t affect me? How could this not affect me? How could being violated like this not affect me?” On the other line, Tara is silent. — Riese


What Is This Feeling?, Wicked

Glinda and Elphaba look at each other in their dorm room.

Lyrics presented with minimal comment:

[GALINDA]
What is this feeling, so sudden and new?

[ELPHABA]
I felt the moment I laid eyes on you

[GALINDA]
My pulsе is rushing

[ELPHABA]
My head is reeling

[GALINDA]
Yeah, well, my facе is flushing

[NIC]
HEY DO YOU KNOW WHAT ELSE THIS FEELING SOUNDS LIKE? A GIANT LESBIAN CRUSH.

Ahem. Thank you Ariana and Cynthia for perfectly portraying what a secret crush disguised as a frenemy looks like. — Nic

Defying Gravity, Wicked

Elphaba and Glinda look at each other in a dark room.

This one was hard to choose, because all three hours of this movie was my favorite scene in this movie, but I chose “Defying Gravity” and specifically the little Elphaba/Glinda moments throughout. These two women find themselves full circle from where they started; they’re on opposite sides again, but it’s different this time. Glinda is still as afraid of Elphaba as she was before – or, more specifically, afraid of what she represents: standing out, not conforming, being different, and, heavens forbid, unpopular – but now she has so much respect for it. She still isn’t brave enough to join her in it, and she has to let her go. It’s such a heartbreaking moment because Elphaba and Glinda love each other so much, but they’re at an impasse. In this moment, they reflect on how far they’ve come, and they have to say goodbye. It felt like a breakup. One that neither party really wants, but both know is for the best. It’s devastating and beautiful. Cynthia Erivo and Ariana Grande acted the hell out of this scene, not to mention SANG the hell out of this song, and I am not ashamed to admit I wept. — Valerie Anne


“Smoke” Break, Cuckoo

Hunter Schafer makes out with a woman while holding a cigarette.

The blocking of this make out scene in Cuckoo is so gorgeous. Hunter Schafer holding that cig while stroking her hair! So hot! Also “do you smoke?” is such a good euphemism for “do you want to go make out?” I’m taking notes. — Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya


Ghost-Like Hands of Desire, Queer

Daniel Craig talks to Drew Starkey at a bar, a phantom hand floating up to touch his face.

The first time we see Lee’s desire manifested, Allerton is just telling a story. There’s nothing sexy about this moment — he’s talking about working with the Counter Intelligence Corps — and isn’t that when it’s most overwhelming? When you desire someone as they speak, fully clothed, in public? The script describes what happens next as a “ghost-like hand” of Lee’s reaching up to caress Allerton’s face. It’s such an obvious portrayal of longing and yet I’ve never seen it before. Every time this technique is used in the film, Lee’s ache became my own. It’s so simple and so effective — Drew


Welcome Back, Wayhaught!, Wynonna Earp: Vengeance

A woman in a cowboy hat kisses another woman.

The first time we see Wayhaught together in Wynonna Earp: Vengeance, there’s no big deep conversation or conflict to work through. Waverly drives up as Nicole greets the Purgatory residents in a way that’s clear she does this all the time. Nicole pretends to give Waves a parking ticket while they banter and flirt with each other. It’s so simple, so familiar, so lived in. They’ve been living together as wives in Purgatory for some time at this point, and as much as I love it when they’re in the throes of demon-slaying, their quiet moments of intimacy and comfort are some of my favorites to watch. — Nic

Team Earp Debrief, Wynonna Earp: Vengeance

The main characters of Wynonna Earp sit around  a table smiling.

It feels weird writing about Wynonna Earp in a movie list, but thanks to Tubi, that’s how Earp lives on, so here we are. It is impossible to pick my favorite part of the movie, because it’s all just so fun and Earpy, but I’m going to pick the moment that Wynonna, Waverly, Nicole and Doc were sitting around the table, because I think it encapsulates a lot of what I love about Vengeance: it was all such classic Earp. It had the Earp sisters holding hands, the wives making sapphic sex jokes, Doc Holliday going on a rambling tangent, all while trying to discuss their current supernatural problem and come up with a plan to solve it. It’s humor and heart and supernatural silliness and everything I love about Earp, all wrapped up in one simple scene. They say it right in the scene, how I feel: “Sounds wrong to say this exactly right now, but I’ve missed this. The batshittery of our lives.”
Valerie Anne


Janice Is Gay, Mean Girls (2024)

Auli'i Cravalho as Janice looks out at a group of people.

Now, this is sort of cheating, because it’s not necessarily the scene itself that I love as much as the FACT of the scene. Like, the scene was great and cute. Damien giving Cady the Janice lore, Janice trying to disappear about it, occasionally chiming in, old wounds reopened. It IS a very cute scene. But what I loved is that it exists at all. Instead of a throwaway line about elementary school Regina being homophobic, the backstory between Regina and Janis is more complex. They were friends, even after Janice first game out, Regina even showed allyship. Until a spin-the-bottle kiss; Regina claims she was using Janice to make a boy jealous, but I think perhaps she liked the kiss a little more than she intended and spent her energy publicly distancing herself from Janice as a defense mechanism. It adds so many layers to their feud, and to Janice’s character overall. Plus, then it leads right into Revenge Party, which is just a delight (and yet another time Auli’i Cravalho absolutely nails the singing in this movie), and it means Janice gets to take a girl to the dance at the end, so it’s a win-win-win in my book. — Valerie Anne

One of my favorite things about Mean Girls the movie the musical (2024) is how unabashedly queer they made Janice (played by out multi-hyphenate Auli’i Cravalho) this time around. So many of her moments were top tier, but her performance of “I’d Rather Be Me” stands out especially because of how much harder the lyrics hit coming from a queer high schooler. She sings about staying true to herself even if it means sitting alone at lunch which might seem trivial from my 37 year old perspective, but my memory is good enough to remember how hurtful being excluded can feel. It’s a strength and confidence High School Nic could only dream of. Plus, this rocker version of the song SLAPS! — Nic


Ariana DeBose Piloting the Boat, Argylle

Ariana DeBose in a white tank top and corn rows pilots a boat with two men on her side but their faces have emojis over them.

Look, say what you want about Argylle, but if you don’t think Ariana DeBose in a white tank top and cornrows is queer culture then I can’t help you. 10/10, NO NOTES. — Nic

Makeout Party, Drive-Away Dolls

Geraldine Viswanathan looks surprised as Margaret Qualley talks to her.

The makeout party scene in Drive-Away Dolls is so indulgent and horny it’s hard to understand how any queer could not be at least slightly delighted by the fact that it exists. On a wild road trip to Florida, destined for chaos neither girl can possibly conceive of when agreeing to embark on it, lesbian lothario Jamie sexiles Marian from their hotel room. Marian’s theoretical discomfort with Jamie’s entire deal becomes literal. The next day, Jamie snags an invite to a “basement party” in Marietta, Georgia, with the entire UGC soccer team, who she describes as “very committed lesbians.” The basement party in question turns out to consist of everybody taking turns making out with each other, switching partners after a set amount of time has elapsed. Did this happen with women’s soccer teams in the late ‘90s? Let’s hope it did. It’s an event that exists squarely in Jamie’s comfort zone and directly outside of Marian’s.

The basement itself is familiar. Everybody’s in shorts, polos, gym socks, slides, there’s a tragically romantic country song whirring on the record player, the couches were clearly upholstered in the ‘70s. The ringleader blows her whistle and calls for a rotation, finally landing Marian in front of Jamie. Jamie is thrilled. Marian is terrified. Finally, their conflicting approaches to romance and sex meet up for the first time. It’s always a weird moment when you’re kissing a close friend for the first time, especially when it’s someone you’ve talked to about sex and romance so much, but always in the context of other people. Considering going there with each other is scary on so many levels, especially for girls as different as Jamie and Marian. Marian ends up freaking out and leaving the party, but there’s no un-ringing that bell. An attempt at sexual chaos becomes a turning point towards something else entirely. — Riese

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Excuses To Leave Your Family Holiday but They’re Just Plot Points From Yellowjackets

Picture this: You’re at your weird family member’s house for the holidays and you’re feeling trapped. First of all, that’s pretty insensitive of you considering there’s an entire girl’s soccer team trapped in the wilderness and they don’t even have iPhones to help them cope because it’s the 90s. Second of all, you’ve probably already exhausted all of your go-to excuses to leave the family event on Thanksgiving. So, you’re in need of some new ways to get out of family obligations before you reach your limit of microaggressions or lines of questioning about your lifestyle or dead-end conversations with your cousin of the same age but wayyyy different TikTok algorithm.

That’s where I come in! I am here to provide you with foolproof excuses to get you out of your family’s holiday plans:

1. “Oh my God, I have to go. My friend is having a psychotic break and playing makeover with a corpse.”

2. “I don’t mean to be rude, but a wolf literally just ripped off half my friend’s face.”

3. “I wish I could stay for dessert, but I actually just found out my friend from high school started a cult upstate and she really needs my help.” 

4. “As much as I’d like to stay for caroling, a tradition you know I love, I do have to go. It’s hard to explain. My friend is going through a rough patch in her marriage because her husband is her dead best friend/lesbian lover’s high school boyfriend. Just her luck, she recently got in a fender bender with some guy and you know, he caught her at a really vulnerable time and so the two of them sparked a romance. I know. It’s bad. Anyway, she just killed that guy. So I have to go to his art studio and help clean up.”

5. “Hold that thought, Grandma. My team just made nationals.”

6. “SHIT! You know that timeshare cabin I got with some friends in the Canadian Wilderness? No? Okay I literally Instagram it all the time. Well it just burned down, so I have to call my insurance company.”

7. “I’m going to have to miss the Die Hard rewatch this year, guys. My friend’s little brother is being hunted through the wilderness by some teenage girls and I have a bad feeling the wilderness is going to choose him.”

8. “You’re never going to believe this. My wife sacrificed our dog at the altar. 

9. “Ahh, I gotta go! My friend Laura Lee just took off on her very first flight as a pilot! Everyone’s going to go watch by the lake. Oh wait. Shit. I gotta go to my friend Laura Lee’s funeral.”

10 “I wish I didn’t have to go! But my girlfriends and I are bringing back the hunt.”

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In Search of a Queer Christmas Horror Classic

While most people celebrate the Christmas season with things like ugly holiday sweaters, It’s a Wonderful Life, and the dulcet baritone of Frank Sinatra, others — those of us who celebrate Gay Christmas (Halloween) until the end of December — look for something a little darker to cut this yearly dose of wintery sweetness. And Hollywood knows it. So every year, those of us who’d rather rewatch The Nightmare Before Christmas than catch the latest Hallmark offering are rewarded with a fresh batch of Christmas horror films (though to be fair, Hot Frosty could and probably should have been a horror movie). Movies like The Mean One (murderous Grinch), Christmas Bloody Christmas (slasher robot Santa), and Silent Night (apocalypse Christmas) consistently deliver holiday horrors that twist the formulas of chipper Hallmark stories with efficient, usually unimpressive but nonetheless amusing non-scares. There are, of course, Christmas horror classics that stand the test of time: titles like the original Black Christmas; Krampus; Silent Night, Deadly Night; and even Eyes Wide Shut are perennials of this subgenre whose merits I’d unironically laud. This year when December 1 rolled around, though, I felt something was missing. I realized that while serious queer films like Carol scratched my gay Christmas movie itch, and movies like Gremlins satisfied my need for some good holiday-themed carnage, I didn’t know of any films that combined these two categories really well. I wanted to find a queer Christmas horror classic.

To be sure, if one quality ties the Christmas horror subgenre together, it’s an oddball, camp sensibility that almost always feels at least a little bit queer. Christmas horror movies bring holiday joy for many of us through their gruesome irreverence: They disrupt one of the most familiar symbols of the Christian heterosexual nuclear family, bringing joy by poking fun at the season’s sweet perky exterior and revealing the tensions that lurk underneath through violent excesses like Grandma getting run over by her scheming lesbian granddaughter — I mean, a reindeer. John Waters’ seminal Female Trouble, exemplifies this well, opening with an excellent dismantling of the joys of Christmas morning as Dawn Davenport (Divine) comes tearing downstairs wailing for a new pair of cha-cha heels and toppling the tree onto her sainted old mother before beginning her reign of murderous terror. Home Alone’s sadistic slasher-lite ruckus brings this dynamic to mind even with its touching family values message to the point where Roger Ebert compared the film’s “scary nostalgia” and Saw-trap style contraptions to The Last House on the Left. This year, Terrifier 3’s gonzo premise (undead killer in a clown suit with a Santa suit over it goes on a supernatural, child-killing rampage) and buckets of blood give the film even more explicitly horrific and undeniable appeal on this score.

Others in the Christmas horror subgenre blend this seasonal strangeness with queer subtext that almost comes with the territory. John Waters’ own favorite Christmas movie, the delightfully bizarre Christmas Evil, has another off-kilter and incidentally queer premise.  A deranged toymaker who thinks he’s Santa decides to dole out vigilante holiday justice based on his own homemade naughty/nice list. The film’s main character Harry (Brandon Maggart), a bachelor and old school mamma’s boy obsessed with Christmas, is the odd man out in his family. He’s despised by his brother for his disruptive presence during the holiday. Where he, his wife, and their children can enjoy some Christmas cheer together, Harry’s “strange” singleness and juvenile love of the holiday (even before they get an inkling of his murderous ideation) is framed as alarming. Of course, the film’s pedophilic undertones (Harry spends most of his time spying on kids) bring this reading into conversation with harmful stereotypes around queer people and sexual abuse; nevertheless, Harry’s strained place in his broader family during the holidays has a clear analogue for queer people whose families don’t accept them. The killer in the first Silent Night, Deadly Night is imbued with a similar tacitly queer position in the story. Like Jack Skellington’s earnest love of Christmas — a stark contrast to his goth looks and moody personality — this kind of character can evoke a similar feeling for viewers who fall firmly into the “gay cousin” slot at the family holiday party. Simply put, these kinds of strange, “dark” holiday films and characters just have a queer vibe.

I watched a broad range of gay Christmas horror movies on my quest for the next queer Christmas classic. Alas, many explicitly “gay” horror films for the holidays lack the irreverent spice required for a true queer sensibility, presenting their queer characters as underwritten afterthoughts. In Anna and the Apocalypse for example, a film with a promising holiday zombie musical premise, the title character’s lesbian best friend has very little to do. Her girlfriend is away for the holidays, sidelining her romantic dramas in favor of the friend group’s PDA-prone straight couple and making her the least prominent, least developed character in the ensemble. While a few of the film’s musical numbers and scare scenes are commendably performed by its pleasantly game cast (a bowling alley killing spree, a chipper singalong through a zombie infested cul-de-sac), it’s played generally too straight for its own good, lacking either the camp appeal or the gore to merit even a movie night with friends.

It’s a Wonderful Knifea mystery about a series of yuletide murders in a small town whose richest family hopes to open a new mall — similarly falls flat. While several of its main characters are queer, including a pair of curmudgeonly aunts (one of whom is played by fabulous horror veteran Katherine Isabelle of Ginger Snaps and American Mary), its romances feel half-baked, and its central slasher mystery is underwhelming, bogged down by flat acting and creaky plot contrivances. The film’s dry style and tone undercut even jokes meant to appeal directly to a queer audience. The movie’s style of representation is exemplified by a scene in which a gay character is gifted a rainbow-shaped ornament by his supportive but clueless mother. I’d almost lost hope.

Though ostensibly a rom-com, the controversial and broadly unpopular ending of Happiest Season, Clea Duvall’s directorial debut about a couple who try to pull a The Birdcage for the holidays, brings that deeply stressful film far closer to true queer Christmas horror classic than any of the actual genre films I’d watched this year.

So it was with real joy that I sat down to watch Alice Maio Mackay’s excellent Carnage for Christmas. Debuting this year at the Salem Horror Film Festival, 20-year-old cult director Mackay’s fifth feature (her other credits include Satranic Panic, T Blockers, and So Vam) is in essence a scrappy Nancy Drew mystery. This low-budget, down and dirty Australian slasher follows trans true crime podcaster Lola (Jeremy Moineau) as she reluctantly returns to her rural small town for the holidays only to find a murderer dressed like Santa Claus mysteriously and elaborately picking off the town’s lesbians. When she quickly realizes no one is going to investigate these less-loved members of the conservative community — and that she’s become a suspect — she takes matters into her own hands. The film, unlike more mainstream gay holiday genre films, is playful and direct in its queerness, riffing explicitly off of early John Waters, ‘50s melodramas, Columbo, and House of 1000 Corpses according to Mackay. Its stylish, ultra-stylized experimentation with form amplifies a series of deliciously grizzly and creative death sequences, and its diverse ensemble of strong women attacks the material with energy and humor. Mackay and her co-screenwriter Benjamin Pahl Robinson also manage to weave thoughtful and nuanced commentary into the film’s central compelling mystery, indicting transphobic police, chasers, and TERFy lesbians in its tight hour-and-ten-minute runtime.

Carnage for Christmas’ balance of jokes, scares, and kills is note-perfect, modulated nicely through Moineau’s cool, adroit performance as Nancy Drew (all grown up with a penchant for Doc Martens and forensic analysis) alongside Mackay’s signature over-the-top, punk rock directorial style and quick editing by Vera Drew, whose own debut feature, The People’s Joker, achieved tremendous critical acclaim this year. The film’s personal touches, freeform creativity, sly humor and DIY aesthetic make it a bona fide, feel-good queer holiday horror classic in the making. I can’t wait to make watching it an annual tradition.

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The 25 Best TV Shows of 2024 With Lesbian, Bisexual and Trans Characters

It’s truly been the best of times and the worst of times for lesbian pop culture in 2024. While we’ve dominated the conversation when it comes to sports and music, queer television representation this year wasn’t quite the romp in the hay or the magnificently diverse field of wildflowers it has been in the past. There was no single unifying show that captivated the community with buzz, but also, we did get Chappell Roan and the Women’s National Basketball Association, and that’s a lot, you know?

Last year’s strike delayed development across the industry, and massive budget cuts reduced production, particularly for queer-centric programming. A lot of our favorite shows didn’t air this year but will return in 2025. Still, we found plenty to celebrate.

Every year, the Autostraddle TV team votes for their favorite shows with LGBTQ+ women and/or trans characters, highlighting the ones that shined the brightest by being really good and/or telling really good, important queer stories. Those that did both, of course, tend to be the shiniest stars in the sky.

Truly, the way votes shook out this year surprised me. This was the first year Grey’s Anatomy earned enough votes to make the list, and likewise for Station 19 and NCIS: Hawa’ii. Shows with strong showings in prior years, like Heartstopper, Bad Sisters, Vigil, and Sex Lives of College Girls, didn’t rank at all. But what’s beautiful is how this list makes room for different shows serving different purposes and filling different parts of our hearts, each succeeding or failing by their own metrics, for their own reasons. Overall our votes were more scattered in 2024, with only six (6) seasons of television that over half of the TV Team actually saw in their entirety, compared to 25 last year and 15 the year before. There was simply less LGBTQ+ television to choose from this year, too — in 2023 I reported that we had about 40-60 less shows to vote on than we had in prior years, and this year we were down another 25.

We had some real gems though! The weird, edgy delight of Fantasmas and the thoroughly queer and entirely fresh ensembles of Somebody Somewhere and Sort Of. Prestige and mostly well-executed limited series like Under the Bridge, Baby Reindeer, True Detective: Night Country and Expats. Tense mysteries with understated lesbian characters like Bodkin and Sunny. The biggest bone the MCU has ever thrown our community with Agatha All Along. A pitch-perfect season of Hacks.

2024 was also a big year for the “surprise this is way gayer than you thought it was gonna be!” show. So many pulled me in with the promise of a particular potential queer character and held me there with even more gayness than I’d anticipated, but often at such a moment in the show’s plot that there was no way to write about it without giving everybody spoilers, like Apples Never Fall, Tell Me Lies, Adoration, No Good Deed, Expats and The Decameron. 

Comparing our list to this aggregated look at what Metacritic critics across major media publications are celebrating, we overlap with Baby Reindeer, Somebody Somewhere, Fantasmas, Hacks, What We Do in the Shadows, Arcane, We Are Lady Parts, Abbott Elementary and Agatha All Along. True Detective: Night Country and Evil are queer-women-inclusive shows celebrated widely elsewhere that didn’t rank for us — and I suspect the latter may be an oversight, something more of us should’ve checked out, but didn’t.

I’ll be sharing my own personal list of top shows in my AF+ newsletter, What the Gays Are Watching, that goes out today! And now here is what the TV team saw and liked the most in this year of our foresaken gods, 2024.


25. The Real Housewives of New York (tie)

Season 15 // Peacock
Not yet renewed or cancelled

Last year: Not eligible, we opened up the field to reality shows for the first time in 2024

The queer content in the first season of the rebooted Real Housewives of New York was on the lighter side, especially since Jenna Lyons was a bit of a hesitant new Housewife. But now in its second season, RHONY is really dyking up Bravo with not just a more candid and vulnerable Jenna but also the addition of Racquel Chevremont and her extremely hot partner Mel, who isn’t a full-time Housewife but should be!!!! Racquel and Mel talk and act like queer people who feel familiar to me, which so rarely happens in the ultra wealthy world of Bravo. On a series that has often been queer coded in its exploration of homosocial spaces, obsessive friendships between women, and supposedly platonic arcs that track like relationships and breakups, having actual queer women present certainly adds a layer! —Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya


25. Grey’s Anatomy (tie)

Seasons 20 + 21 // ABC
Renewed

Last Year: Didn’t rank

two doctors in grey's anataomy

I’ll say this for Grey’s Anatomy, while some of their “disaster of the week” storylines often require viewers to suspend their disbelief, there’s a good reason the live tweeting hashtag was “GreysGays”; queerness has become as commonplace as craniotomies on this show. The first half of this season focused heavily on Levi and his chaplain, but my focus was on the sapphic friends-to-lovers situationship between Mika and Jules. Despite knowing it wouldn’t last (Midori Francis would be leaving the show), I couldn’t help but get invested in these two in large part due to the palpable chemistry between Adelaide and Midori. The moments shared between them were sweet, soft, sexy, emotional, and devastating. It’s clear that they cared deeply for each other and while I’m sad we won’t get to see what these two could have been, I’m glad we had them for a little while.  —Nic


24. Station 19

Season 7 // ABC
Cancelled

Last Year: Didn’t rank

maya and carina with their baby

It’s hard not to let Station 19‘s seventh season feel a bit tainted, both by the show’s impromptu cancellation (#stillmad) and the way motherhood became the totality of Maya and Carina’s story. But upon rewatch, two things stand out: first, the happiness that the couple finds in the show’s finale feels completely earned. Maya and Carina have been through it — from Maya grappling with her father’s abuse to the death of Carina’s brother to their separation — and have done the work to come out the other side. The path was, at times, gut-wrenching…Carina’s mournful wails in the shower, Maya’s chilling threats from her hospital bed…but they made it. Their happiness has been hard fought and it is deserved.

The second thing that stands out is that the chemistry between Danielle Savre and Stefania Spampinato remains palpable. I’d want to be mad at the couple for making every conversation about motherhood but then Carina would blindfold Maya or kiss along her abdomen and it was enough to make me forget what I was mad about. From their first meeting at Joe’s to their reunion after the wildfires, their chemistry persists unabated. It was glorious to behold. — Natalie


23. From

Season 3 // MGM+
Renewed

Last Year: Didn’t rank

A close up of Chloe Van Landschoot as Kristi in MGM+ series From.

The queer characters in From admittedly didn’t get a chance to really shine in the third season, but there was A LOT going on, to be fair; not a lot of romance in general was happening, what with all the supernatural shenanigans. But, our girls remain an integral part of the community, being the only medical staff this hodgepodge town of stranded strangers has. Overall, this show continues to be exciting and mysterious and luckily, it’s not the end of the story. — Valerie Anne


22. Wreck

Season 2 // Hulu
Not Yet Renewed or Cancelled

Last Year: Didn’t rank

Wreck season two

I wasn’t sure Wreck could sustain its premise beyond its super tight first season, but alas, it proved me wrong! The series only got queerer and sharper in its skewering of the ultra wealthy in season two, and queer friendship remained a central theme. It’s a really fun and original example of queer horror that’s queer beyond its characters’ labels. Heteropatriarchy and capitalism are the ultimate Big Bad in our world and in the world of Wreck. — Kayla 


21. Mary & George

Limited Series // Starz

Julianne Moore looks upset as Mary Villiers

While other period pieces modernize with pop music and other anachronisms — to various success — this seemingly modest series instead leans into timeless faithfuls: sex and violence. This is a delicious show that’s thrilling and gay. But it’s also smarter than a lot of similar shows that posture intelligence. It’s sharp in its portrayal of people who want POWER but don’t necessarily want to LEAD. Longtime straight gay favorite Julianne Moore and new straight gay favorite Nicholas Galitzine are both so fun to watch and the whole thing is a scrumptious dessert with just enough bite. — Drew Gregory


20. NCIS: Hawaii

Season 3 // CBS
Cancelled

Last Year: Didn’t rank

NCIS Hawa'ii

Early in NCIS: Hawai’i‘s final season, Kate and Lucy find themselves undercover as newlyweds at a lush resort. The episodes bears all the hallmarks of your standard procedural — investigating clues, trailing suspects, and impromptu run-ins with the assailant — but the heart of the episode still rests on this couple. Kate and Lucy are equal parts adorable, delightful and, particularly when they duck inside an office to avoid being discovered, hot.

The episode does what NCIS: Hawai’i has done since its inception: weaving the personal in with the professional. As they track down the killer, we learn more about who they are as people and how they relate to each other as a couple. It’s not unusual to see a queer character on a procedural but NCIS: Hawai’i was in a class of its own when it came to showcasing their stories. I’m remiss that we won’t get to see Lucy make amends with her estranged family or Kate step out in her own Grace Kelly-esque wedding gown but what we got was pretty special.

The show’s legacy — Kate and Lucy’s legacy — is that it set a new bar when it comes to this genre and its portrayal of queer relationships; I hope future shows strive to meet it. — Natalie


19. No Good Deed

Season One // Netflix

NO GOOD DEED. (L to R) Abbi Jacobson as Leslie and Poppy Liu as Sarah in Episode 101 of No Good Deed. Cr. SAEED ADYANI/Netflix © 2024

Cr. SAEED ADYANI/Netflix © 2024

No Good Deed is a true bi-genre series, harnessing comedy and thriller elements with matched success in its unfurling narrative that hinges on the sale of a house full of secrets. With a stellar ensemble cast — including Abbi Jacobson and Poppy Liu as a married lesbian couple, Kate Moennig doing a perfect Shane redux, and Linda Cardellini playing a queer and conniving slutty housewife — it delights and disturbs. It’s a modern day parable warning against lying to your partner. And unlike a lot of other thrillers, it doesn’t really try to trick viewers. Liz Feldman is at it again with really great grief storytelling, No Good Deed successfully taking up the mantle of Dead To Me. — Kayla 


18. Fifteen-Lov

Season One // AMC+
Not renewed or cancelled

Justine and Glenn in AMC+'s Fifteen-Love

I can only hope that Fifteen-Love will somehow be picked up by a streamer (other than AMC+ where it already lives but hasn’t caught on) one day and have a second chance at being a hit. This is my new Dare Me!!! It’s actually quite similar to that show in a lot of ways, both portraying young women in competitive sports and the abuse in that realm. They’re also similar in that NOT ENOUGH PEOPLE WATCHED THEM. Fifteen-Love is one of the best pieces of art about systemic abuse in sports I’ve seen, and the performances are fantastic throughout, especially from newcomer Ella Lily Hyland. — Kayla 


17. Baby Reindeer

Limited Series // Netflix

baby reindeer

One of the year’s biggest swings and most unexpected revelations, Baby Reindeer was a story that took its time while also proceeding at a brisk pace. It asked questions about trauma and romance and mental health and shame and sexuality, even when those questions were left unanswered. — Riese


16. Under the Bridge

Limited Series // Hulu

rebecca and cam in the bathroom

While imperfect, Under the Bridge is still a masterclass in how to do true crime with respect for the victims and without unnecessary respect for the police. Lily Gladstone’s performance as Cam Betland earned her two Autostraddle TV Awards, a role that saw her seduce Riley Keough in a bar bathroom but also undergo a transformation that tugged her away from the family of cops that raised her and towards something more like home. Queer showrunner Quinn Shephard’s adaptation of Rebecca Godfrey’s non-fiction book by the same name adds a queer element to the narrative and is also less concerned with scandal or mystery than it is with empathy and curiosity, telling a haunting story about cruelty and desire and the aching compromises and mistakes we make trying to fit in to a place that won’t make space for us. — Riese


15. Abbott Elementary

Seasons 3 + 4 // ABC
Renewed

Last Year: Didn’t have a queer woman regular/recurring character and thus wasn’t yet eligible

PHOTO: DISNEY/GILLES MINGASSON

There’s a weird thing that happens when shows get popular. Far too often, they lose sight of the very thing that made them popular in the first place. Storylines get weird (thanks, usually, to a rotating door of writers), episodes are inundated with guest stars, and all of a sudden, this show that you fell in love with is a shell of its former self. That is not the case with Abbott Elementary.

It never gets distracted by the bevy of guest stars clamoring to be part of its cast, nor has it allowed Janine and Gregory’s relationship to swallow the show (as other shows often do after a prolonged “will they/won’t they” moment). Characters are given space to grow and develop — all the characters but Ava, most notably — without feeling disconnected from the characters we first fell in love with. Four seasons in, Abbott remains as committed to its identity as it ever was.

And, of course, part of that identity is just being fuckin’ hilarious. Episodes of Abbott Elementary are guaranteed to make you break out into a raucous laughter at least once an episode. — Natalie


14. Land of Women

Season One // Apple TV
Not renewed or cancelled

the ladies of "land of women"

Maybe it’s no surprise that I’d love a show that cast Carmen Maura as a trans teenager’s loving grandma. But I was still surprised by just how well this sweet romp of a series handled its queer and trans storyline. It allowed a trans girl’s lesbianism to hold equal weight to her gender and portrayed bureaucracy as a more sinister form of transphobia than oft-portrayed bigotry. I’m more focused on great trans art than great representation these days, but it’s still a thrill to see well done stories I’ve never seen before. Especially in a show for families and especially in a show this fun! – Drew


13. Girls5Eva

Season Three // Netflix
Cancelled

Last Season: Didn’t rank

Girls5Eva: Busy Phillips as Summer, Sara Bareilles as Dawn, Paula Pell as Gloria, and Renée Elise Goldsberry as Wickie. Cr. Emily V. Aragones/Netflix © 2023

The jokes in Girls5Eva are so layered — from visual gags to bit characters to wordplay to more traditional punchline setups — that it’s one that rewards rewatches. I find something new to laugh about every time. That’s certainly true for this fantastic third season, which features some of my favorite songs since the first. — Kayla


12. Orphan Black: Echoes

Season One // AMC+
Cancelled

still from orphan black echoes

Orphan Black is one of my all-time favorite shows, and nothing could ever replicate it, but the thing about Orphan Black: Echoes is that it didn’t try. It had some character overlap, and some similar themes, but it stands on its own. Plus, instead of turning cloned DNA into embryos, they cloned a whole person whose brain was already formed, making for an interesting study on how a person might have changed (or not) depending on their memories and environment. What was especially fun is that the person they cloned was queer, so all the different versions of her running around were queer too, and the show made a point to show us that without a doubt. Baby, she was born that way. I’ll be forever sad this show wasn’t given a shot at a second season, because I think there was so much more to explore there. (And the potential for more queer characters.) — Valerie 


11. Heartbreak High

Season Two // Netflix
Renewed

Last Season: #15 in 2022.

heartbreak high in the office

Everything Heartbreak High did well in season one is done even better and with more maximalist humor in season two. Every character gets complex and compelling arcs, the ensemble as a whole even stronger in this sophomore season. The humor is in-your-face, and the queer storytelling is varied and anything but mainstream, some characters even electing to create a home together when their given families prove unstable. If you like teen dramas, here’s one that delivers on a lot of levels. — Kayla


10. Fantasmas

Season One // Max
Not yet renewed or cancelled

Ziwe straddles Alexa Demie while both wear customer service headsets.

For years, TV was where I looked to see the most audacious, complex, and entertaining art. That era is over but it seems Julio Torres didn’t get the memo. Fantasmas isn’t just a great show — it’s the kind of great show that feels wholly its own. Torres is one of our best Aquarius artists, someone who is able to translate his unique way of seeing the world into art that feels relatable to anyone struggling through the day-to-day nonsense of modern life. It’s rare that the funniest show of the year and the most beautifully crafted show of the year are the same but Fantasmas showed the comic possibilities of true art. – Drew


9. What We Do In the Shadows

Season Six // Hulu
Final Season

Last Year: Didn’t rank

It’s time at last to say farewell to the horniest and queerest vampire show on television. In its final season, What We Do in the Shadows plays to all its strengths: raunchy and downright disgusting humor, absurdity, and surprisingly emotional character arcs where you least expect them. Harvey Guillén’s Guillermo has steadily become one of my favorite queer characters on television, and he has had a fantastic final chapter. — Kayla


8. Expats

Limited Series // Prime Video

two girls on a subway train laughing in "Expats" on prime video

I understand why a patient series about guilt and grief didn’t catch on with the general public. In fact, I didn’t watch it myself until months after its release. But I’m here to say: It’s worth it. Lulu Wang’s portrait of three foreign women living in Hong Kong is the best kind of limited series. It’s a precise and contained work that’s still given the room to make its characters and its world come alive. Ji-young Yoo, Nicole Kidman, and Sarayu Blue are remarkable and the series as a whole is worthy of their many talents. —Drew


7. Arcane

Season 2 // Netflix
Final Season

Last Season: Didn’t rank

Arcane: Vi rests her head on Caitlyn's shoulder

It’s not often that a show manages to do almost everything right, including its representation of queerness and non-whiteness. Arcane is that rare show. (I say “almost everything” because I have some Notes™ about Ambessa but that’s not why we’re here.) The enemies-to-lovers relationship between Vi and Caitlyn was charged yet playful in that way when you give someone a seemingly pejorative nickname (aka “Cupcake”) that ends up being the thing that makes them blush. Romantic relationships were never the point of Arcane, but they highlighted the very real stakes present among political and class warfare. I never felt like one aspect of the show took away from the other. And, let us not forget the incredibly hot sex scene between CaitVi; everyone say “thank you Fortiche!” —Nic


6. We Are Lady Parts

Season 2 // Peacock
Not yet renewed or cancelled

Last Season: Ranked #17 in 2021.

We Are Lady Parts season two: the core five members of Lady Parts in suits and sunglasses walk down the street with instruments

At the end of We Are Lady Parts‘ first series, the band was getting its first taste of popularity and its trappings. Zarina’s profile of them in Yellow Tongue Magazine earns the group a bevy of new fans along with a swath of outspoken haters. Ultimately, the good outweighs the bad and the girls persist, hustling to make enough money, from gigs and appearances, to finance their demo. With their dreams closer than they’ve ever been, Saira, Amina, Bisma, Ayesha and Momtaz are forced to ask themselves how much they’ll sacrifice to achieve them. How much compromise is too much to get on the stage at Glastonbury?

We Are Lady Parts excels in its second series, in part because we get to spend more time with each of the bandmates. We get to know Ayesha and what it’s like for her to navigate an increasingly expanding world as someone who is, seemingly, out to her fans — who, naturally, think that she’s in a relationship with Saira — while also keeping her sexuality a secret from her family. The resolution isn’t as clean or satisfying as some might like but it feels real and emblematic of what makes We Are Lady Parts great. — Natalie


5. Hazbin Hotel

Season One // Prime Video
Renewed

hazbin hotel group hug

It would have been so easy for an adult cartoon about hell to lean into the whole “homosexuality is a sin” deal Christians are always whining about. But in a show with biblically accurate angels, Lucifer himself, and other Bible-related characters, the sapphic characters aren’t “sinners” at all, and the queer men are there for other crimes they committed, not for being queer. The princess of hell and her fallen angel girlfriend make the most of being in hell, and work together to try to find a way to help their friends ascend – and sing about it along the way. The show is hilarious, emotional, wacky, fun, and jam-packed with incredible voice acting and singing talent. — Valerie 


4. Somebody Somewhere

Season 3 (Finale) // Max
Cancelled

Last Year: Didn’t rank

Sam and Joel power-walking

Over three seasons, this story ostensibly focused on a straight woman (Bridgett Everett’s big-hearted, self-effacing Sam) turned into one of the most touching, authentic and joyful portrayals of queer life ever to grace our television screens, challenging the city-centerism of gay media with characters who find chosen family and love and belonging in Manhattan, Kansas. The heart of the show is my favorite type of love story — the ones that blossom between friends. Sam and Joel don’t date (Joel is gay, and definitely not Sam’s type), but they do fall in love. They are each other’s people, and the sweetness of this bond is contagious. Drag king legend Murray Hill’s performance as agriculture professor and party bus enthusiast Fred Rococo is transcendent. I bravely declined to check this show out for three years, and then binged the entire series in a week. I laughed, I cried, I was wrong to wait so long. If you have, I challenge you to change that today. – Riese


3. Agatha All Along

Season One // Disney+
Not renewed or cancelled

rio and agatha in "agatha all along"

Witches are gay. I don’t make the rules. Despite that “fact”, when Aubrey Plaza talked about Agatha All Along being the gayest MCU project ever, 1) the bar was the floor and 2) I was loath to get my hopes up because of aforementioned #1. I needn’t have worried though because they delivered tenfold in the form of multiple queer main characters and a central romantic relationship between Agatha and Death herself, Rio Vidal. Jac knew what she was doing when she (in her words) deployed Aubrey Plaza. The chemistry between her and Kathryn Hahn was electric from the jump. We felt their history in their gazes, and in their words, and in their touches. But the show wasn’t about to leave anything up to interpretation, so they went all in on naming Agathario as exes and even had Agatha refer to herself as “not straight.” BE STILL MY MCU LOVING HEART! How I’ve dreamed of this! (Now, do Valkyrie, you cowards!! Ahem.) My one and only note for this season was that I wished we could have gotten more of Agatha and Rio’s love story. Perhaps a story to be told in a yet-to-be-announced-but-i’m-hopeful-about season 2?? – Nic


2. Sort Of

Season 3 // Max
Final Season

Last Season: Ranked #7 in 2022.

Bilial in "Sort Of"

“Everything in the galaxy is one thing becoming another thing, and everyone is constantly growing into another version of themselves, into another and another,” Olympia opines in the first season of Sort Of, offering a clear articulation of the world and of this show. “We’re all in transition. It’s the most natural thing in the world.”

The final season of Sort Of captures the entire canvas in that constant state of growth. Sabi grows into a person who can prioritize themselves and their needs. 7ven grows a bit more selfless and learns to make space for others. Sabi’s mother, Raffo, and her sister, Aqsa eschew the norms that have restricted their movements for their entire lives. There’s beauty in the world that Sort Of creates, not just for these individual displays of growth, but also for how those moments inspire those around to keep growing. For each of them, for all of us, transitioning is the most natural thing in the world. — Natalie


1. Hacks

Season 3 // Max
Renewed

Last Season: Ranked #3 in 2022.

Ava and Deborah in "hacks"

The most recent season finale of Hacks is one of the best season finales since Mad Men — and honestly hits some similar beats to those iconic finales. The power plays between Ava and Deborah come to a head, with Ava maneuvering in ways that reveal just how good of a mentor Deborah has been over the years. This season was at its best in the super intimate moments between the central pair, the “lost in the woods” bottle episode a standout in particular. And, of course, we got lots of good gay moments throughout the season, including dommy evil conservative Christina Hendricks. — Kayla

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  1. As someone who binged Evil over the summer, I don’t think I’d recommend it–definitely not as queer woman rep. Yes the main female character is pretty great in a lot of ways and is confirmed as queer in the final season, but that’s basically only explicit in one episode (with a handful of more oblique references). And while I thought the first season had some visuals and ambiguity, by the final season I was only watching because I had come to care about the dynamic between the three main characters (and because I find Mike Coulter absurdly hot).

    I was a little disappointed with how the show’s initial ambiguity shifted to very literal representations of demons getting stabbed for laughs by a feisty nun. But what really killed it for me was the ways in which all of the characters embraced the idea that the vast majority of humanity are inherently awful. (That and the fact that the evil cabal of demons were awfully aligned with a lot of antisemitic tropes combined with a weird lack of Jewish representation on a show about faith and agnosticism set in NYC…and the show’s engagement with “science” in the final season was…rough.)

    • I loved Evil. One of my fav shows. I hope it gets picked up somewhere else. So much more story to tell. Plus Kristen is totally my type.

  2. Ya’ll need to tap into shows from Thailand. So lesbian and queer friendly. Moreso than here in the states. Try watching ‘Tomorrow + I’ to start!

  3. I know it is older, and of course it was removed from streaming, but did you guys ever notice Little Demon with that mermaid love episode?

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Meet the Instagram and TikTok Sensation Creating Gender-Affirming Haircuts

It’s not always easy to find a gender-affirming haircut, but it’s easier now than it was 14 years ago. Back in 2010, when M Arida wanted to find a queer barber, they wondered what a queer barber shop would even look like. What if they could get a haircut without having to code switch? What if instead of talking about football they could talk about the issues that actually interested them? They knew they couldn’t be the only person who felt that way.

In 2017, Arida decided to change careers and went to barber school. Now, with successful TikTok and Instagram accounts, Arida provides gender-affirming, masculine-of-center haircuts to people at their Providence, Rhode Island studio and continues to build their queer barber shop utopia. They took to social media in the first place to make sure more queer people in New England knew about what they do, they didn’t expect the reach to go so far. After finding Arida on social media, people have traveled from as far as Ohio specifically for an Arida haircut, while others have made a point to visit while passing through from places like Korea and Australia. Bookings are available on Arida’s website.

Many people coming to Arida seek a change, whether it’s related to appearance, identity, health, emotions, or all of the above. And Arida understands their clients’ experiences because they’ve had the same ones. Arida had short hair all their life, but they’ve often thought about what it would have been like to have a gender-affirming barber during their own transition. Now they get to be that barber for someone else.

I spoke to M Arida about gender-affirming haircuts as self-care and power, the importance of having agency over self-presentation, and more.


Elyssa: How are you bringing your idea of a queer barber shop life in your new shop?

M Arida: It’s getting there. I was cutting in a barber shop in Boston previously. Now it’s just me and I cut in a little private spot I rent in Providence, Rhode Island from this community pottery studio, which is a very queer place. The owner is queer, most of the people there are queer. I’ve been here for like six months, and it’s a really great feeling place. Existing here has been great for creating the type of environment I want. My regular clients definitely feel better here. It’s always a work in progress, but I feel like I’m making improvements. When I started using social media to promote my work in Boston, I was busy enough–my clients were probably 50/50, queer and not queer. I wanted more of a push in that [queer] direction. I wanted to give my business a kickstart. I also knew there were more people out there who wanted this service in this area. l wasn’t even thinking beyond the Boston area at the time. Some people love to get a 15 minute haircut, and they’re fine with that, but I wanted to let people know I was doing something different. I especially wanted to invite queer and trans people in and help them feel good about themselves. I feel like that’s important. We don’t have a lot of that.

Elyssa: How did you decide to specialize in gender-affirming haircuts?

M Arida: When I first had this idea, I was identifying and presenting as a butch lesbian. I’d never really run up against anyone saying, “I’m not gonna cut your hair,” or “are you sure you want to go this short?” which I know a lot of people deal with. My initial thought was, at salons in big cities you’re not gonna have too hard a time finding a queer-friendly salon. People who want that more traditional, femme-looking cut will for the most part be okay. Those places exist. But queer-friendly barber shops? Not that they didn’t exist, but I’d never heard of such a thing at the time. I’m a barber, so those are the kinds of haircuts I do. And people who lean more masc of center, if you will–and obviously, all this language is very arbitrary, but just for the purposes of being clear, this is the language that I’m using–I put myself in that category, and we don’t really have a place to go that doesn’t feel at least a little bit uncomfortable. That was the idea from the jump, and it evolved since then. I wanted to do gender-affirming cuts for more masc presenting people and that still is the majority of what I do. Sometimes people will message me and they’ll say I’m trans femme, or I’m a cis woman, and I want to keep my long layers, I tend to direct them elsewhere, just because I don’t think I’m the best person for that job. Maybe someday it’d be cool to branch out more. Hair is important, especially for trans people or gender-variant people, gender nonconforming people. That’s a really big way to feel good about the way you look and the way you present yourself. I’m really happy I get to provide that for people because it’s really important to me, and I know I’m not the only one.

Elyssa: How do you see the relationship between hair and self-care unfold with people who come to see you? I’m thinking as much of the person who came in while undergoing cancer treatment as the person seeking a gender-affirming haircut and another making a big chop for the first time.

M Arida: Not for everybody, but a lot of the time, I think part of taking care of yourself is feeling good about the way you look. It’s the same reason people get a haircut after a breakup: it feels good. It’s a reclamation of yourself. Especially for some queer and trans people, it can be a way we’re recognized in the world. That guy going through cancer treatment, he wasn’t feeling good about himself. He’s physically ill. But his wife messaged me a few days later, thanked me, and let me know how important it was for him. It’s sort of cheesy, but when you feel good, you look good. It isn’t obviously always true, but at least in my line of work, I’ve noticed it really does make a difference. For me, when I get a haircut, I feel great. I definitely think it’s self-care. A lot of people, trans, queer, straight, cis, a good haircut is affirming. It’s affirming for everybody. Feeling affirmed in who you are is very good for you and I think that’s a huge part of self care, personally, especially for queer and trans people who maybe haven’t always felt they have agency over or they have anxiety about presenting the way they want to in the world for obvious reasons. Taking ownership of their appearance, and being like, no, fuck that, I’m gonna do it anyway, that also feels really good. When I come in, I need to show up for these people, because they are expecting a lot from me, and I expect a lot from myself. I want to make sure I give them not just a good haircut, but a good experience being there.

Elyssa: Have there been any differences in the way you view your work after the results of the election?

M Arida: When I look at it objectively, I can be like, yes, this is an important service being provided. When I look at it as me providing the service, I get shy. But at the risk of sounding arrogant, I think it’s more important now, or is about to be more important now, than ever. I was cutting when Trump was president the first time. But fuck him and everything he stands for, everybody he surrounds himself with. I want to get all my queer and trans people feeling as good as they can and very proudly be able to present themselves in defiance of all of that shit, to present themselves as they want to. I also think it’s good for people to have a place to come and talk about it if they want. I’m just gonna keep doing what I do.

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  1. Damn, thank you for this! I’ve been watching the videos but it was fun to get all this context and background info. <3

    • Oh, and I can definitely confirm going to a barber shop always feels a little bit uncomfortable even when they’re welcoming, as someone who has also had negative experiences. And can also confirm it feels amazing when they get it right and you get to look the way you want to. 🔥

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No Filter: Celesbians Were Really Partying It Up at Sarah Paulson’s 50th Birthday Party

feature image photo of Sarah Paulson at her 50th birthday party via Jessica Betts’ Instagram

Hello and welcome back to No Filter! This is the place where I let you in on all the various happenings on queer celebrity Instagram. Let’s rock n roll, shall we?


Sarah Paulson’s 50th birthday was THE PLACE TO BE! This is just the beginning!


Of course the Betts were there!!


And a Sandra Bullock lurking in that slideshow??


Cynthia singing along to “Like A Prayer” and dancing??


My actual favorite thing though, is Holland’s content, it looks like she took it from stories and I think that is perfect work!


This was one hell of a party, lemme say that!!!


Tig was not in attendance but made up for it with this specifically requested collage of herself in her Star Trek space suit (sound UP on this one).


In other news, long haired Cynthia made me feel dysphoric somehow??


Should have kept the Twitter copy!! Dykey B for life!


Trace, 2024 was horrible in many ways, but I love to see you hoopin!


Awwww look at lil pre fame Chappell!


These two are in the running for my new favorite couple of all time! Just decided that now!


Ohooo I am a big fan of red on Hayley!


I am weirdly scared to watch this full interview, I just don’t know that I can look at this much earnesty? But if Angie ever looked at me like that….whew it would be a wrap for CT!


Yes this is more Niecy but I couldn’t resist Kathy Hilton, who could blame me?

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45 Christmas Movies With Lesbian, Bisexual, Queer or Trans Characters

Lesbian Christmas movies: the final frontier. In a Christmas Movie landscape dominated by heterosexual workaholic girl-bosses returning to their hometowns in power suits and falling for heterosexual males who do artisan/manual labor, for many years nary a lesbian or bisexual woman, let alone a non-binary person, dared to make an appearance. It’s usually been hard to find any LGBTQ+ Christmas movies at all, but in recent years gay men have been emerging out of the corners into the Christmas spotlight in droves and also, occasionally, a wee lesbian, queer or trans woman or a non-binary person has earned a few minutes under the mistletoe. In 2020, Clea Duvall’s Happiest Season starring Kristen Stewart broke records for Hulu, and subsequent years have even brought some queer stories from Lifetime (Under the Christmas Tree, 2021) and Hallmark (Friends & Family Christmas, 2023). Although we’ve rarely found ourselves in the mainstream Christmas movie spotlight, we have shown up as side characters and in indie films here and there, and in this genre it seems we’ll take what we can get!

This list is in chronological order and includes every Christmas and Hanukkah film with LGBTQ+ women and/or non-binary characters, even if they are mediocre — and the vast majority of the cinema films on this list could be described as somewhere on the continuum from “bad” to “mediocre.” Even minor queer characters are included because yes we are that desperate. It does not include short films that are under 30 minutes, but there are three films that hover in that space between “short” and “feature length.”


The Holiday Junkie

dir. Jennifer Love Hewitt, 2024 // lifetime tv movie

jennifer love hewitt and her gay bestie

Jennifer Love Hewitt is Andie, who runs a holiday decorating and planning service with her mother. After her mother’s death she has to carry the torch herself while doing her first Christmas without her mother. Andie’s best friend is a lesbian and also Kristin Chenoweth is in the movie.

Stream “The Holiday Junkie” on Lifetime.


Leah’s Perfect Gift

dir. Peter Benson, 2024 // hallmark tv movie

three pals looking up at the house

This Christmukkah surprise finds Leah (Emily Arlook, who you may recognize from Grown-Ish), who is Jewish, spending her first Christmas with her boyfriend’s family in Connecticut. A longtime fan of the holiday, her excitement to celebrate it is dampened by Grahama’s uptight family and unwelcoming Mom, delivering a Christmas that wasn’t quite what she’d hoped for. Sidney Quesnelle plays her boyfriend’s gay sister, Maddie.

Leah’s Perfect Gift aired on Hallmark, and allegedly will be available to stream on Prime Video’s Hallmark Now channel on December 20.


You Are Not Me

dir. Maria Crespo & Moises Romera, 2024

one woman looks despondent and the other is happy

Aitana returns home to see her family for the first time in three years, excited for them to meet her wife and their new baby — only to find her family, in their Spanish countryside villa, have moved a Romanian refugee, Nadia, into Atiana’s bedroom, giving her Atiana’s clothes and family heirlooms. “A twisty thriller that locates the uncanny in the reflexive cordiality of the holiday season,” You are Not Me promises “a dark and disturbing dispatch from the most irrational realm: family.”

Rent You Are Not Me on YouTube.


Last Exmas

dir. Sarah Rotella, 2024 

two girls face to face behind the christmas lights

This Christmas rom-com follows Maggie and Julianne, ex-girlfriends who traversed very different paths after a bitter breakup and now find themselves both home for the holidays and reunited. The town comes complete with enthusiastic meddling gossips, hijinks, holiday magic, a cute diner and ghosts of exes past. Diva Magazine calls it “refreshingly laid-back, filled with joy, authenticity and relatable moments.”

Rent Last Exmas on Google Play or stream it for free on Kanopy.


A 90s Christmas

dir. Marni Banack, 2024 // hallmark tv movie

A group of happy christmas people

The lesbian character is blurry in the back, you can see her multi-colored hair. Unfortunately this is the only image of her I have at my disposal at this time (©2024 Hallmark)

Queer actor Katherine Barrell (Wynonna Earp) co-stars in this time travel Hallmark Christmas movie where a workaholic divorce lawyer (Eva Bourne), destined to spend Christmas alone, is catapulted back to 1999 with the help of her magical Uber driver (aforementioned Kat Barrell), where she realizes all she gave up to focus on her ambitious career! Her sister, Alexa (Alex Hook), is a lesbian.

After its Hallmark debut on November 29, the film was available to stream on Peacock, but it has since evaporated. In the meantime it’s allegedly available on Fubu.


(This is Not) A Christmas Movie

dir. Micheal Middelkoop, 2024  // viaplay 

a family at Christmas

This Dutch black comedy finds a large family “in yet another Christmas dinner full of misunderstandings, accusations, bickering and maybe even in the escalating hostage of an attention-seeking adolescent son.” The family includes middle child Jos, 28, who “changes the world around with her tolerance and open mindedness – until her girlfriend wants to have a threesome.”

Stream (this is not) a chritstmas movie on viaplay


The Holiday Club

dir. Alexandra Swarens, 2024 // tello movie

two girls leaning on a couch

Bailey (Alexandra Swarens) and Sam (Mak Shealy) meet unexpectedly on a lonely Valentine’s Day in their small Ohio town when Bailey makes an erroneous delivery for a cancelled Galentine’s Party to Sam’s apartment, where she works as a computer programmer. She’s lonely, and they bond over pastries and strike up a holiday-related friendship that has the potential for something more. (This is being marketed as a Christmas movie but Christmas is given equal bidding to a bunch of other holidays too!)

Rent The Holiday Club on Tello.


Mixed Christmas

dir. B.Danielle Watkins & Onyx Keesha, 2024 // tubi original

two women dressed in christmas hats

A group of lesbian and gay friends head to Miami for a destination Christmas — only to find that their AirBnB double-booked their rental, and they’ll be sharing their holiday with complete strangers. On their instagram, B.Ok Productions describes the film as “double booked and double the drama, this isn’t your typical snowy Christmas—it’s a Miami getaway filled with sun-soaked secrets, rekindled romances, and holiday magic like never before!”

Stream “Mixed Christmas” on Tubi.


Friends & Family Christmas

dir. Anne Wheeler, 2023 // hallmark tv movie 

two girls taking a happy selfie

Humberly Gonzalez and Ali Liebert star in the Hallmark Channel’s very first lesbian Christmas movie. In which photographer Dani (Humberly Gonzalez), overwhelmed by Christmas events and a surprise visit from her parents, asks lawyer Amelia (Liebert) to be her fake girlfriend. If you’ve read any lesbian romance novels, then you are well aware that what begins as a pretend relationship always ends with something more!

Stream “Friends and Family Christmas” on Hallmark.


Round and Round

dir. Stacey N. Harding, 2023 // hallmark tv movie

Round and Round - family gathered for Hanukkah

The only Hanukkah movie on this list, Round and Round is a time-loop delight filled with Jewish humor and one very small lesbian character. The protagonist Rachel (played by queer nonbinary actor Vic Michaelis) is forced to relive the seventh night of Hanukkah repeatedly until she gets it right. Her sister, Shoshanna, is gay and pregnant and married to a woman named Bex.

You can rent or stream Round and Round on Hallmark+


Exmas

dir. Jonah Fiengold, 2023 // prime video tv movie

Mindy, Ali and Elliot yelling from the sidelines

After their son, Graham (some man) cancels his plans to come home for Christmas, the Stroop family goes ahead and invites his ex Ali (Leighton Meester) to their Minnesota family Christmas celebration. Then, of course, Graham shows up after all and all hell breaks loose! More importantly, Graham’s sister Mindy is the best character in the film because she is a lesbian. Unfortunately she is not the main character.

Stream Exmas on Prime Video / Freevee or on Kanopy


A Holiday I Do

dir. Paul and Alicia Schnieder, 2023 // tello movie

two women lean toward each other as if about to kiss

Our friends at lesbian film/TV company Tello debuted this film which answers the question “what happens when a single mom and a country girl fall for her ex-husband’s beautiful and sophisticated wedding planner?” The answer is; “she’ll need some Christmas magic to fix the chaos that ensues.” Drew got high and watched this movie for you and had a pretty nice time. There are a lot of horses and Rivkah Reyes is hot.

Stream Holiday I Do on tello..


It’s a Wonderful Knife

dir. Tyler MacIntyre, 2023 

two girls looking at each other wistfully on a witner's night

This “queer Christmas slasher” with loads of LGBTQ+ characters, including a Cool Lesbian Aunt played by scream queen Katharine Isabelle, centers on Winnie (Jane Widdop, Yellowjackets), who saves her town from a psychotic killer on Christmas Eve only to be depressed and suicidal a year later. Then she is drawn into a parallel universe where she learns that without her, things would suck a lot more, and also now the killer is back and she’s gotta team up with the (queer) town misfit Bernie (Jess McLeod) to ID him and get back to real life. According to Kayla, the film contains “a queer love story that’s stocking stuffer candy sweet if not as developed or sharp as I tend to prefer my queer relationships on-screen.”

Stream It’s a Wonderful Knife is streaming on amc+.


The Christmas Clapback

dir. Robin Givens, 2022 // BET+ tv movie 

Two hot Black lesbians inside a fancy house: one in a santa dress with a santa hat and long hair, the other in a tight blue patterned dress

It’s the Miles sisters’ first Christmas without their mother, which means they’ve gotta win their town’s annual Christmas Church Cook-Off in her honor — but when social media influencer Aaliyah (Kara Royster) moves in next door, she poses a formidable challenge to the Miles’ crown. She also develops a romantic spark with Tisha (Porscha Coleman), a single mother of a college-age son who’s been out of the dating game for a minute, and their story is actually really cute!

Stream The Christmas Clapback on BET+ or Pluto.


Merry & Gay

dir. Christin Baker, 2022 // tello tv movie

Becca and Sam, two happy lesbians

photo by Josiah Clark

Becca Winters (Dia Frampton) has just finished her starring run in a popular Broadway musical and is heading home for the holidays, where her meddling mother TIlly (Hayat Nesheiwat) and her best friend Lucille (Janet Ivy) are planning more than just Christmas dinner: they wanna reignite the high school romance between Lucille’s non-binary kid Sam (Andi René Christensen) and Becca. Sam is bartending at their family’s bar, Sheridan’s, and is initially wary of the girl who hurt them three years ago. But it doesn’t take much to warm her right back up!

Rent Merry and Gay on tello.


Something From Tiffany’s

dir. Daryl Wein, 2022 // prime video tv movie

Sophia and Terri, a Black lesbian couple, being cute at the bakery

This Christmas rom-com starring queer actress Shay Mitchell and the beloved Zoey Deutch asks the age-old question, “what if two men were at Tiffany’s at the same time and their packages got mixed up and the wrong man went home with an engagement ring?” Most importantly for our purposes here, Zoey Deutch’s Rachel owns a bakery with her best friend, Terri, a lesbian played by Twenties‘ Jojo T. Gibbs. We also are gifted with a few brief glimpses into Terri’s marriage with Sophia (Batwoman‘s Javica Leslie) and well, honestly, the movie is pretty okay!

Stream Something from Tiffany’s on Prime Video.


Looking for Her

Dir. Alexandra Swarens, 2022 

Two white women and one of their mothers decorating a Christmas tree

Taylor’s taken a lot of space from her family so she’s quite surprised when they insist she come home for Christmas and bring her girlfriend, Jess — but Taylor can’t muster up the courage to tell them that she and Jess broke up. Instead, she hires an out-of-work actor to pose as her girlfriend and join her for an extended improv exercise with her family. Sort of like The Proposal but low-budget and gay and the family has a much smaller house.

Stream “Looking For Her” on Tubi.


Under the Christmas Tree

dir. Lisa Rose Snow, 2021 // lifetime tv movie

the two stars of "underneath the christmas tree" look at each other affectionately

Under the Christmas Tree is famously Lifetime’s first-ever lesbian Christmas movie! Elise Bauman is marketing whiz Alma Beltran, who crosses paths with a Christmas Tree Salesperson (?) Charlie while on the hunt for the prefect tree for the Maine Governor’s Holiday Celebration right in Alma’s backyard. What begins with sparring leads to sparking and romance with the help of Ricki Lake, the town’s pâtissière extraordinaire, who is an inspirational figure to all.

Stream Under the Christmas Tree is on Hulu.


Coyote Creek Christmas

dir. David I. Strasser, 2021 // hallmark tv movie

two lesbians and a guitar

Janel Parish of Pretty Little Liars fame plays event planner Paige in this clunky cookie cutter film. Paige returns home to throw an Around the World party at her family’s inn — and while she’s home she meets “a charming father-son duo” “whose presence brings about tension and joy.” You know the cliche! But also — there are is a cute side lesbian storyline between a Paige’s lesbian assistant and local musician, Mia.

Stream a Coyote Creek Christmas on VOD.


Picture Perfect Holiday

dir. J.E. Logan, 2021 // lifetime tv movie

lesbian couple posing on a Christmas bridge

Fashion photographer Gaby Jones (Tatyana Ali)’s shot at her dream magazine job is in doubt when her editor suggests she’s not ready for the position — but she could mayhaps improve her chances by attending a Christmas Photography Retreat in a Cute Christmasy Town in the Forest. A little snafu at the cabin reservation desk leads her to have an unexpected hot photographer roommate. This is all very cute and well and good but the unexpected situation of interest to us here is that her lesbian photographer friend from NYU, Dani (played by Paula Andrea Placido of The L Word: Generation Q and Hacks), is also at the retreat with her partner, Amelia (Rivkah Reyes), and both lesbians are trying to plan the perfect proposal.  While they’re not the central focus of the film, Dani and Amelia get a surprisingly significant amount of screentime!

Stream Picture Perfect Holiday on Lifetime.


Christmas is Cancelled

dir. Prarthana Mohan, 2021 // prime video tv movie

Three Christmas guests on the sofa

Emma (Hayley Orrantia) and her Dad (Dermot Mulroney) have lots of beloved Christmas traditions that improve their holiday disposition despite the absence of her mother. But this year she’s in for a nasty surprise: her Dad is dating her high school nemesis, Mona from Pretty Little Liars! Luckily she has a queer BFF, Charlyne (played by non-binary actor Emilie Modaff) to help ease the pain of this terrifying blow.

Stream Christmas is Cancelled on Prime Video.


An Unexpected Christmas 

dir. Michael Robinson, 2021 // hallmark tv movie

the unexpected lesbian of Unexpected Christmas!

Jamie brings his pal Emily home for the holidays to pretend like they are legitimately dating which is fine or whatever, what’s more important is that Jamies’ sister, Becca (Alison Wandzura), is a divorced lesbian and single Mom, thus putting the “lesbian” into this Christmas movie. “She’s able to halt Jamie’s incessant whining with her wry verbal smackdowns!” writes Heather Hogan. “She’s got her own subplot and is more than just a sounding board for the main characters! And she has one scene with Jamie that actually made me laugh out loud for real!”

Stream An Unexpected Christmas on VOD.


Christmas at the Ranch

dir. Christin Baker, 2021 // tello movie

Haley and Kate accidentally falling into each other's arms on the hayride

Heather writes that Christmas at the Ranch is a “horse girl holigay rom-com that feels like fan fiction in the way all the best Hallmark Christmas movies do.” In this actual lesbian Christmas movie, workaholic Haley (Laur Allen) goes home for Christmas, finds out her Meemaw is in debt and also meets the new horse-hand, Kate (Amanda Righetti). Between Haley’s money smarts and Kate’s horsey skills, perhaps this ranch can be saved and also lesbian love.  

Stream Christmas at the Ranch on Tubi or rent on tello.


You Make It Feel Like Christmas

dir. Lisa France, 2021 // lifetime tv movie

Lesbian characters at a party in "You Make it Feel LIke Christmas"

Emma (Mary Antonini) and her BFF Liz (Nadine Pinette) own an “artisanal Christmas ornament store” and when a big-time design guru (???!) falls for Emma’s art, she’s gotta cancel her trip home for Christmas. This is a big bummer for her Dad ’cause Mom died literally last year and he is sad and lonely. Emma’s ex, Aaron, is home from Army visiting with Emma’s Dad and when he finds out Emma’s not coming home, he grabs his cousin Sarah (Solange Sookram) and heads into the city to bring her back! This is relevant to you because aforementioned Liz has a thrilling romantic spark with recently mentioned Sarah, who of course runs a soup kitchen.

Stream You Make It Feel Like Christmas on Lifetime.


Every Time a Bell Rings

dir. Maclain Nelson, 2021 // hallmark tv movie

"Every TIme a Bell Rings" still of the cast

Three estranged sisters come together in their Mississippi hometown to see their Mom and fulfill their father’s dying wish: a Christmas scavenger hunt to find a prized family heirloom. AND IN THE PROCESS THEY ALSO FIND EACH OTHER. Queer actress Ali Liebert plays the lesbian sister, who is making a website for her family woodshop following the closure of her own business in Boston. She meets a girl and they flirt throughout the film, which honestly is terrible but YMMV!

Stream Every Time a Bell Rings on Hallmark+.


Silent Night

dir. Camille Griffin, 2021 

all the characters of "Silent Night" posing for a picture

This “ambitious but muddled mix of Christmas comedy and apocalyptic drama” centers on a family in a posh English country estate who’ve gathered for the hoilday as a giant toxic cloud sweeps across our wretched neglected planet with the intent of killing everybody! Amongst these humans are Bella (Lucy Punch) and her girlfriend Alex (Kirby Howell-Baptiste). Queer actress Lily-Rose Depp is also featured as the much younger girlfriend of a doctor who is friends with the family.

Stream Silent Night on AMC+


The Magical Christmas Tree

dir. Scott Hillman, 2021

two non-binary elves kissing on a poster for the magical christmas tree

Picture this: you’re a park ranger and a young person in a suit arrives in your parking lot carrying an axe. You approach them. What is your first question? If you said “what are your pronouns?” you’d be correct!!! This is one of many magical moments in low-budget indie flick The Magical Christmas Tree. (The second question is “I’m wondering what you’re doing with that axe,” obviously.) Pace is an accountant in Los Angeles with a mean boss who is visited off-screen by the ghosts of Christmas past and decides to throw a holiday celebration after all, thus requiring Pace to drive into the mountains to find the perfect tee. As their journey progresses, they find a non-binary elf named Buddy and romance ensues!

Stream The Magical Christmas Tree on Tubi.


O Night Divine

dir. Luca Guadagnino, 2021 

Two fancy women holding each other's faces like they're about to kiss

This tight, atmospheric and precise Christmas indie (it’s about an hour long) from Call Me By Your Name’s Luca Guadagnino stars John C. Reilly as a Santa Claus-ish character resting for a night at a fancy ski resort where a few interconnecting stories are at play. One of them involves the hotel’s overseer, Babette (Hailey Gates) and her apparently tortured romance with her ex-girlfriend, Julia (Francesca Figus), who works at a hotel boutique.

Stream O Night Divine on Zara’s YouTube channel.


The Happiest Season

dir. Clea Duvall, 2020 // top 10 best lesbian christmas movie

A still from Happiest Season with Mackenzie Davis' arm around Kristen Stewart with her family in front of the Christmas tree

The pitch for this film seemed fantastical from the outset — Kristen Stewart was starring in a lesbian Christmas rom-com made by Clea Duvall? REALLY?!?! Indeed, at the end of a year full of broken dreams (2020), Hulu brought Happiest Season to us all in December. Stewart plays Abby, who gives in to the Christmas spirit she usually resists by heading home to spend the holidays with her girlfriend Harper (Mackenzie Davis), who informs her en route that she’s not exactly out to her family. The winning cast includes Dan Levy as Abby’s best friend, Aubrey Plaza as Harper’s ex-girlfriend and Alison Brie as Harper’s uptight sister.

Stream The Happiest Season on Hulu.


A New York Christmas Wedding 

dir. Otoja Abit, 2020 

A New York Christmas Wedding, star in a sweater by the tree

This wacky trip of a lesbian Christmas movie sees Jenny (Nia Fairweather), nervous about her engagement to her fiancé, David, when a guardian angel Azraael (Cooper Koch) shows up to give her a vision into the future she could’ve lived but did not — in which she ended up with her childhood best friend, Gabrielle (Adriana DeMeo). “Instead of some far-off Snow White Christmas Village, it’s an queer Afro-Latina looking for love in a very not whitewashed New York,” wrote Carmen in her review.

Stream A New York Christmas Wedding on Tubi and Freevee.


Christmas With the Darlings

dir. Catherine Cyran, 2020 // hallmark tv movie

Christmas With the Darlings

The lesbian isn’t in this picture but I don’t have a picture of the lesbian so here we are

Jessica (Katrina Law), finds herself in co-charge of orchestrating a perfect New England Christmas for the recently orphaned nieces and nephew of her CEO, who’s away on business and otherwise would be shipping the kiddos back to boarding school. Her help in this mission is Max, the kids’ other uncle, who is not very paternal. Most important to all of us here today is that Jessica’s BFF, Zoe (Morgana Wyllie), is a lesbian, and she has herself a little romantic subplot with a HOT BARISTA.

Stream Christmas With the Darlings on Hallmark.


The Christmas Lottery 

dir. Tamika Miller, 2020 // BET tv movie

Still from The Christmas Lottery of two girls kissing

“After being estranged for nearly three years, the Davenport sisters — Diedre (Asia’h Epperson), Tammy (Candiace Dillard) and Nicole (Brave Williams) — reunite at the family home, just in time for Christmas. But it’s not the holiday spirit that brings everyone home, it’s the promise of collecting a share of their parents’ lottery winnings…which they can only get if they repair the relationships between them. That’s easier said than done, though: Diedre carries some serious emotional scars over having sacrificed so much for sisters when they couldn’t even be bothered to attend her wedding to her wife, Belinda. But all the work on repairing their relationships might be for naught when the winning lottery ticket turns up missing.” — Natalie. 

Stream The Christmas Lottery on BET.


Last Christmas 

dir. Paul Feig, 2019

Lesbian in a peacoat talking to a girl in an elf costume

The lesbian character in Last Christmas is so incredibly minor that if you only half-watched this movie, you could miss her entirely! Directed by Paul Feig (The Office, Bridesmaids), Last Christmas is the story of aspiring singer Kate Andrich (Emilia Clarke), who works at a year-round Christmas store owned by “Santa” (Michelle Yeoh) in London and feels suffocated by her depressed mother, Petra (Emma Thompson), who dotes on her but ignores her sister, Marta (Lydia Leonard), a very successful lawyer who is gay but fears coming out to her parents. Kate meets a hottie named Tom (Henry Golding) and their romance is central to this movie that is brimming with talented actors and yet none of them can transcend the absolutely absurd plot! Also there are cameos from Patti LuPone and Sue Perkins?

Stream Last Christmas on Max.


Ghosting: The Spirit of Christmas 

dir. Theresa Bennett, 2019 // freeform tv movie

mae and Kara look at each other delightfully while ghost Jess and alive Ben sit at the table

This genuinely adorable Freeform Christmas flick stars Aisha Dee as Jess, who unfortunately dies right after a great first date with Ben (Kendrick Sampson), but then finds herself still hanging out as a ghost! This is great news for her lesbian best friend, Kara (Kimiko Glen) and for Ben — at least at first. It’s a weird little plot that somehow works, but what works best for me personally is the romance between Kara and Ben’s sister, Mae (Jazz Raycole). Plus I mean, it’s Aisha Dee and Kimiko Glen! A treat!

Stream Ghosting:The Spirit of Christmas on Freeform.


Season of Love

dir. Christin Baker, 2019 // tello movie

Season of Love promotional picture with the cast

Another entry in the “intersecting stories” Christmas film genre but this time it’s “intersecting LESBIAN stories.” There’s Sue (Dominique Provost-Chalkley), a musician and Janey (Janelle Marie), her formerly-long distance girlfriend. Kenna (a deaf character played by a deaf actress, Sandra Mae Frank!), who is opening a brewery and Lou (Jessica Clark), a welder she hired for the project. And finally, Iris (Emily Goss) and Mardou (Laur Allen) — Iris is set to marry Mardou’s brother, but he leaves her alone at the altar. “The movie has everything you could want from a cheesy holiday movie,” wrote Valerie in her “Season of Love” review. “Mistletoe mishaps, zero-stakes drama, happily ever afters.”

Rent Season of Love on Tello.


Let it Snow

dir. Luke Snellin, 2019 // netflix tv movie 

cast of "Let it Snow" lying on the snow in a pinweheel

This decent rom-com promises less wholesome activity than your typical Christmas film, weaving together stories from an intersecting group of teenagers in Laurel, Illinois on a very snowy Christmas Eve. One of these little stories involves Dorrie (played by non-binary actor Liv Hewson of “Yellowjackets”), a lesbian who works at Waffle Town and is having a secret affair with a cheerleader. So you know, come for the lesbian, stay for Joan Cusack driving a truck wrapped in tin foil. Let it Snow is streaming on Netflix.


City of Trees 

dir. Alexandra Swarens, 2019

still from City of Trees

Ainsley (Alexandra Swarens), a somewhat aimless twentysomething, returns from Los Angeles to her small hometown for the holidays and finds herself facing some unexpected lingering trauma in this lesbian Christmas movie. Sophie (Olivia Buckle), a popular cheerleader from Ainsley’s high school, has changed since Ainsley last saw her and is even friends with Ainsley’s Mom — but it’s hard for Ainsley to see past the girls they once were. As Sophie and Ainsley keep being in the same place at the same time, a romance begins to spark!

Stream City of Trees on YouTube.


Life Size 2

dir. Steven K. Tsuchida, 2018

Eve doll and Grace standing in front of a christmas tree

Life-Size 2 follows Grace, a twenty-something former socialite at the helm of Marathon Toys, erstwhile manufacturer of Eve Dolls, now that her mother’s been sent to jail. Tyra Banks returns as Grace’s favorite childhood toy Eve, here to usher her through the new slings and arrows of her life. Heather refrained from spoilers in her review because “you deserve to experience the absolute ecstasy of watching Tyra Banks commit to the bananapants wide-eyed wonder of this role again, without being spoiled on all the Easter Eggs.” That said, the queerness of the lead character is very much not central or even center-adjacent to anything that happens in the film but you know we took what we could get in 2018.

Stream Life Size 2 on Fubo.


Anna and the Apocalypse

dir. John McPhail, 2017

Anna and the Apocalypse still

What says “the spirit of Christmas” more than a zombie apocalypse movie musical?? Nothing, that’s what. And that’s exactly what Anna and the Apocalypse is. Starring queer Dickinson actress Ella Hunt, and featuring a prominent lesbian character Steph played by queer actor Sarah Swire, the movie is a bloody romp. While sometimes the big picture metaphor gets a little muddy, it boils down to encouraging you to live in the moment and appreciate what you have because you never know when a deadly pandemic will break out and separate you from the people you love the most. The music is a delight, and Ella Hunt is phenomenally talented, and the movie is campy and fun and may or may not make you cry just a little. Tis the season for watching teens bash zombies over the head with giant candy canes!  — Valerie Anne.

Stream Anna and the Apocalypse on Tubi.


We Need a Little Christmas 

dir. Noble Julz and Onyx Keesha, 2017

Five lesbians having a tense conversation at Christmas dinner

This very low-budget holiday flick (at times it’s hard to hear the dialogue) follows a group of Atlanta-based queer friends who share a cabin for Christmas: Smith and her wife Chris, their children, her best friends Lindsay and Brighton, and her new coworker, Angel. There’s also a lot of Christianity in this film. We Need a Little Christmas is notable for being focused entirely on a group of Black lesbians, which is a rare treat!

Rent We Need a Little Christmas on LesFlicks.


Carol 

dir. Todd Haynes, 2015 

Carol and Therese at the shop counter on Christmas

Have you heard about the movie Carol, it’s about this woman Carol? Played by Cate Blanchett? I believe she has an affectionate “affair” with Therese, who has a stupid boyfriend and wants to be a photographer. Waterloo is involved. So is Sarah Paulson. We have written no less than 63 posts about this film right here on this website!

Stream Carol on Netflix.


Tangerine

dir. Sean Baker, 2015  

Mya Taylor and Kitana Kiki Rodriguez in TANGERINE, a Magnolia Pictures release. Photo courtesy of Magnolia Pictures.

Mya Taylor and Kitana Kiki Rodriguez in TANGERINE, a Magnolia Pictures release. Photo courtesy of Magnolia Pictures.

This is not a lesbian Christmas movie, but it is a Christmas-adjacent movie about two trans women sex workers of color and this queer list felt incomplete without making note of it. Sin-Dee (Kitana Kiki Rodriguez) and Alexandra (Mya Taylor) get out of jail and right back into their chaotic Los Angeles existence on Christmas Eve. Alexandra’s prepping for an upcoming performance and Sin-Dee is prepping to cause a bit of drama regarding her boyfriend, Chester, cheating on her. Naming it the #2 best Christmas movie of all time, Vulture writes that in a list primarily occupied by “prosperous white families,” Tangerine serves as “a corrective to that tradition: “It’s a film as vital, alive, and in touch with the holiday as more traditional entries — an invitation to other filmmakers to redefine what a Christmas movie can be, and as much a story about the importance of human kindness as the one that tops the list.”

Stream Tangerine on Netflix.


Everybody’s Fine

dir. Kirk Jones, 2009

still from "Everybody's Fine"

When Frank Goode’s children all cancel their plans to come home for Christmas, Frank hits the road on his own, planning to visit each of his kids, which will of course entail finding out WHO THEY TRULY ARE. For example Rosie (Drew Barrymore), who picks him up in a limo takes him to her fancy alleged apartment where he meets her “friend” Jill (Kate Moennig)— but it’s all a show! Because also, she’s bisexual! The Christmas element of this film is pretty light, as is the queerness, but it has its moments and it’s always fun to see queer actresses playing queer roles.

Stream Everybody’s Fine on Pluto.


Rent 

dir. Chris Columbus, 2005

cast of rent celebrating new years eve

While not strictly a Christmas movie, the beloved film adaptation of the Broadway musical does open and close on Christmas Eve in a very deliberate way, and it’s chock-full of LGBTQ stories and characters. Set in the Lower East Side in the late ’80s amid the growing HIV/AIDS crisis, lesbian couple Maureen (Idina Menzel) and Joanne (Traci Thoms) and their legendary “Take Me or Leave Me” made this film a notable root for theater kids all over the world. How could a night so frozen be so scalding hot? There’s only one way to find out and that way is “watching this movie” and maybe also listening to the original Broadway cast recording!

Rent “Rent” on Prime Video.


8 Women

dir. François Ozon, 2002 

the women of "* Women" all looking down at the floor

This French dark comedy musical centers a family of eccentric women and their employees after their family patriarch is found dead in the isolated cottage where they’ve chosen to spend a very snowy Christmas. One by one each woman finds her situation under scrutiny. “This movie feels gay and then it gets explicitly gay and then it gets explicitly gayer,” writes Drew Gregory. “By the end it’s unclear if anyone is straight!”


Female Trouble

dir. John Waters, 1974

still of characters on a couch by a Christmas tree in "Female Trouble"

While technically not a lesbian movie or a Christmas movie, this John Waters masterpiece demands inclusion due to its iconic Christmas scene and iconic lesbian characters. Of course, the Christmas scene is Divine’s tantrum about not receiving cha cha heels. And the lesbianism is found most prominently in Edith Massey’s Aunt Ida. “The world of the heterosexual is sick and boring,” she says and truer words have never been committed to screen. Christmas movies are traditionally wholesome so if you’re looking for some queer counterprogramming, look no further than the Pope of Trash himself. Drew Gregory

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    • I wish 8 Women were streaming. I currently only have a VHS copy.

      When I first rented it I did so for Catherine Denouvre. I had no clue it was queer, Netflix made no note that it was a musical. Add in the almost painfully bright colors…the whole experience was beautiful manic and shockingly delightful

  1. My wife and I just mentioned the other day we should watch 8 Femmes again because it’s been a hot decade since we last did. And now I feel old. Lol.

    • Lol. Sméagol is my cats name. Arwen is her brother. 8 Femmes is so great. Love your screen name. Had to respond just for that. 😆

  2. There’s so many gems here that I need to see (or rewatch). I will NEVER get over the Gabison/Gabby’s Son thing in NYCW though lol.

    I also wanna add Tokyo Godfathers, especially the new English dub which has Shakina Nayfack as Hana.

  3. Thank you for this list! I’m hopeful that in the future there will be more stories about queer fat folks, queer disabled folks, and trans love stories. Cheers to progress!

  4. You’ll see a familiar face from “2 In the Bush” in “Christmas is Cancelled” – the always amazing Caito Aase makes an appearance (though seems to be uncredited thus far)!

  5. This list is what I needed. Cannot wait to sit down with some hot chocolate and Amarula, a fuzzy blanket, and as many of these movies as possible.

  6. my best friend has started this thing where we’re gonna watch new lesbian movies because shes mad i didnt get the representation i needed growing up/etc. and under the Christmas tree comes out on my birthday and we’re gonna facetime while we watch and thank you elise bauman for my birthday present :)

    love this list!

  7. After having watched “Under the Christmas Tree,” I cannot WAIT for your review on it/ the forklift thing scene?!?! Y’ALL

  8. my personal sapphic christmas canon includes Hustlers and Mean Girls, so i look forward to adding some actual christmas ones lol!

  9. I’d like to put +1 A New York Christmas Wedding. Listen, the budget may have been a potato and two paper clips, but it has So much heart!!! You can really tell everyone involved put in so much love into that movie! It’s delightful

  10. Recommend “Bell Book and Candle” (1958). A hetero romance film but with just heaps and heaps of gay subtext – witchcraft as a clear analogue for queerness. Also a great cat.

  11. Thank you for mentioning City Of Trees. I thought it was great. I love indie films and love to support indie filmmakers (especially women), so I actually bought this movie on Amazon about a month ago. Well first I rented it and I watched it three times during my rental period. Figured why not buy it? So I did. Cheaper than a movie ticket.

  12. Just watched Looking for Her last night and it was honestly very charming!! I was pleasantly surprised.

    • omg does it???!!! i did watch the trailer and wonder hard, this is important news for me thank you so much

  13. FYI, Last Exmas is available on Kanopy, which is a streaming platform many libraries have free access to!

  14. I am shocked to discover there is at least one person in the comments who liked A New York Christmas Wedding! That film is one of the worst things I have ever seen. Not mediocre, actively fucked up.

    For this reason, it is at least unforgettable.

  15. Round and Round is finally on Hallmark+ today! In other Hallmark lesbian sister news, Leah’s Perfect Gift also has a lesbian sister. Leah (Emily Arlook) is Jewish & excited to have her first Christmas with her bf & his family in CT but he parents turn out to be terrible & the bf doesn’t help (they sorta made me feel like The Happiest Season did). His sister Maddie (Sidney Quesnelle) was the best part of the family. It wasn’t clear if she was out to the terrible parents but that’s not a plot point, just her coming out about starting an artisinal pickle company instead of getting an MBA.

    • oooo thank you for the updates and information!! thank you for being my christmas prince with all the new movie info!

  16. Also: The rest of the 2024 Christmas movies will be added to Hallmark+ tomorrow. Queer & genderfluid actor Katie Findlay starred in this year’s The 5-Year Christmas Party, which was also one of the better movies (I think the only queer content in it is some gay friends).

    Most all of their new content with bigger gay guy storylines is exclusive to Hallmark+ this year: Finding Mr. Christmas (& Ali Liebert is a judge in 1 ep), The Groomsmen movies, Holidazed (warning: Ezra Fitz is also in it), and the Cherry Lane sequels (Ali Liebert directed one). I haven’t finished the latter two yet and am still hoping for some other queer characters.

    • I wish more of the Hallmark+ exclusive content was available in Canada. Holidazed and Finding Mr. Christmas aired on TV here by we haven’t gotten The Groomsmen movies (which I especially want to see) or the Cherry Lane sequels yet and no word on when/if either will be available here. :(

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The 30 Longest Running Broadway Musicals, Ranked by Lesbianism

Thanks to the Wicked movie and its extremely gay cast, theater gays are so up right now. All three current Autostraddle editors are certified theater gays, so we decided to pool our collective knowledge and nerdy ass brains to rank the 30 longest running Broadway musicals by lesbianism using the same extremely scientific method applied to all ranked by lesbianism lists on this website. For the shows we haven’t seen ourselves, we went off of vibes from their Wikipedia pages.


30. Miss Saigon

Drew: One of the worst shows I’ve ever had the misfortune of seeing. Extremely straight, extremely racist.


29. Hamilton

Kayla: Entire show has the same energy as someone who is overwhelmingly straight but claims to be an ally.

Drew: This show doesn’t even have gay guy vibes which is impressive for a musical. Lin Manuel Miranda is admittedly very talented, but I’m not sure any man has ever had bigger straight musical theatre guy energy and that translates to the show itself.


28. The Lion King

Kayla: Feels more gay than lesbian. Maybe because of Elton John?

Riese: Straight.


27. Man of La Mancha

Riese: Kind of about a classic toxic relationship.

Kayla: Don Quixote is pretty queer coded but in a very specifically gay (toxic) bromance way.


26. Jersey Boys

Riese: I feel like this is a musical for Dads. Cis straight Dads specifically. It’s like a little treat for Dad after a day at the MOMA.


25. Aladdin

Kayla: I did a summer musical theater camp as a child where we were going to perform “A Whole New World” and I auditioned for Jasmine and thought I had it in the bag, because even though I am not Arab I figured the white adults who ran the camp would surely cast the only brown girl in the camp as Jasmine, but I probably should have known they would instead cast a white girl and cast the only brown girl who had very short hair as ALADDIN. As a closeted dyke, I suppose it could have gone either way and I could have loved playing Aladdin or hated it. Well, I hated it. I have since learned the Broadway musical took a “color blind” approach to casting, which resulted in a lot of white people being cast instead of giving Arab actors a chance to shine!!!!! Anyway, not a very lesbian show.


24. The Phantom of the Opera

Drew: I’m torn between my intense hatred of this show and the admittedly lesbian vibes of an outsider longing for a pretty girl and living in a performing arts venue.

Kayla: Two girls I went to high school with who secretly dated and who never came out were obsessed with this show, so…gay.

Riese: The grip this show had on the pre-adolescent mind in the late 80s is impossible to overstate. I gotta be honest though this whole show is some epically heterosexual nonsense.


23. The Book of Mormon

Drew: Trey Parker and Matt Stone are far better at songwriting than they are at satire. Opinion about the show’s quality aside, it’s very gay guy and not very lesbian at all.


22. Les Misérables

Drew: Extremely hetero BUT “On My Own” is about pining, and pining is lesbian so that has to count for something.

Riese: Les Mis is a slice of straight culture I can get behind. I have watched that enormous Christian family with 85 babies perform this song on YouTube way too many times. (After writing this, I spent 20 minutes watching One Day More tiktoks, covering the cinema film, rehearsal for said film, several live concert renditions, and random theater kids. It was so exciting.)

Kayla: Lesbians invented misery, so that also has to count for something. (And now I’m gonna go do what Riese did.)


21. Beauty and the Beast

Riese: This is one of those stories that is really sinister in a “dark arts of heterosexuality way” once you grow up and realize what it was all about.


20. The Producers

Kayla: Keep it gay, as they literally say.


19. Hello, Dolly!

(Original Caption) 10/22/1966-New York, NY: Ginger Rogers stepped into the title role of the smash hit Broadway musical "Hello, Dolly!" by Jerry Herman. Here she's back to back with her predecessor Carol Channing.

Ginger Rogers and Carol Channing, who both played Dolly. (Photo by Bettmann / Contributor via Getty Images)

Kayla: A fabulous widow-turned-matchmaker who loves to scheme has to be at least a little bit gay.


18. My Fair Lady

Drew: Not lesbian as much as it’s about an old queen educating the young twink he has a crush on. But I guess that classic gay male dynamic can sometimes happen with women.


17. 42nd Street

Drew: I’ve only seen the movie, not the stage version. But, I mean, it’s showgirls. How straight could it possibly be?


16. A Chorus Line

Drew: “What I Did For Love” has the angsty pining, but it’s “At the Ballet” that pushes this up for me. Escaping from daddy issues AND mommy issues by watching pretty women on a stage? Gay.

Kayla: One of my first vocal teachers was a gay man who was obsessed with A Chorus Line, and he had us singing “What I Did for Love” as 12-year-olds which in retrospect is such a wild choice but I have to respect it. He was always so mean to everyone except me! I like to think he saw my latent queerness. Also one time he came to music class so mad that someone had been rude to him in a grocery store that he spent half of the class on teaching us about grocery store etiquette instead of doing anything related to music. Anyway, idk why I keep sharing personal stories instead of engaging with the actual substance of the show but enjoy these mini essays!


15. Avenue Q

Drew: “There’s a fine, fine line between a lover and a friend” ??? LESBIAN. I mostly think this show I used to love does not hold up at all and ruins its many strengths with its 2000s “edgy” humor. But that song has to still count for something.


14. Kinky Boots

Kayla: We’ve got drag queens, the cabaret, and cunty ass boots. This musical is a high femme dyke. The sex is in the heel indeed.


13. Fiddler on the Roof

Drew: “Matchmaker” gives me comphet vibes and “Do You Love Me?” feels like an ode to lavender marriages. I might be stretching.


12. Mary Poppins

Drew: She flies into town in order to teach a bunch of children to follow society’s rules less strictly. She’s literally the heterosexual nightmare of a queer person.

Kayla: Yeah, Mary Poppins is literally a Lesbian Guide. “Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious” is the ultimate queering of language.


11. Mamma Mia!

Drew: Idk something kind of fruity about making your hetero wedding all about solving your parent issues.

Kayla: Yeah too many daddy issues to not be a little bit lesbian.

Riese: This feels lesbian to me because of how much Kayla has championed the films.


10. Hairspray

John Waters is greeted by the cast of "Hairspray" during a curtain call following the opening performance of the musical at the Neil Simon Theatre. The new Broadway show is based on the 1988 movie which Waters wrote and directed. (Photo by James Keivom/NY Daily News Archive via Getty Images)

John Waters is greeted by the cast of “Hairspray” during a curtain call following the opening performance of the musical at the Neil Simon Theatre. (Photo by James Keivom/NY Daily News Archive via Getty Images)

Riese: I think the casting of Divine in the original film has branded this show as eternally queer for me — but also it’s just so campy, and gays invented camp, so.


9. Beautiful: The Carole King Musical

Kayla: I always have to remind myself Carole King isn’t a lesbian.

Riese: My (lesbian) Mom used to play Carole King every Saturday morning to announce that it was time to get out of bed for breakfast (french toast made with challah) and the album cover in which she does look like a lesbian is seared in my mind!


8. Cats

Drew: Cats? Cats?? Lesbians?? Cats.

Kayla: Cats. Lesbians.


7. Annie

Drew: There are many lesbians who are into mean femmes because of Mrs. Hannigan.

Riese: Have you guys seen the documentary about Annie, like about all the girls who want to be Annie? We all wanted to be Annie. Instead we had to settle for being gay.

Kayla: Being an orphan is queer-coded.


6. Oh! Calcutta!

A Christian group protest against theatrical revue Oh! Calcutta!, in an attempt to have it banned from the stage in London, UK, 1st January 1973. Pictured are June Keeble, Mirja Kivimaki and Wilson Murdoch, holding signs reading 'Put Sin in the Bin!', and 'Real Peace is Jesus' etc. (

A Christian group protest against theatrical revue Oh! Calcutta!, in an attempt to have it banned from the stage in London, UK, 1st January 1973. (Photo by Evening Standard/Hulton Archive/Getty Images)

Kayla: This is one of the shows none of us have seen, as it ran from 1976 to 1989, but it’s an “erotic revue” that sounds absolutely bananas. There was full frontal, and sex and sexuality were the primary themes of the songs and sketches, including explicit references to lesbianism. As depicted above, Christian groups in London literally protested a UK run of the show because of it being too obscene and the obscenity department of the police also got involved, and that earns it a lot of gay points. Cops and Christians hating you? That’s so lesbian.


5. Grease

Riese: I feel like there is no shortage of queer perspectives on Grease on this website, but Grease feels gay to me because I saw Rosie O’Donnell play Rizzo in the 1994 tour and because of Kayla’s obsession with it.

Kayla: Grease is indeed the first feature film I can remember seeing, and even though we are not talking about the film here, the stage musical similarly is very lesbian, because it is about a closeted lesbian and a closeted gay boy attempting to change everything about themselves for each other in order to conform to society’s expectations — AND I WILL DIE ON THE HILL OF THIS READING!!!!!


4. Chicago

Drew: Matron Mama Morton is canonically lesbian and the whole thing is about killing men and being hot. I think the movie ups the lesbian vibes from the stage show but this still has to rank high.

Kayla: It’s very lesbian to kill your husband.

Riese: The first time I saw this performed live was on an R Family cruise (the gay vacation company started by Rosie O’Donnell and her then-wife Kelli, who runs the company now) and I feel like a gay man played Roxie or Velma? Mama Morton, girls in prison, stabbing people, two women battling for the spotlight — this is gay.


3. Wicked

Kristin Chenoweth and Idina Menzel at curtain call (Photo by Bruce Glikas/FilmMagic)

Kristin Chenoweth and Idina Menzel at curtain call opening night of Wicked (Photo by Bruce Glikas/FilmMagic)

Kayla: I mean, I don’t even call it subtext. It’s a lesbian TEXT. Why does Elphaba sing “kiss me goodbye” @ Glinda during “Defying Gravity”????? They’re lesbians, and they’ve always been lesbians. Elphaba and Fiyero has always given lavender marriage.


2. Cabaret

Drew: First of all, it’s the best musical of all time. Second of all, it’s a celebration of the queer subculture that was destroyed by the Nazis. Third of all, “Two Ladies” explicitly has some girl-on-girl action. Fourth of all, Sally Bowles definitely did some experimenting back in the day with her friend Elsie with whom she shared four sordid rooms in Chelsea.

Riese: I also am of the mind that this is the best musical of all time, and on board with everything else Drew said.


1. Rent

Drew: I am not the biggest fan of this musical, but we’re not ranking these by how much we love them. We’re ranking them by lesbianism. And I take that responsibility very seriously. So yeah this is the winner.

Kayla: Objectively the most lesbian. I saw the national tour of it when they came to Richmond and it changed my life lol.

Riese: I am the biggest fan of this musical so I rank it high across all potential systems of ranking. Plus spent two years in arts boarding school singing along to this soundtrack in our dorms, like very formative. Also! At the time I had a Mom named Maureen who had just left her boyfriend Mark and started dating women so

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The Best Queer Books of 2024

It’s that time of year again! Behold, my beloved list of the best queer books of 2024. There are so many damn good queer books being published these days. We are so lucky! I thought I’d share a little bit on my rationale for choosing the five books per category (six for lit fic, since it’s the most competitive). This year especially I’ve striven to put the spotlight on books that haven’t gotten a lot of mainstream attention. For example, I didn’t include The Pairing by Casey McQuiston or All Fours by Miranda July (which I personally loved!) because the latter was nominated for a National Book Award and McQuiston is such a high profile queer romance author that their first book has been made into a movie, with an apparent sequel on the way. Got it? Let’s get into the books!


Comics/Graphic Novels and Memoirs

Firebugs by Nino Bulling

This slice-of-life graphic novel of queer millennial ennui — the English-language debut of German cartoonist Nino Bulling — is a knock-out. It follows 30-year-old queer Berliner, Ingken, trying to figure out where they land in their own transness and navigating a long-term relationship with Lily, also trans. The expressive art that captures equally well huge queer dance parties and Lily and Ingken’s up close faces while having relationship disagreements is done in bold black and white with pops of red. The result is a depiction of queer contemporary Europe that is as life-like as it is affecting.

Portrait of a Body by Julie Delporte

Julie Delporte’s graphic memoir details how her later-in-life coming out as a lesbian and coming into her authentic self allowed her to address and heal from sexual trauma and abuse. In Stef Rubino’s review for Autostraddle, they call Portrait of a Body a “memoir of arrival, of the power we gain by growing into ourselves.” Told in short sections of cursive handwritten text accompanied by watercolor-esque pastel drawings, the story jumps around in time, and the art and words almost never directly speak to each other. The effect, as Rubino writes, is a moving “contrast [that] brings a level of emotional tranquility that helps illuminate the urgency of her story and Delporte’s belief in the possibility of healing from the trauma inflicted on us by others and ourselves.”

My Favorite Thing is Monsters Vol 2 by Emil Ferris

The much-anticipated sequel to My Favorite Thing is Monsters Vol 1, Emil Ferris’s visually and narratively stunning work continues the story of Karen Reyes, baby dyke in 1960s Chicago trying to solve the murder of Anya, her upstairs neighbor and Holocaust survivor. With intricate art done solely in ballpoint pen, Ferris dismantles the false division between high and low art, as she — through Karen whose journal comprises the vehicle for the story — renders with equal dedication the fine art on the walls of the galleries Karen visits and the B-movie horror magazine covers she adores. Queerness as monstrosity and the reclaiming of that are central conceits, but Ferris’s interrogation of grief, memory, sibling relationships, and sex work are just as nuanced and compelling.

Something, Not Nothing by Sarah Leavitt

This visceral and heartbreaking graphic memoir does so much more than nearly all the other work in its medium and does it so differently, it almost doesn’t feel like a comic. But, of course, it is. Something, Not Nothing is a collection of comics Sarah Leavitt made in the two years following the death of her partner of 22 years, Donimo. The formal experimentation and abstract watercolour art pair perfectly with Leavitt’s brutally honest words, simultaneously life-affirming and full of love, while expressing the despair and illogic characteristic of intense grief.

Homebody by Theo Parish

Theo Parish’s warm, uplifting debut YA graphic memoir traces their gender journey. It’s at once an accessible introduction to trans and non-binary identities in general and a moving story of one person’s specific self-exploration and discovery. Parish uses both conventional comics structure and journal entry-style drawings in a playful art style that conveys the book’s gentle and hopeful tone beautifully. Homebody particularly excels in its use of an extended metaphor of the body as a house.

Fantasy

The Weavers of Alamaxa by Hadeer Elsbai

The second book in the Alamaxa duology, The Weavers of Alamaxa continues to build on what made the first installment so successful: a complex friendship between two feminist women. In the final book, Nehal and Giorgina grow not only their magical weaving abilities, but their relationship with each other and their lovers. It’s a joy to watch the two dynamic characters evolve, together and apart. Politically, The Weavers of Alamaxa also shines, in its smart interrogation of collective and personal freedom, democracy, and how all kinds of oppression — and liberation — are linked.

Yoke of Stars by R.B. Lemberg

The transformative powers of story are key to R.B. Lemberg’s latest novella in their wonderfully unqiue Birdverse series. They write: “Each of us is a story translated to a language vastly different from its first.” Built around a dialogue, the book focuses on two characters — an apprentice assassin and a clever linguist — sharing their life stories with one another. It’s a gorgeous mediation on cross-cultural and cross-linguistic communication, told in Lemberg’s signature lyrical prose.

The Lotus Empire by Tasha Suri

Concluding Tasha Suri’s Burning Kingdoms trilogy, The Lotus Empire is full of heart-pounding action as well as hard-won character growth for its three women protagonists, Priya, Malini, and Bhumika. The plotting is as tight as ever and the world-building continues to soar, as Suri integrates intricate South Asian-inspired cultures and histories into the narrative. To top it all off: there’s the gut-wrenching sapphic longing. If you’ve been waiting for this series to end before starting book one, the time is now!

A Pirate’s Life for Tea by Rebecca Thorne

Technically a sequel but very readable on its own, Rebecca Thorne’s second book in the Tomes and Tea series manages to be both cozy and adventurous. A Pirate’s Life for Tea — punny titular humor indicative of the book’s overall tone — is (lesbian) fantasy romance at its finest. When the first book’s adorable couple, Reyna and Kianthe, are out hunting dragon eggs, as one does, they find themselves in the middle of a sapphic pirate love story that they are sure will have a happy ending as long as they do some meddlesome matchmaking. The ensuing story is a delight start to finish.

The Brides of High Hill by Nghi Vo

The fifth installment in Nghi Vo’s Singing Hills Cycle fantasy series (may it never end), this book takes a delicious turn for the gothic. Vo seamlessly weaves into a base of historical fantasy elements of horror and mystery to create an incredibly unique genre-mashup. The central (nonbinary) character, Cleric Chih, is the kind of appealing protagonist you’d follow anywhere, even if that place is a creepy crumbling estate with shades of Bluebeard written all over it. Run, don’t walk, to this series, which can be read in any order!

Historical fiction

The Ballad of Jacquotte Delahaye by Briony Cameron

This page-turning historical adventure traces the rise to power of a mixed race queer woman pirate captain who sailed the Caribbean seas in the mid 1600s — or so the legends say. Told in three action-packed parts, Briony Cameron’s novel is full of compelling prose and characters, including the love interest Teresa, a fascinating character of similar strength, complexity, and intelligence to Jacquotte. The Ballad of Jacquotte Delahaye refuses to sanitize the brutal, violent details of 17th century piracy. The result is an epic tale that forgoes hero worship for a nuanced portrait of a complicated woman surviving in her time and place.

Rough Trade by Katrina Carrasco

Katrina Carrasco’s follow up to 2018’s truly excellent The Best Bad Things can be read as a standalone, but anyone introduced to the enigmatic and charismatic gender fluid bi protagonist Alma Rosales is going to want to read both (you can thank me later). Carrasco takes us back to Washington Territory, 1888, a setting she has recreated so vividly you can smell the gunpowder, the horse shit, and the sweat at the queer night club. Alma’s mystery to solve this time around is the death of two men linked to their opium smuggling operation. Also: their ex-girlfriend and ex-Pinkerton agent is in town! Carrasco’s prose is bold, her characters are rich, and her plotting is intricate. What more could you want?

City of Laughter by Temim Fruchter

As Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya writes in her review for Autostraddle, “story is everything” in City of Laughter. Moving fluidly between timelines and the lives of four generations of Jewish women, the novel’s understanding of history is that it is nothing but story. The contemporary epicenter of the narrative is Shiva, a beautifully realized character desperately grasping for her family’s history, filling in gaps with her queer imagination. KKU concludes: Temim Fruchter’s debut is “an intellectual but still deeply emotional narrative, one that pauses to contemplate but never feels lost in its musings and meanderings.”

Some Strange Music Draws Me In by Griffin Hansbury

An encounter between two trans people in a small Massachusetts town in 1984 is the catalyst for this remarkable story that moves back and forth in time, as the protagonist Max reflects on his past from adulthood in 2019. Characters and their interpersonal dynamics are rendered with care and insight, as are the book’s explorations of queerness. Max asks, “How can you comprehend that which has hardly been imagined? How could I imagine the shape of my own love?” Some Strange Music Draws Me In is a contemplative and deeply moving novel about gender and class.

The Cure for Drowning by Loghan Paylor

Historical novels set during WW2 are, in general, extremely overdone. But Loghan Paylor’s elegantly imagined love story that centres queer and non-binary characters in Southern Ontario during the war proves it’s possible to do something unique. Firmly rooted in the context of the protagonist Kit’s Irish immigrant farming family and as well the love interest Rebekah’s German background, the story beautifully integrates Celtic lore into its war-time realism. Paylor infuses Kit’s trans identity with magic, making a moving tribute to past queer and trans lives.

Horror

Feast While You Can by Mikaella Clements and Onjuli Datta

This wildly unpredictable novel has some elements of horror folk legends, with its historically rich yet vague small town European setting. But its characters — butch-femme couple Angelina and Jagvi — feel distinctly like authentic modern queers. Clements and Datta expertly balance the two women’s compelling romance with a uniquely terrifying monster that reeks of ancient evil as it emerges from the town’s neighboring caves. For more on Feast While You Can and the authors’ experience writing it, read their Autostraddle article, Writing a Lesbian Novel Should Have Been Easier. It Wasn’t.

Cuckoo by Gretchen Felker-Martin

Gretchen Felker-Martin’s follow-up to her acclaimed post-apocalyptic debut, Manhunt, is just as dark and terrifying, with a completely different setting: a 1990s queer conversion camp in the Utah desert. This splatterpunk-lite novel features five queer youth who undergo horrors real and supernatural, thoroughly imagined and realized. The characterization of the group when they are both teens and later as adults is impeccable. Felker-Martin’s prose is visceral and graphic; she does not hold back in any way, but there is also not a complete absence of hope.

Grey Dog by Elliott Gish

With equal parts feminist rage, excruciating sapphic longing, and creepy nature, this novel set in a small farming town on Canada’s East Coast in 1901 is an extremely satisfying slow burn horror. It escalates so smoothly and subtly you don’t realize you’re in too deep to climb out until it’s too late. Elliot Gish expertly tells the story through the protagonist Ada’s diaries, immersing readers heavily in her perspective to eventual horrifying and grisly effect. As Ada’s world deteriorates and the line between reality, delusion, and traumatic memory begins to crumble, it’s hard not to feel like you’re living it too. This is Anne of Green Gables, but make it gay, dark, and gruesome.

Model Home by Rivers Solomon

“Maybe my mother is God, and that’s why nothing I do pleases her”: thus begins Rivers Solomon’s brutal, brilliant, unsettling masterpiece, a haunted house story that upends the horror sub-genre entirely. The story focuses on a wealthy Black family whose children, Ezri and their two sisters, grew up in a McMansion in a white suburb of Dallas. Strange and increasingly terrible inexplicable things happened there, leading up to Ezri’s return as an adult. Childhood sexual trauma, racism, and segregation are the real terrors here though, and Solomon skewers them expertly as they explore the complexities of memory, parenting, and sibling relationships.

Withered by A.G.A Wilmot

From the literally and figuratively explosive prologue to the very end, A.G.A. Wilmot’s debut novel is an engrossing, slow-burn read that delivers on both paranormal and psychological horror. Playing with haunted house story conventions and making them their own, Wilmot compassionately investigates themes of grief, mental illness, and disordered eating. The late teens nonbinary protagonist Ellis is vividly brought to life; the house itself, too, feels as alive and authentic as Ellis. Wilmot writes: “Over years, as a mattress takes on weight from dead skin and oils, so does a house grow dense with memories of all who’ve dwelled within … their fingerprints along surfaces and banisters are musical notes, scattered and unstaffed.”

Literary/Contemporary Fiction

Love the World or Get Killed Trying by Alvina Chamberland

This debut work of autofiction is a “poetic cry of trans loneliness,” as Drew Burnett Gregory puts it in her review on Autostraddle. Equally emotionally resonant, intellectually thrilling, and darkly humorous, Love the World or Get Killed Trying follows a nearly-30-year-old trans woman as she travels through Europe, “visibly trans and femme,” which Drew emphasizes is key to her experiences. Chamberland writes: “I don’t think I’ll ever become a person who believes my words mean anything to anyone other than myself … My greatest solace is that this assessment seems to be incorrect.” Indeed.

Housemates by Emma Copley Eisenberg

As Drew raves in her glowing review on Autostraddle, Housemates is “funny and sexy and smart and well-written. But the truest compliment I can give is that it challenged me and changed me. It’s a book I know I’ll cherish for many years to come.” Similar to Drew’s reading experience, the novel itself is “a love story about meeting someone who changes the way you see the world.” Following two housemates-turned-best-friends on a road trip, Emma Copley Eisenberg’s celebratory yet critical novel examines art, chosen family, friendship, and the beauty and mess of the contemporary US. It’s a tour de force crafted with love, care, and intimate insider knowledge on young queer life in America today.

The Default World by Naomi Kanakia

With biting social commentary as well as occasional generosity, Naomi Kanakia puts left-wing San Francisco tech bro culture under a microscope in her story about a young trans woman Jhanvi who gets swept up in it despite her best efforts. Jhanvi’s slow progression from cynicism and intention to take advantage of these rich white boy idiots to eventual fascination and tenuous acceptance among them is expertly mapped out. The Default Worldis thought-provoking, darkly funny, and relentlessly unflinching in its determination to leave no one — including its underdog heroine — unexamined.

How It Works Out by Myriam Lacroix

Myriam Lacroix’s debut asks the question: what if you could rework and relive your queer relationship in the most outlandish alternate realities, with the hope that, in one world, everything would work out? In Aamina Inayat Khan’s review on Autostraddle, they discuss how the book cleverly blurs the lines between fiction and reality, as well as those between genre and form. They also write: “The prose is brilliant. It’s sophisticated and smart, and at the same time, it melts on the tongue like candy and is quick to digest.”

A Small Apocalypse by Laura Chow Reeve

Laura Chow Reeve’s debut short story collection boldly takes on the contradictions of queer life in Florida. Deftly examining themes of memory, transformation, messy friendship, found family, otherness, hybridity, and the concept of home, A Small Apocalypse does not have a misstep in any of its 14 stories. Whether it’s a gothic tale reimagining Daphne Du Maurier’s Rebecca — but even queerer — or a young woman learning to pickle memories, this book is consistently fresh, weird, and haunting.

Greta & Valdin by Rebecca K. Reilly

Originally published in Aotearoa / New Zealand in 2021 and released this year in North America, Greta & Valdin is a sparkling, delightful debut about two queer neurodivergent siblings and their eccentric Māori-Russian-Catalonian family. Rebecca K. Reilly makes writing a debut novel that is extremely funny, smart, thought-provoking, and touching look effortless. The book’s insights into family, parenting, queerness, and cultural identity are as numerous as they are perceptive. Greta & Valdin is like Schitt’s Creek, but Indigenous, global, and even more gay and weird.

Memoir/Biography

Cactus Country by Zoë Bossiere

You can’t get much higher praise than the discerning Stef Rubino writing that your “memoir is more than a beautifully and thoughtfully written debut. It’s a gift to everyone, to all of us, in between.” Eschewing the conventional understanding of identity as a fixed, stable point at which everyone arrives, Zoë Bossiere traces many selves: a boy kid, a gender fluid adult. Bossiere’s writing about place is equally nuanced and compassionate. Stef commends the “profound sense of place and empathy for the people of this place that Bossiere exhibits in their writing.” Go get this gift of a book for yourself!

Pretty by KB Brookins

Challenging what belongs in a memoir, despite being clearly labelled one in the subtitle, Pretty is a deeply moving book that includes poetry and manifesto-type essays to talk about KB Brookins’s life so far. Discussions of toxic masculinity and gender norms within the Black Christian community are particularly astute and fresh. Brookins is devoted to writing intertextually, situating themselves and their work in relation to icons as diverse as Dionne Brand, Gwendolyn Brooks, NeNe Leakes, and Erykah Badu. It’s a consistently powerful memoir, full of poignant sentences like “I deserve a world where I don’t have to be resilient.”

Survival Is a Promise by Alexis Pauline Gumbs

Alexis Pauline Gumbs’s new biography of Audre Lorde is cause for celebration, particularly, as Lauren Herold writes, “Gumbs shows us how Audre Lorde’s life was and still is in process, ever-evolving as the lives of those she influenced continue to evolve.” Her approach to Lorde and the genre itself are distinctly queer, not following a linear life trajectory but instead structuring the text in 58 — the number of years Lorde lived — poetic chapters focused on a key moment in Lorde’s life. The result is sheer brilliance. Read more about the author’s approach to biography in this interview on Autostraddle.

Mama by Nikkya Hargrove

Nikkya Hargrove’s hard-won story of becoming a mom is remarkable in and of itself, but to have it told in such raw and powerful prose is a gift. Hargrove had recently graduated college when her mother, who had given birth to Hargrove’s half brother months earlier after having been in and out of prison for most of Hargrove’s life, passed away. With fierce determination and compassion, Hargrove investigates the carceral system, substance abuse, intergenerational trauma, queer Black motherhood, poverty, and systemic injustice as she charts her journey through obtaining custody of and then raising her brother Jonathan. Hargrove’s relationship with the woman who becomes her wife, Dinushka, is the book’s beautiful queer and inspirational core.

How To Live Free In A Dangerous World by Shayla Lawson

Subtitled “A Decolonial Memoir,” Shayla Lawson’s travelogue defies genre conventions while still brimming with fascinating details about the far-flung places Lawson has lived and visited, from Zimbabwe to Portugal, Tokyo to Mexico City. In their exquisite prose, Lawson charts a very personal, inward journey alongside external journeys around the globe, as well as sharp reflections on race, gender, and disability. The book is as joyful to read as it is inspirational and thought-provoking, particularly on themes of liberation, love, grief, and (missed) connections.

Mystery/Thriller

Nothing But The Truth by Robyn Gigl

Number four in Robyn Gigl’s Erin McCabe mystery series, Nothing But The Truth is another thrilling installment that tackles systemic racism and how that, alongside organized homophobia, transphobia, and sexism, are embedded in policing. Gigl’s plotting here is extra tight, with a well-earned yet unexpected conclusion. Trans attorney Erin McCabe continues to delight, and the big developments in her personal life — she and her partner Mark are having a baby! — are a joy to watch. It’s especially lovely to see more page time devoted to Erin’s law partner, Duane Swish, in this book.

I Want You More by Swan Huntley

I Want You More is an unhinged, engrossing read about being trapped in a house with a person so domineering and charismatic, you not only fall in love with them, but start becoming them. Such is the situation ghostwriter Zara finds herself in when Jane, a celebrity food personality, invites her to live with her for a summer so they can get to know each other. It’s a perfectly paced thriller, slowly but surely reeling the reader in just as Zara is consumed bit by bit. Read Riese’s interview with Swan Huntley about the book!

The Rivals by Jane Pek

Second in a literary mystery series, the first of which was the acclaimed The Verifiers, The Rivals is an engaging continuation of the beloved protagonist Claudia’s journey, career-wise, romantic, and with her ongoing family drama. Still working for the dating detective agency Veracity, Claudia’s unpredictable puzzle to solve this time is an AI conspiracy backed by evil corporate interests. Pek has such a flair for cheekily evoking the tone of classic spy stories, but she also makes the spy here, Claudia, an authentic and vulnerable young queer Chinese American woman who couldn’t be less like James Bond (and a lot more interesting). Let’s hope we get even more Claudia Lin soon!

Rough Pages by Lev A.C. Rosen

If you’re familiar with my work at Autostraddle, you know I rarely feature books by/about cis gay men, so you might guess the inclusion of Rough Pages by Lev A.C. Rosen — the third book in his historical mystery series set in 1950s San Francisco — on this list is a glowing endorsement in and of itself. This novel succeeds on many levels: as a twisty puzzling mystery evoking classic film noir vibes, as a richly imagined depiction of the queer past and queer community, and as a moving evocation of its central theme: the utter importance of queer people seeing themselves reflected in books.

Rainbow Black by Maggie Thrash

In Maggie Thrash’s engaging adult debut, she takes readers through the protagonist Lacey’s childhood, adolescence, and adulthood, but the 1990s and its “Satanic Panic” is the time period that anchors the plot as it upends Lacey’s world at 13. Thrash’s characterization is on point; as Sa’iyda Shabazz writes in her review for Autostraddle: “[c]reating characters like Lacey is what Thrash does best. She takes a character who seems unremarkable and throws them into the deep end.” Rainbow Black is a riveting blend of thriller, murder mystery, and psychological drama that always comes back to the decidedly remarkable Lacey.

Nonfiction

Dinner on Monster Island by Tania De Rozario

Tania De Rozario’s excellent debut is an essential investigation into growing up as a queer person in Singapore, as well as a master class in how to write essays that blend personal narrative and film/TV analysis. Drawing parallels between horror media like The Shining and The Walking Dead and her life, De Rozario succeeds in creating both intellectually engaging critique and emotionally moving first-person storytelling. Essays that describe her complex relationship with her mother and her indictment of the intense homophobia she experienced from her and Singaporean society are special standouts.

Vantage Points by Chase Joynt

Vantage Points could just as easily be sitting in the memoir section of this list, and that’s the point. Taking the concept of memoir, along with its typical practices like digging in the family archive after his father’s death, as a starting point only, Chase Joynt has created a truly unique text of “media as trans memoir.” He presents his personal narratives only within the context of other sources, media, and stories, such as the writing of well-known Canadian media theorist Marshall McLuhan with whom Joynt discovers he has a previously unknown connection. The result is a book that brazenly flouts conventions of both genre and form. It’s a bold experiment that is as visual as it is textual, as intellectually challenging as it is artistically triumphant.

The Call Is Coming From Inside the House by Allyson McOuat

In my review for Autostraddle, I raved about how The Call Is Coming From Inside the House “is a dream for any reader looking for queer feminist essays that will intellectually thrill you, scare you, and make you laugh.” Effortlessly moving from personal narrative to (pop) culture criticism throughout each essay, Allyson McOuat touches on themes of motherhood, pregnancy, queer / bisexual identity, anxiety, true crime, and horror movies and fiction to truly revelatory effect. McOuat’s feminist insights are reminiscent of Melissa Febos and her horror film analysis is on par with Carmen Maria Machado. What more could you want?

American Teenager: How Trans Kids Are Surviving Hate and Finding Joy in a Turbulent Era by Nico Lang

It’s clear from the main title of this book, which insists that being trans is only one — albeit crucial — aspect in the book’s subjects’ lives, that it is going to thwart readers’ expectations. As journalist Nico Lang explains, they deliberately wanted the title to be “lighter and funnier and just more nimble than folks would expect … [something] that wasn’t a trans pun and doesn’t even necessarily explicitly name being trans.” The tone set by the title is absolutely delivered: Lang’s portrait of the eight trans and non-binary teens featured in the book are by turns silly, sweet, serious, funny, and sad. The book is not only a crucial intervention into rampant institutional transphobia targeting American youth, it’s a riveting, empowering read. Read Stef’s interview with the author on Autostraddle!

Miss Southeast by Elizabeth Lindsey Rogers

I can’t describe this superb collection of essays about growing up in the American South any better than Stef did in their review: “With an extraordinary amount of sensory detail and depth woven into every single essay, Rogers’ lyric prose illuminates the ways in which her initial freedom from the ‘suffocating’ culture of Guilford County would only be the first in a long series of battles against the often oppressive and exhausting natures of the systems and institutions that govern our lives.” Smart, readable, and thoughtful, this book is a must-read.

Poetry

Archive of Style by Cheryl Clarke

This collection of new and selected poems by Black lesbian feminist poet and essayist Cheryl Clarke is an essential publication of work by an icon. Reaching back to her writing from the 80s as well as brand new work, Archive of Style celebrates the diversity of Clarke’s creative output, from poems centred on joy and sensuality — “lick me and cover me. / i am, i am in love with you.” —to those focusing on politics and the loss of community members. Her often playful experimentation, like writing poems in the form of a letter and sometimes eschewing punctuation altogether, is on full display. This book deserves a prime spot on the bookshelves of anyone who cares about queer, feminist, and/or Black histories.

I Don’t Want To Be Understood by Joshua Jennifer Espinoza

In Joshua Jennifer Espinoza’s latest stunning collection, she goes back to material might have seemed more appropriate for her first book, as Drew explains in her review on Autostraddle. Drew writes: I Don’t Want To Be Understood takes on “formative subject matter written with the craft and maturity of a seasoned writer. It’s as if it took that time and skill in order to properly approach these moments.” Drew also praises the book as “unafraid to take formal risks,” playing with formatting and punctuation and mixing literal and figurative narrative. Read these poems and let them surprise you as they did Drew.

The Sacred Heart Motel by Grace Kwan

Using an unusual overarching conceit, Grace Kwan’s poetry debut fully commits, taking readers on a tour of the titular motel’s rooms, bar, back alleys, fire escape, and other liminal spaces. It also investigates the ghosts left there from generations of visitors. The poems explore migration and placelessness as fitting to the transitory nature of the motel, but they also feature queer love and desire, music, and family. Lush images are plentiful throughout the collection: “That summer the knife slid so sweetly / into the navel orange on the chopping board / and our lips were so sticky / we kissed and they bled.” A major queer poet is announcing their arrival; pay attention!

El Ghourabaa edited by Samia Marshy and Eli Tareq El Bechelany-Lynch

This “queer and trans collection of oddities” is admittedly comprised of fiction and non-fiction in addition to a lot of poetry, but its work “celebrat[ing] the fullness of queer Arab and Arabophone identity” — as the editors write in their introduction — always feels poetic in spirit. The anthology ranges from an excerpt from the late great Lebanese lesbian poet Etel Adnan’s last poetry collection to three new pieces from Lambda award winning trans poet Trish Salah to many poems by writers for whom El Ghourabaa is their first publication. The book is a rich, full collection of diverse work that blazes right past issues like “What is it like to be queer and Arab?” and instead asks thought-provoking and playful questions about experimentation, desire, fun, music, sex, activism, grief, and much more. It’s obvious that El Ghourabaa is groundbreaking; it’s also exquisitely beautiful, and a lot of fun.

Bluff by Danez Smith

Black nonbinary poet Danez Smith’s latest poetry collection is a powerful reckoning. Emerging like a phoenix in the ashes from a place of guilt and cynicism, Smith writes to the future with infectious hope, rage, imagination, and honesty. The unique pieces in Bluff range from a long poem that is part map, part annotation, and part visual thesis to a photo collage. Smith’s commitment to holding multiple truths at once — like poetry’s potential complicity in capitalism and its power as artistic resistance — is remarkable.

Romance

A Little Kissing Between Friends by Chencia C. Higgins

The cheeky title of Chencia C. Higgins’s latest contemporary romance is a perfect reflection of the book’s humor and heart. Cyn and Jucee are best friends whose dynamic takes an unexpected turn one night. Is it worth risking their friendship though? This is the kind of romance that puts a big grin on your face while you’re reading. Also, as Sa’iyda puts it in her glowing review: “There is something extra sensual about the way Black women love on each other sexually, and the author[…] captured that sensuality so perfectly. I was absolutely fanning myself after each sex scene.” Here’s to grinning and fanning while reading.

A Shore Thing by Joanna Lowell

It’s not hard to stand out in queer historical romance, especially if the main characters aren’t cis men, because there are depressingly few of them, but A Shore Thing would be remarkable even if the publishing market was full of Victorian romances starring a trans man and a cis woman. Full of fascinating, accurate details — 19th century bike races! 19th century artists! 19th century botany! — Joanna Lowell’s enchanting novel seamlessly integrates history into Kit and Muriel’s love story while remaining light-hearted and hopeful. If you don’t nearly die of the sweetness while witnessing Muriel and Kit fall in love, I’ll eat my hat.

Whenever You’re Ready by Rachel Runya Katz

This beautiful and moving contemporary romance puts two ex-friends back together on the path to love after the heartbreak of losing the friend who originally introduced them to cancer. Using the time-honored tradition of a queer friends road trip and elegantly incorporating Jewish Southern US history into the journey, Katz has crafted a lovely story that is as funny as it is sad. It’s especially noteworthy how queer Whenever You’re Ready’s approach to friendship is; it really understands the weight and intensity of (queer) friendship, and doesn’t forget that amidst its friends-to-lovers romance.

How You Get The Girl by Anita Kelly

With warmth and skill, Anita Kelly has penned a basketball romance that offers much-needed sapphic ace spectrum representation as well as the women’s basketball content we all need year round even in the WNBA off season. Using the conventions of a workplace romance — the heroines end up working together as high school basketball coach and assistant coach — Kelly also incorporates a very sexy plot device wherein Elle helps Julie address her dating insecurity by helping her “practise” just like she gets to do with sports. We all know where practice kissing leads! As Sa’iyda raves in her review: “Anita Kelly writes extremely hot sex scenes! … They’re a master with language and scene-setting, sparing no detail while avoiding anything gratuitous.”

Make Room for Love by Darcy Liao

Darcy Liao’s sophomore contemporary romance is an irresistible story about a femme trans woman discovering she’s bi when she falls in love with her new roommate, a cis butch lesbian. It is an absolute joy to watch Isabel and Mira slowly get to know each other, become vulnerable, do some personal growth, and fall for each other. Liao is particularly talented at creating sexual tension and conveying chemistry. The union election subplot and the compelling representation of queer Asian women (Isabel is Chinese and Mira is Indian) are icing on the cake of an already stellar story.

Science Fiction

Private Rites by Julia Armfield

In this quietly dystopian retelling of King Lear, Julia Armfield conjures a climate change apocalypse that is surprisingly banal, focusing on the everyday lives of three estranged queer sisters. Not only do the women live in a world where it never stops raining, they are also weighed down by childhood trauma, which resurfaces when their father dies. Haunting and pensive, but never without hope, Private Rites succeeds as both an engrossing family drama and a creative reimagining of the possibilities of apocalyptic science fiction.

In Universes by Emet North

Raffi, a non-binary physicist studying dark matter, is the protagonist in this beautifully strange multiverse novel. Like all brilliant science fiction, In Universes uses its speculative premise to investigate hard questions about our so-called real world: how do you lead a meaningful life? How do you cope with loving someone more than they love you? What would your life be like if you had made different choices? Also tackling themes of queer and trans identity, community, Judaism, and mental health, Emet North’s debut is a stunner, announcing their arrival in queer SF with a (big) bang.

Time’s Agent by Brenda Peynado

Set forty years after the incredible discovery of “pocket worlds” — and the subsequent disillusionment of academics who hoped the small alternate realities would be sites of benevolent exploration — Time’s Agent is impressively original. Unflinching in its condemnation of corporate greed and rampant consumerism, the book speculates a grim outcome for these pocket worlds. But as much as it interrogates big institutions and ideas, the narrative is solidly grounded in scientist Raquel’s perspective and her tenuous relationship with her wife. The effect is an incredibly human and real story set in a strange uncanny world.

Bogi Takács’s latest collection of stories is exemplary of eir signature blend of science fiction, fantasy, and the new weird. The resulting stories are as far ranging in topic as they are perceptive and unique. In one, an AI child with a soul encounters Jewish mysticism for the first time. In another, a student hatches a plan to escape from their apartment, which is partially sentient and requires blood donations from its resident. In another, a mother turns into a plant and struggles with planning her non-binary child’s bar mitzvah. Takács is a rare writer whose work in speculative fiction does truly fresh things and reimagines anew what speculative genres can do.

These Fragile Graces, This Fugitive Heart by Izzy Wasserstein

Izzy Wasserstein’s debut cyberpunk thriller manages to pack a lot into a small space, in terms of plot, genre, and character. Beginning with the murder of our trans woman protagonist Dora’s ex-girlfriend, the story rips along at a neck-breaking pace as Dora, who is a P.I., tries to stay ahead of her pre-transition clones, who may or may not be responsible for her ex’s death and might also be trying to kill her. Expertly blending noir mystery tropes with post-apocalyptic climate change world building, Wasserstein has created a spellbinding story that will have you staying up past your bedtime to read.

Young Adult Contemporary/Historical/Romance

Just Another Epic Love Poem by Parisa Akhbari

Told in lyrical prose as well as lyrical poetry, Just Another Epic Love Poem is a dazzling best-friends-to-lovers sapphic love story that centres around two girls’ neverending poetry project, a shared notebook they’ve kept for five years, alternately adding stanzas to an ongoing epic poem. Mitra, an introverted bisexual Iranian American teen, is a fascinating protagonist undergoing a coming-of-age that feels both genuine and extraordinary. If this wonderfully moving novel is what Parisa Akhbari writes her first time out of the gate, I can’t wait to see what her sophomore release will hold!

Time And Time Again by Chatham Greenfield

Cleverly using a time loop to explore themes of feeling stuck and aimless in life, Chatham Greenfield’s debut is a soothing, low-stakes contemporary romance featuring two disabled Jewish lesbians (one is also non-binary). For character-driven readers, this novel focused on Phoebe and Jess as fully fleshed out queer teens and their growing relationship is absolute perfection. Their conversations about disability (IBS and arthritis), anxiety, their futures beyond high school, their previous childhood friendship, and more are like eavesdropping on two real teens having an intimate talk.

How It All Ends by Emma Hunsinger

This incredibly charming and funny lower-end YA graphic novel is about a 12-year-old, Tara, who skips grade eight and starts high school a year early. Emma Hunsinger’s precise and expressive art matches the book’s authentic dialogue and emotions beautifully. Tara is a wonderfully realized character, as are all the secondary personalities. The tender relationship between Tara and her older sister is a particular high point, but How It All Ends’s biggest strength is how perfectly it captures the agonizing ordeal of having a first (queer) crush in tweendom.

Make My Wish Come True by Rachael Lippincott and Alyson Derrick

The only thing cuter than Rachael Lippincott and Alyson Derrick’s real life love story — they met in a college writing class and now write sapphic love stories both together and separate — is this heartwarming Christmas novel that beautifully blends the beloved tropes of fake relationships, small town romance, and (ex)-friends-to-lovers. It’s impossible not to root for teen actor Arden and aspiring journalist Caroline. The charming secondary characters, like Arden’s grandma, will win you over as well. Don’t miss Sa’iyda’s interview with the authors on Autostraddle, where they discuss writing this book and being new moms.

A Bánh Mì for Two by Trinity Nguyen

Don’t start this sapphic romance set in Sài Gòn unless you’re ready to a) believe once and for all that love is not a lie; b) crave Vietnamese food; and c) get the travel bug. A Bánh Mì for Two tackles complex topics, like grieving a parent and being a second generation immigrant kid removed from your family’s culture, with grace and ease. But Trinity Nguyen also crafts a believable and sweet romance. In Sa’iyda’s review, she raves about the setting and the food being characters unto themselves and writes “The smells of the street food wafted right out of Nguyen’s words and straight into my nostrils. When the girls get caught in a monsoon, I felt like I needed a poncho.” This book has everything!

Young Adult Science Fiction, Fantasy, and Horror

Spells to Forget Us by Aislinn Brophy

An ideal blend of fantasy and contemporary romance, Spells to Forget Us features a break-up between a witch, Luna, and non-magical girl, Aoife. By some twist of fate, both end up forgetting each other after their relationship ends, instead of only Aoife as intended, until they meet again and start dating anew. This clever plot device and twist on the time loop trope allow Aislinn Brophy to construct a unique and moving second chance romance, while also fitting in themes of inheritance, agency, learning self-confidence, and relationship growth. Luna and Aoife are vibrant, dynamic characters whose love story you do not want to miss.

Not For The Faint of Heart by Lex Croucher

This grumpy-meets-sunshine sapphic love story with good helpings of adventure, thrills, bad jokes, found family, and various hijinks is Lex Croucher at their best. Not For The Faint of Heart is a decidedly queer, feminist, and irreverent take on the legend of Robin Hood, featuring two lovable queer girls, one of whom is a member of the outlaw group the Merry Men, and the other who … has been accidentally kidnapped by the first one. Nonstop sparkling dialogue, charming characters whom you occasionally want to smack on the head, and honest-to-god tear-jerking scenes of personal growth are what I expect from Croucher at this point, and this book more than delivers.

The Fox Maidens by Robin Ha

This graphic novel that reimagines Korean myth puts a wonderfully queer and feminist twist on the tale of a nine-tailed fox who can turn into a woman who eats the livers of men. The 16th century Korean setting and the story’s dark tone are richly evoked with both words and art. The latter uses various limited color palettes to match each set of panels to particularly effective results in the many dynamic martial arts action scenes and gorgeous landscapes. Kai, our protagonist studying to be a warrior, is an irresistible character with authenticity and complexity struggling with issues related to family, inheritance, misogyny, and more. If you haven’t read Robin Ha yet, this is the best place to start!

The Deep Dark by Molly Knox Ostertag

This horror graphic novel is a knock-out on every level: a culmination of Molly Knox Ostertag’s excellent previous work in comics — The Witch Boy, The Girl from the Sea — but with new depth. Every element of this novel — story, characters, concept, and art — are expertly executed, particularly Ostertag’s innovative and strategic use of color and how she balances the darkness of the main plot with a compelling butch cis lesbian for bi trans femme romance subplot. What darkness? The protagonist “Mags” Herrerra is not only dealing with high school, taking care of her disabled abuela, and working a part time job; she’s got a bloodthirsty monster living in her basement.

I Am the Dark that Answers When You Call by Jamison Shea

The sequel to the deliciously horrific I Feed Her to the Beast and The Beast Is Me, I Am the Dark that Answers When You Call is a gripping continuation of the Black queer teen ballerina protagonist Laure’s made-a-deal-with-the-devil villain origin story. Jamison Shea presents Laure’s emotional landscape with all the complexity it deserves, tackling her experiences with grief, anger, and betrayal with utmost skill and compassion. As Laure struggles to balance her monstrous and ordinary lives, Shea skillfully and viciously forces her protagonist to figure out who she really is.

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Known in some internet circles as Casey the Canadian Lesbrarian, Casey Stepaniuk is a writer, librarian, and new parent. She writes for Book Riot and Autostraddle about queer and/or bookish stuff. Ask her about cats, bisexuality, libraries, queer books, drinking tea, and her baby. Her website is Casey the Canadian Lesbrarian. Find her on Twitter, Litsy, Storygraph Goodreads and Instagram.

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  1. I loved how you correctly used indigenous names in your Greta & Valdin review, how refreshing and lovely (I’m in Aotearoa New Zealand). I have shared this with a queer friend who wants to get into reading, thank you.

    • Yay! I spent 6 months traveling and working in Aotearoa in my 20s and remember the place and people very fondly

  2. I love these lists Casey.

    I’ve read 4 of them and several more are on my list. I’m impatiently waiting for my library hold on the Tasha Suri to become available.

    Here are my top queer reads released in 2024 not in the list.

    Six Penny Octavo by Annick Trent – Sapphic romance set in Georgian England between two women who work for a living.

    Lady Eve’s Last Con – Sapphic heist caper in space!

    Queen of Dreams by Kit Rocha – poly, bi fantasy romance (2nd in a series, not at all standalone)

    A Wolf Steps in Blood by Tamara Jerée – gritty Sapphic werewolf / witch romance novella (read the author’s trigger warnings – it’s intense)

    • Thank you for these additions Cleo! I always love your recommendations. Lady Eve’s Last Con was a strong contender for this list and so was Kit Rocha!

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  4. Love these lists. Excited to dig into a bunch of these!

    EXORDIA by Seth Dickinson is the standout queer sci-fi novel of 2024 for me. It’s a period piece…set in the late Obama era (what a cursed sentence) of drone warfare. Kurdish genocide survivor Anna Sinjari is a burned out, behind-on-her-rent New Yorker who will never escape the monstrous bargains she made to survive as a child. Then she meets an alien. Srrin is like her, a survivor and a monster, fighting genocidal forces on a galactic scale. When a mysterious alien object lands in Kurdistan and draws the apocalyptic attention of the galactic overlords, Anna is uniquely qualified to respond: she’s lived thru apocalypse before. She and her new homoerotic best frenemy from space, along with a multinational team of scientists, military bigwigs, and Kurdish villagers have to figure out the mystery of the object (lots of body horror) and save Earth. It’s maximalist, intricate, brutal, shockingly funny, and really really smart.

    Reading a sci-fi thriller this sharp in its indictment of US empire and this explicit about the lasting trauma of genocide during this year was….yeahhh. EXORDIA was challenging for me in ways I’m grateful for. In case you can’t tell this book totally blew my mind. And Seth Dickinson writes queers SO well.

  5. Make Room for Love is near the top of my to-be-read list for next year.

    I enjoyed Make My Wish Come True, Whenever You’re Ready and How You Get the Girl (though I keep forgetting that came out this year because I read an arc of it last fall lol). A few of my other favourites were:
    – The Pairing by Casey McQuiston (though I think you’re rational for not including it makes a lot of sense)
    – Late Bloomer by Mazey Eddings
    – Looking for a Sign by Susie Dumond
    – Hers for the Weekend by Helena Greer
    – Cover Story by Rachel Lacey
    – Most Wonderful by Georgia Clark
    – Back to Me by Katie Duggan (I wish more people knew about this one!)

  6. Thank you so much for all the recommendations! These posts always make my year more enjoyable and my library wish list more extensive.

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Baby Steps #3: Allegedly Essential Baby Products, Looking for Gays On The Baby App and Surveillance Anxiety

Hello and welcome to the third installment of Baby Steps, about a series of small steps for man and giant leaps for humankind — in this instance, the giant leaps are being made by me and my wife Gretchen, who is now seven months pregnant. The last two columns have been a lot of Catching Up but now we're shifting into present tense to talk about what life looks like at this moment!

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Shroud Waving: On Trans Death, Callousness, Ancestors

“What is worrying is when people say that if children don’t get these drugs, they will die, because clearly that’s not true,” Hilary Cass told The Times on December 14th. “It was ‘irresponsible for people to shroud-wave in that way.’”

Cass is widely reviled for her role as architect of the Cass Review — a government inquiry into children and youth gender services in the UK, which has been decried by activists and widely disputed by international authorities for its political bias and methodological failings. The Cass Review has been used as justification for this week’s permanent ban on puberty blockers for trans youth, though these same drugs will continue to be used in apparent safety for cis youth without change. It also appears to be the root cause of the sudden wave of trans adults having their hormones terminated by their GPs, though the Review itself never made such a recommendation. For her work removing access to healthcare for the microscopic minority of trans young people who not only qualified but had made it through years of backlogged NHS waiting lists, she was rewarded with a lifetime peerage, putting her into the House of Lords (a position that will pay her £361 a day of taxpayer money, plus travel and expenses, for each day she attends the House, for the rest of her life).

This cluck-clucking about “shroud-waving” is an increasingly common argument amongst gender critical activists, journalists, and politicians. Like Cass, they believe it’s irresponsible to claim that trans people are at heightened risk for death by suicide. They became so incensed about these claims that the government provided a small inquiry this year to attempt to prove that since the Cass Review there has been no uptick in suicidality among trans kids — they now quietly admit (through FOIA request) that some trans kids’ suicides had been excluded from the results, but let’s not let that get in anybody’s way. How dare we bring up our proximity to death?

The spectre of the trans death, particularly through suicide, hangs over all of the attacks on trans life. No one wants to admit that this is the desired end goal — that trans people simply cease to exist, whether that be through detransition or death seems to matter little. As Janice Raymond famously put it, the goal is for trans people to be “morally mandated out of existence.” Indeed, “shroud waving” threatens to stir up some empathy for the plight of this embattled minority, and we can’t be having that. Anti-trans actors have gone so far as to accuse trans people of acting like abusive husbands who threaten to kill themselves if their wives leave.

It’s a useful strategy, this attack on the idea of trans death, because most cis people will never know a living trans person, let alone a dead one.


This morning, my boyfriend and I sat at the breakfast table. He was putting butter and lavender honey on bread, and I was stealing it — no, I don’t need my own bread, I only want a bite. Revenge for his bites of my dessert last night. As I sent him off into the world, I opened up Instagram and her face was staring back at me. I almost tapped away, not fully taking in the birth and death dates below her picture. At first I thought I was confused about who she was — I always ran into her with her hair up, in the picture it’s down. Then as I wandered around my house, staring at my phone, I kept thinking “but I just saw her the other day.” Time has recently become a little difficult for me, I’m often slightly unsure of how many yesterdays stretch out between me and a moment, so maybe it was the other week. Two weeks ago? I saw her at the little screening of our film Framing Agnes in Peckham, and before that at the CliniQ conference, and before that at the Transforming Futures launch event, and before that…

When confronted with death, we often make these useless little equations. I saw this person X times, X days-weeks-months ago. They don’t add up to “and so they cannot be dead,” but we must hope somehow that they will. It’s a familiar arithmetic.

In a period of 6 years in my 20s, I attended 15 funerals and only two weddings. For a while, it felt like the sky was falling. Every couple of weeks I would be jostled into awareness that someone who had been standing right beside me, or off just a ways down the street, had disappeared. Looking back from my late 30s, it’s no wonder that I was so chaotic in those years, propelled through the world with a pervasive anxiety. During that time, I lost my boyfriend, several of my closest friends, and saw the deaths of an endless parade of community members, acquaintances, enemies. There were more funerals than I could get to, and quite a few who didn’t have services at all. Some merely bulbs that burnt out, never to be replaced. The vast majority of these people were trans, most died by their own hand, some by murder, others by neglect.

This might not be the trans experience for everyone, but the community I find myself in has always been made up of people living close to the edge — transsexuals, sex workers, drug users. Society’s run aways and throw aways. It sometimes feels like death stalks our lives. Many of us have been rejected by our families, struggled to maintain jobs or housing, subject to violence and abuse, and been plagued by the mental health issues that result. Add to that the overwhelming hopelessness of our time as society runs full tilt towards climate collapse, fascism, and 10 new ways to do austerity — it’s a wonder any of us survive at all.

I can’t say we were friends, more acquaintances than anything, faces seen around in the same spaces over and over, but I admired her. Her life’s work was dedicated to creating domestic violence services for trans survivors — a group of people broadly shut out of VAWG services in the UK — and helping trans people find housing. When we lose such tentpoles of community, I feel not only their individual loss but I wonder how long the centre will hold.


Would puberty blockers have saved all of them? No, not by themselves. Indeed, most trans teens do not need them, they would be better served getting directly onto cross-sex hormones1. But the handwringing and legislative attacks on puberty blockers aren’t really about this one medication at all. They are aimed at the very possibility of trans life, an attempt to cut off transness at its root.

Through all of the media and political bluster surrounding trans children, no one ever bothers to ask those of us who were trans children and are now adults what we think. Some few trans adults make it into these so-called debates, but there can be a confusion of terms here. While all trans adults were once children, most of us did not transition as children. Some don’t even believe that this was possible more than a decade ago. However, I did2.

Viviane Namaste writes about the autobiographical imperative, the force exerted on trans people to constantly give an account of ourselves. Ever since I first encountered this concept, I have resisted. I do not want to use my personal story, because I believe that I have a lot more to give — as a writer, an artist, and a person — than the mere facts of my life to satisfy the morbid curiosity of the world at large. But more and more, I feel silenced by the way people — both cis and trans — talk about kids who transition without actually speaking to us.

I transitioned as a teenager in the early 2000s after several years of living an increasingly gender non-conforming existence. Thanks to a series of lucky breaks, I made it into an informed consent clinic and was put on hormones at 16. I later had surgery at 19. It may sound too typical or pat for me to say that this treatment saved my life, but indeed it kept my head above water and propelled me out of life-threatening negative coping mechanisms I’d taken up in response to the overwhelming suffering I was experiencing nearly every moment of every day.

During this time, there were not a lot of trans teens running around, but I knew a few both online and in person. Most had no access to medical help, no support from their families. Quite a few were regularly sent away to mental hospitals, disappearing from their livejournals for weeks at a time to be poked at and prodded by psychologists, doped up with yet another antipsychotic or antidepressant. It was preferable to pump them full of these chemicals than to allow them to wear the clothes they wanted or even — shock, horror — get sex changes. Nearly all of them are now dead or missing. Sometimes I look them up. At 37, I’ve been starting to forget some of their names.

A smaller group of us, by hook or by crook, managed to get the healthcare we wanted. It didn’t erase all of our struggles, bestowing perfect mental health and skin radiant with the satisfaction of a life well lived. But of that cohort, nearly all of them are still alive. Many of us are still friends.

Do I think medication alone made the difference? I’m not sure it’s that simple. But I know that if I hadn’t had it, my body would be an even more dangerous battlefield to navigate. And that having access to what I knew I wanted, and support — albeit at times missing — from my mother and friends and doctor allowed me to imagine a life worth living.

I feel the absences of the disappeared. Even as some become nameless, the edges of their shrouds sometimes still brush against my skin.


“You know, for me trans history is a spiritual vocation,” I tell Eliza as we make our way through a University building towards a drinks reception that does not exist. For the past decade my work has largely focused on trans history. Though I am not an academic, I am a relentless researcher and storyteller. From my podcasts One From the Vaults and Harsh Reality: The Story of Miriam Rivera, to Framing Agnes and our book Boys Don’t Cry, I’ve made a niche for myself in raising the dead.

All around the world, in nearly every culture and throughout history, people have venerated their ancestors by passing on their names and telling their stories. What is remembered lives, the adage goes. I experience this viscerally. Having spent much of my life mourning the loss of vibrant friends, mentors, community members, and even enemies, it’s no wonder why I have dedicated myself to a practice of ancestral veneration. Nearly all of my friends are dead, but in me their stories live.

Anti-trans pundits and politicians want to invite you into their own callousness. To not feel, to not see, to not hear. Reframing our very real proximity to death as a fit of manipulative hysteria is one way to inure the public to our pain and ultimately make our destruction seem not only possible but necessary.

I would like to believe that if the bones of the dead rattle loudly enough, this could be prevented. But lately I feel myself give in to a growing realisation that people in the dominant culture simply do not care. They need not be specially invited into callousness because they already live there. Each day we watch the death toll of children in Gaza, and a great many other places, climb and climb — yet almost no one does anything to stop it. Our rivers and streams have become so polluted they now carry warning signs while the executives in charge still cash lavish bonus cheques each year. Oh, is Russian state media threatening to drop a nuclear bomb on London again? Just another Monday.

Mariame Kaba says that hope is a discipline — one that I fear I am becoming out of shape with. I wonder now less about how we will get out of this, and more who will we be when it ends? And who will be left?


A group of trans kids wearing masks stand in an archway behind a sign that says KIDS with the i a chess piece surrounded by a trans flag.
A photo of the activist group Trans Kids Deserve Better, shot by Morgan M Page


  1. Most of the clinicians I’ve spoken to about puberty blockers over the past decade have, in one or another, related to me that puberty blockers are often more about buying time for *parents* to get comfortable with their childrens’ transitions.
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  2. Transitioning as a child does not make anyone better, realer, “more valid,” etc. It is simply a difference in experience. A difference that I experience as vast at times.
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  1. Puberty blockers were the compromise we made with cis people which is a source of constant rage for me. Fine, our kids can suffer a little bit – not be able to join their cis friends in the same experience of being a hormonal teenager – but we made that deal because cis people are terrified. But we will have kids do this, so when they are adults they do not have to undo unwanted puberty.

    A devil’s bargain trading away their teenage years for less pain as an adult. I’m a later in life trans woman and while I am no less valid, I certainly deal with additional physical pain and expense. As does my wife.

    And at this point cis people have broken that bargain to an amazing degree.

    Hiding behind the minuscule population of detransitioners who regret it ( as opposed to those who do so to survive in the world, which is the majority, and still see themselves as trans or those who explore their gender for a bit, decide being cis works, like we wish all people have the right to do.)

    It’s exhausting. I get up each day and fight for a living, but it’s exhausting.

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‘Every Time I Go Down on My Partner, I Get the Nastiest Acne of My Entire Life’

Q:

Hi, Autostraddle. I have an embarrassing problem.

I love my partner with all my heart. They are the love of my life, and the hottest, sexiest person I have ever laid eyes on!!! There’s just one problem… Every time I go down on them, I get the nastiest acne of my entire life.

I haven’t struggled with acne almost at all in my lifetime, but after eating my partner out, I break out with a “beard” of zits that lasts all week. It’s awful. My partner is not unclean or anything; they shower every day. Further info: Neither one of us has an STI, and neither one of us is on any kind of hormones.

What is going on?? I would very much like to “travel downtown” without it ruining my whole face.

A:

Hey anon!

Hmmm yeah. That sounds like skin hell. I consulted my domicile’s resident skin expert (my girlfriend) on this one. I’ll be pairing our thoughts and whatever other sources I can locate to figure out your situation. I’ll also say that nothing I’m exploring here should be considered medical advice and honestly, this is definitely the wheelhouse of a dermatologist or other doctor.

Going off what you’ve described, it sounds a lot like your facial skin is reacting aggressively to vaginal fluids or something in the vicinity of the vulva. You described the post dining-out experience as the nastiest acne of my entire life and don’t have much history of acne. That’s suggestive of an acute reaction to direct stimuli rather than something longer-term.

Reading up on your situation was challenging because there’s little research on these exact circumstances. I’m gonna have to roll on anatomical knowledge and what little research there is on the topic here.

With no history of an STI, no additional hormone replacement therapy (I’ll presume we’re talking about a cisgender vulva here), the potential options are narrowed down further. I’m gonna start with two anatomical considerations: hair and vaginal pH.

A ‘typical’ vaginal pH in women of ‘childbearing age’ is 3.8 to 5.0. That’s moderately acidic. For reference, neutral pH is 7.0 and the range of 4.0 to 5.0 includes tomatoes, acid rain, black coffee, and…bananas? Vaginal pH rises after menopause due to hormone fluctuations, so it’ll start acidic and move closer to neutral over time.

All of this matters because when you’re eating your partner out, you’re exposing your mouth and chin area to a fair amount of vaginal fluid. At least, that’s the expectation if you’re proceeding with enthusiasm and they’re responding well. If that acidic fluid (and its accompanying contents) are allowed to sit on your face, they could be sensitizing your skin and leading to acne breakouts. Most people can handle significantly more acidic stuff on their skin before developing a response, but everyone has different sensitivities. Slightly concentrated lemonade can make my lips a little bit puffy and sensitive, but I know a girl who does shots of vinegar because she enjoys the taste of sour so much. Nobody is identical.

Again, it’s hard to locate case studies for these circumstances. I found this case study involving a man who experienced something like this but not much else. Nonetheless, the composition of facial skin is very diverse and it’s generally characterized as more sensitive than skin over the body. It’s possible that you have a particularly strong reaction to the pH of your partner’s vaginal fluids that is contributing to the problem.

Next up, hair. This is something to consider whether or not your partner has a lot of pubic hair or keeps it manicured, shaven, or waxed. Hair (including pubic hair) can harbor a diverse microbial environment because it’s very dense in surface area and also close to the skin where a lot of bacteria grows. Even when hair seems clean, it can harbor a lot of interesting bacteria (helpful and otherwise) that can be transmitted to sensitive or damaged skin and cause a strong reaction.

If your partner shaves, trims, waxes or does anything else that shortens the hair before you eat them out, that can also contribute. Short or fresh-cut hair is utterly notorious for irritating the skin. Most examples of this involve heterosexual relationships with a bearded man and it even has a name: beard burn. Beard burn doesn’t just apply to full beards. It’s described as contact dermatitis that results from hair-related friction. Any sufficiently coarse hair can contribute to the risk. Pubic hair is coarse at any length. Depending on your table manners and enthusiasm for the meal presented before you, it’s possible you could just be rubbing your lips and lower face a bit raw. Again, this is bearable for most people in your position (between someone’s legs), but it’s possible that you just have a particularly horrible reaction. The only way you could really rule this out is if your partner has minimal and soft pubic hair, likely as a result of laser hair removal or more permanent hair removal methods like electrolysis.

At this point, I could guess that friction and abrasion from eating your partner out could be interacting with vaginal fluids. You might be experiencing a one-two punch where your enthusiasm leads to microscopic abrasions on the skin that allow acidic fluid and bacteria to enter. Remember it’s possible to begin developing something bacterial and have skin heal over the infection before the inflammation can be exposed. At the small scale on skin, this can manifest as acne. It’s more noticeable in other cases like acute paronychia.

So I’ve done my best to present some general possibilities for your experience, but I also had a specific thought come up. Your description of a beard of zits. That was positively visceral for me to think about, but also a very helpful image. A consistent spread of acne-like irritation over an area is a common sign of folliculitis. Folliculitis is irritation of the hair follicles—often alongside bacteria. It can both carpet a large area (even follicles that weren’t initially exposed) and strongly resemble acne. Its manifestations are pretty diverse, but a carpet or ‘beard’ of zits is one form. Everything from fungi to staph bacteria could be the culprit. None of this is to say that your partner is ‘unclean’ or insufficiently hygienic. The human body is positively coated with all kinds of bacteria and things only get more interesting when we mix inside and outside. Some people are simply more vulnerable to certain kinds of bacteria or skin conditions than others.

Going back to my hypotheses that mix surface irritation, skin bacteria, and vaginal fluids? There’s a possibility that your spread of horrible acne might be folliculitis due to exposure to your partner’s vagina. If this is true, then it’s downright tragic because it suggests that your enthusiasm and love for their vulva might be making this worse.

Okay, I think that’s enough skincare, medical, and bacterial discussion. Let’s talk pragmatics.

  1. Firstly, consider talking to a dermatologist or doctor about this if you can. Because I’m not qualified to offer actual medical advice and I could be way off base on my assumptions. Nothing beats the examination and assessment they can give you.
  2. If you normally let yourself bask in the glory of sex with your partner after eating them out, consider… Well, consider not doing that once or twice. If their vaginal fluids are setting off a skin reaction, you want them on your face as little as possible. Washing with mild skin cleanser or soap shortly after devouring them can neutralize acidity and remove most of the fluid. If you do this, please take steps to assure your partner that you’re doing this because you think it might be a skin reaction, not concerns about their body, hygiene, or health.
  3. If your partner shaves/trims their pubic hair ahead of becoming dinner, that may contribute to skin irritation and abrasion. Full growth that’s been ground down and softened by daily living is less coarse than shaven or trimmed. If their preference is total deforestation (as I do to myself), consider methods that delay hair growth or thin out new hairs. Like waxing, laser hair removal, or even electrolysis. This is a sensitive topic (like your skin) and you do not have to approach it if you don’t want to. I’m giving suggestions that are friendly to growth and removal because I don’t know your partner’s preferred state, but I know how delicate this topic can be. Ignore any suggestion of mine at no peril.
  4. If all else fails, barriers are an option. Dental dams are highly protective for oral sex on a vulva.

My first recommendation is still to talk to a doctor if you can.

As it stands, my hypothesis is still some kind of skin irritation driven by exposure to vaginal fluids and friction. The problem is we won’t know what kind of irritation it is without professional investigation. Nonetheless, I think that folliculitis, dermatitis, or some kind of acne meet your description of the condition. Folliculitis, dermatitis, and acne can resemble each other or even increase the risk of each other appearing. They’re common skin conditions of the face, and they’re exacerbated by exposure to bacteria, non-neutral pH, and friction. All of which are involved when dining at the Y. They also won’t be picked up by any STI test and they can occur even in the presence of excellent hygiene and habits.

That’s a lot of thoughts from me solely because I love medical challenges and anatomical interactions. As far as possible, I’ve tried to supply reliable sources, but I couldn’t find anything conclusive about your situation because it’s not commonly reported. As ever, this is a doctor’s field of expertise, but I hope I’ve provided good jumping-off points for you to consider.

Love, Summer


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  1. This is honestly more thorough and thoughtful advice than a Dr would give. Any Dr I’ve ever met anyway!!

  2. Summer, you always answer questions so thoughtfully and with so much care! Love reading your advice regardless of the topic.

  3. This person must have the most sensitive skin on planet earth I’ve never heard of pussy giving you zits!
    Honestly wouldn’t we all become pimple face that’s not stopping us

  4. This advice is solid, so I’ll emphasize one point: try what you can at home, since seeing a dermatologist about this (if you’re in the USA) might lead to a prescription (or many) instead of a diagnosis. Telling your doctor about the solutions you’ve already tried can help narrow the possibilities. You as your body’s expert and them as a health expert is the ideal combination.

    I’d first try wiping all the fluids off your face immediately after they come in contact with your skin. If that’s not a solution, then wash your face fully using all the things you normally do. Your partner can try their own mitigation strategies, but test solutions one at a time so you can identify impacts independently.

  5. Aw man, I have the exact same problem! Even if I wash my face immediately after, I still have issues with breakouts. I’ve always had sensitive skin though so I just figured it was a me thing. In addition to looking into physical irritants like the article mentioned it may help for you to look at other possible sources of irritation. I can’t offer you a magic bullet, but I have a few things that may be worth investigating.
    1: Check and see if you have any issues with whatever soap/hygiene products they use. Wash a little bit of your face with them and see if you have any irritation.
    2: Talk with them and see if they’d be willing to switch a scent free/sensitive skin laundry detergent for a week or so (even if it’s just for the clothes that come into contact with their genitals) and see if that improves anything.
    3: If you have any food allergies/sensitivities, have a discussion on whether they’d be willing to cut that food out for a week and see if there’s any improvement.
    Bonus: one idea that I got from reading the article and that I may try out would be cutting a smallish hole in a dental dam and using that during sex. You could still have direct contact while decreasing physical irritation and contact with any other irritants.
    Even if none of this helps know that you have my sympathies and you’re not alone in this! Sex should be something fun and it sucks to have the thought that ‘I’m going to have a huge breakout after this’ lingering in the back of your mind :/ Best of luck and hope that some of this helps if even just a little bit!

  6. Not acne related but I have eczema and I am super sensitive to my partners fluids and even have times where I just have to have a break for a couple of weeks. What I do everytime I go down on her is spread vaseline over my mouth and around the mouth area/chin to act as a mild barrier, wash my face immediately after oral with soap, then follow with a bit of sudocrem (not sure what the US equivalent is) and moisturiser.
    Yes, it’s not the sexiest thing in the world stopping to apply vaseline but she knows why, we both now find it quite funny, and it takes literally two seconds.
    Might not be useful for anyone else, but just sharing what works for me

    • Oh Vaseline as a protective barrier is brilliant! One other thought is if this person uses any AHA/ BHA or exfoliating facial products, to back off before going down, or completely stop. If you are already irritating your skin with products it’s way more sensitive to friction, fluids, bacteria, etc.

  7. Summer mentioned after-sex things you can do to mitigate the irritation. If you want a product recommendation, I vote for sterile saline wipes. I started getting mine at the piercing studio when I pierced my nose. I also used them to keep my wounds clean during my recovery from breast reduction surgery. Now I always keep a supply on hand, because they are SO useful for hygiene. They’re small and discrete, and come in individually wrapped packages. They are suitable for a quick bedside wipe-down, so you can enjoy the afterglow without scurrying off to the shower right away.

    The folks in the breast reduction subreddit recommended unscented baby wipes, too, but I didn’t like those as much as the saline wipes. However, baby wipes come in a package that makes it easy to snatch (lol) one off the top like a kleenex, and they’re available at most drugstores, which the saline wipes are not (I get mine off Amazon).

  8. Hey, two more thoughst:
    1) Candida albicans.
    It’s a normal constituent of the human microbiome and essentially impossible to eradicate, so while neither of you have symptoms of candidiasis, it’s quite possible that it’s colonizing OP’s follicles and provoking an acne-type reaction, especially in the context of that skin getting and staying wet. This can happen to healthcare workers who wear N95 masks all day, but also on any skin that stays wet.
    2) Acne rosacea.
    Rosacea prefers convex facial surfaces and thrives on friction. I’ve had this specific situation flare my non-acne rosacea a few times.
    A couple possible solutions:
    Aside from washing well but very gentle with warm, not hot water, and a gentle cleanser or lotion, OP could try applying a gel or lotion with with tea tree oil as a combination anti-inflammatory/antibacterial/antifungal, or a mild azaleic acid moisturizer, and follow it with a 0.5% hydrocortisone cream (though not if OP is going down daily, skin atrophy is no joke!) If OP also experiences other rosacea symptoms, they should skip the hydrocortisone and consider daily prevention topicals for that (azelaic or metronidazole gel come to mind) could help keep their skin nice over the long term and prevent unpleasant changes (visible vessels and nose bumps for instance)

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Laneia’s Favorite Things: Gifts for a Casually Elegant Gay Lifestyle

Below, Laneia shares some of her favorite things, which would be great gifts for anyone in pursuit of a casually elegant lifestyle. For more gift recommendations of things the Autostraddle + For Them team already owns and loves, check out Drew’s, Motti’s, and Kayla’s Favorite Things.


Urban Anna Coloring Book: Enchanting Shopfronts from Around the World + Colored Pencils ($14 and $30)

Coloring Book and colored pencils

Ok listen up, this year I developed a new parasocial friendship with someone named Kennedy in southern California who is perfectly lovely and makes me want to don a matching loungewear set and trot off to HomeGoods. She colors in coloring books, something until very recently I found tedious and uninspiring, but that’s because I was using crayons! I prefer colored pencils, it turns out! This is a new thing I’ve learned about myself at age 43, so never give up on your dreams of personal growth etc. This specific book is so fun and these pencils are BLENDY AS HELL and this is what I did while Amanda and I watched horror films every weekend in October, so yes thank you I have finally seen that scene in It Follows and yes I loosed a feral scream and then continued coloring.


Nutcracker + Enormous Bowl of Nuts ($30 and $21)

nutcracker and nuts

When I was small so, so long ago, my grandparents kept raw, in-shell pecans and walnuts in this exact bowl, along with this Henry Quackenbush nut cracker (feel free to call it a nut vise, I do), which is superior to all other nut crackers. This Autumn I said HEY I also want a bowl of nuts and a Quackenbush vise! And so I got all of those things and it’s improved my life by 40%.


Cloth Books + Pens ($20 and $5)

cloth books and pens

Sometimes having a ~fancy notebook means you’ll never write in it because wow it’s so perfect and intimidating! But these Danica notebooks manage to be ~fancy and chill simultaneously. They feel nice in the hand, look perfect on the nightstand, and are fun to write in! These Pilot pens are the only pens I acknowledge.


Dried Flowers ($119)

Dried florals

Full disclosure, these smell fierce upon opening, but smells don’t last forever! You know what does? Dried flowers.


Measuring Beaker + Many Tiny Tongs  and Tiny Whisks ($10, $9, and $9)

beaker, mini tongs, mini whisk

I often need to combine one ingredient with another, but in a tiny way. Or else pluck one small thing from a sea of similarly small things. Or, hear me out, I need to measure smallish amounts of liquid things into a vessel whose measurement lines won’t deteriorate in the dishwasher. So these are the things I do those things with!


Cosrx Blackhead Power Liquid + Reusable Cotton Rounds ($25 and $18)

makeup remover

Oh here we GO ok yes, this is truly the only thing that’s ever worked for me. I actually went most of my life thinking this issue would just… fix itself? Baby no! It doesn’t. You’ll need something to apply the liquid and that’s where the cotton rounds come in, obviously.


Laneige Lip Mask ($25)

laneige lip mask

It’s all I use and don’t ever talk to me about using anything else!


Pure Breu Incense + Non-Wood Holder ($20 and $39)

incense and incense holder

This incense started off as a stocking stuffer splurge in 2023, but then smelled so fucking incredible that oops, now I have to keep it on hand at all times. We’re not out here burning a stick a day, though. More like once a month. And do not use that wooden incense holder for these — they’ll simply burn right through it. Technically I don’t have this exact concrete holder, but I have something similar that’s no longer listed and I love it!


Marcella Beans + Bay Leaves ($8 and $2)

beans and bay leaves

Some nice beans! Some really nice beans. Also Rancho Gordo’s bay leaves are, I think, what bay leaves are supposed to be? Like I get it now. Combine the two and then move on to make a perfect pot of Marcella Hazan’s white bean soup. What a sweet little day you’re having now! Top it with a drizzle of olive oil and some Wildbrine sauerkraut and don’t think about the US government’s downfall for like seven minutes.

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Wicked Part Two Will Be Named After the Gayest Song From the Musical

The much anticipated second Wicked film has been given a subtitle and will be called Wicked: For Good, which is so much better and gayer than Wicked Part Two. Wicked gays know “For Good” is hands down the gayest song in the musical. In my professional opinion, it’s even more of a love song between Elphaba and Glinda than “What Is This Feeling?” or “Defying Gravity”, featuring lyrics like “You’ll be with me / Like a handprint on my heart” and the catchy and romantic hook “because I knew you / I have been changed for good.”

I am dyingggg to hear Ariana Grande and Cynthia Erivo’s version of “For Good,” which I might even venture to say is my favorite song of the entire musical. It’s so sincere! It’s so gay! It’s so emotional! And now the second film will literally be named after it. It does make me wish the first film had been called Wicked: Defying Gravity instead of Wicked: Part I. 

Anyway, read on to find out everything we know so far about Wicked part two AKA Wicked: For Good.


When Does Wicked Part Two Come Out?

Gays, mark your calendars! Wicked: For Good premieres on November 21, 2025. My calendar is quite literally already marked. I’m already sat.

What Songs Will Be in Wicked Part Two?

According to the official soundtrack listing on IMDB, the following songs will be featured in Wicked: For Good:

  1. Performed by Ensemble
  2. Thank Goodness
    Performed by Ariana Grande
  3. The Wicked Witch of the East
    Performed by Cynthia Erivo
  4. Wonderful
    Performed by Cynthia Erivo and Jeff Goldblum
  5. I’m Not That Girl (Reprise)
    Performed by Ariana Grande
  6. As Long As You’re Mine
    Performed by Cynthia Erivo and Jonathan Bailey
  7. No Good Deed
    Performed by Cynthia Erivo
  8. March of the Witch Hunters
    Performed by Ethan Slater and Ensemble
  9. For Good
    Performed by Cynthia Erivo and Ariana Grande
  10. Finale
    Performed by Cynthia Erivo and Ariana Grande

The drama really ramps up in Act II of Wicked, and some of my favorite songs are “No Good Deed” and “For Good.” I’m recently a convert to loving “Thank Goodness,” thanks to Bowen Yang naming it as a favorite during one of his red carpet interviews. His answer made me super interested to hear Ariana’s version.

Was Wicked Part Two Already Filmed?

It sure was! They filmed everything at once. Production took a very long time, and while I have been against the idea of a two-part film all along, I will admit there wasn’t much I would have cut from the first part. But I do hate waiting!

What Cast Members Are Returning?

Good news! It should be all of them! Which, as you know, includes many gays.

Wicked: For Good won’t be set at Shiz anymore, so I suppose we’ll have to wait to see if Bowen and Bronwyn James will be given something to do in Act II, but I’m guessing they will be since there are so few named characters in this musical.


Keep checking back for updates about Wicked: For Good, in theaters November 21, 2025.

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On SNL, Jane Wickline Suggests We Start Queer Rumors About Sabrina Carpenter As a Treat

SNL’s Jane Wickline Sings as Sabrina Carpenter, Expressing a Desire For More Queer Rumors

Jane signing about Sabrina Carpenter on Saturday Night Live

On the most recent episode of Saturday Night Live, newcomer Jane Wickline sings a song from the perspective of Sabrina Carpenter, lamenting that there are never gay rumors about her. She mentions how Taylor Swift gets that treatment, how Harry Styles wearing rainbow pants was the talk of the town, but Sabrina Carpenter made out with Jenna Ortega “passionately” in a music video, and everyone just took her at face value when she said it was a metaphor for an ex-boyfriend. She complains, as Sabrina, that she’s the only straight pop star taken for her word and she wants people to discuss if she could be bi or pretending to be straight, even though she’s not. She wants the mystique of the POSSIBILITY. Wickline also points out that Sabrina Carpenter made out with a girl alien at the VMAs and covered Chappell Roan, and yet, and I quote, “NOTHING!” And, as Wickline mentions in the song, Carpenter even has a Christmas album called “Fruitcake.”

Not only was this SNL song hilariously written and performed — I personally was a fan of the poetic line, “I leave a trail of breadcrumbs then I leave a trail of loaves of bread,” and the subtle “please, please, please” reference — but it’s also funny because it has a hint of truth to it.

In June of this year, gay tiktokers took to their podcast and called Sabrina Carpenter the straightest person they’d ever seen. While never directly responding to it, Sabrina Carpenter did, soon thereafter, cover a Chappell Roan song and sing a song with the line, “God forgot my gay awakening.” The Jenna Ortega music video came out in August. Plus, in her Netflix special for the Fruitcake album, she duets with Chappell Roan. As if to say exactly what Jane Wickman was implying – I’m not gay but I’m sad you don’t think I could be.

And honestly, I think that’s beautiful.

I cannot find any proof online that Jane Wickline is queer, but I have no doubt queer people had a hand in writing this sketch, because it was so on the nose and hilarious. It checks all my boxes – wordplay, hilarious delivery, gay jokes that don’t make queer people the butt of them, and teasing straight people. A win-win in my book.

You can check out the sketch here:


More Queer Pop Culture Links For You:

+ Queer icons Angelina Jolie and Cynthia Erivo interviewed each other for Actors on Actors

+ Stephanie Beatriz’s latest show Man on the Inside got renewed by Netflix for a second season

+ A surprise Carpool Karaoke dropped, featuring Lady Gaga, Chappell Roan, and Dua Lipa, which is a great lineup for me, personally

+ The White Lotus Season 3 Trailer is here

+ Margaret Cho is releasing an album soon and a single from it, Lucky Gift, is out now

+ Critical Role released a holiday album, which includes some queer love songs including my favorite, a Laudna/Imogen song, Cold Inside

+ Someone who has missed the point entirely threw jewelry AT Billie Eilish while she was singing “What Was I Made For,” hitting her

+ In better Billie news, she did an NPR Tiny Desk Concert with her brother Finneas and it was lovely

+ Kristen Chenoweth stands up against the One Million Moms for their homophobic bullshit

+ It can be argued that Lioness is pandering to the MAGA crowd

+ 2024 loved a toxic lesbian on TV (and we loved them, too)

+ In the movie Maria, the singing you hear is a blend of Angelina Jolie’s voice and Maria Callas’s

+ And of course, it’s Autostraddle’s year-end list season, and you can check out the TV Team’s favorite characters and favorite TV scenes of the year so far!

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“Gifts” for the Chaos Friend Who’s Always Getting Into Predicaments Big and Small

Do you have a “Type B” (or maybe ADHD-having) friend whose phone is never charged, who is out there adventuring and embracing spontaneity in ways that fill you with spine-tingling terror and admiration? Are you worried when your friend declares they’re going on yet another road trip, but because you’re not paternalistic, you’d rather safely enable their life choices rather than dampen their bright-burning spirit? What follows is a list of “gifts” in scare quotes because most of them are more practical than fun. Still whether these gifts exist to be encouraging, to free up brain space and ease common anxieties, or to save the day when things go really off the rails, at least you’re putting your hard-earned gay dollars into items that will either get a ton of use, or that, ideally, will never have to be used. I am somehow both the friend who needs these things and the friend who makes sure that I have (well, most) of them, and it’s upon that authority that I am basing this list.


Daily Predicaments

Embrace chaos, embrace inevitability, embrace the fact that being able to locate one’s own keys quickly and easily will be life-changing for someone continuously misplacing them. The same goes for their wallet! We are not solving for the act of misplacing something, but rather making the situation easier to remedy. The same goes for the ever-uncharged phone. You can get your Chaos Friend a power bank! Bonus points if you gently steal it once in a while to recharge it for them. The pill dispenser is on here, admittedly, because of my personal problems. Namely: I have to take medications in the morning before it’s easy for me to remember whether or not I took them. This all too often leaves me in a situation where I’m wondering whether I already took my meds or not. With this handy dandy pill dispenser, your friend (or you!) will be both reminded to medicate at the appropriate time AND you’ll know that the task is completed after. Finally, because daily life is indeed a struggle for us all, I’ve included a couple of books that might be good, depending on your assessment of what might be well-received. For those who over-commit themselves, Unfuck Your Boundaries might be of service, and for those who need gentle encouragement to prioritize their creative practices, I highly recommend Beth Pickens’ Make Your Art No Matter What. Lastly, from local herb grower Cutting Root Apothecary, we have Heart Ease Tea for when feelings seem too large to be contained within our simple human chests.


Situations While “On the Road”

Your friend may travel for fun, for work, to temporarily escape, or because they’re the one who’s always down to help someone out, even if that person lives six hours away. While your friend may in fact not drive, if they do, then they may be in predicaments — both big and small — where they’re navigating on their own. Regardless, these are some items they can more or less keep in their vehicle, just in case. First up, while we may have GPS, it still isn’t always the best option. Flooding, construction, a lack of signal or dead phone (ahem), or a need to take backroads may emerge — and that’s where it’s useful and potentially life-saving to have an analog atlas in the vehicle. The one I’ve put here also has a National Parks Guide which is for the fun type of adventures!

Speaking of analog, you can also get your friend a compass! There are many options for this. I found you something gay, which is an engraved compass where you can include words about your friendship (or romance or bromance). Practical and pretty! I also may be from snowy regions, but I recommend having a shovel regardless of the type of weather you typically find yourself in. You could wind up in a sudden flurry in the mountains, even if you were just in the desert a few hours ago. It can happen. Speaking of stuff that could happen — you can get your friend and emergency bivvy to store in their car. It hardly takes up any space, and now they truly have something that will help keep them from freezing (or keep them from shivering in less dire times) in the event that they have a breakdown or need to spend the night in their car. And once again, we’re including power sources, except this one’s much more heavy duty. This combination jump starter and air compressor can jump-start a dead battery, put air in your friend’s tires, and also charge their phone. Truly one of the best things a traveller can have in their car. Seem like too much DIY? Side note: Did you know you can actually gift AAA memberships? Give your friend the reassurance of having an entire year where they can get a tow, a can of gas, or a spare put on.

Also, I recognize that it’s totally weird to just get our friend a shovel, so you can combine a couple of these gifts, throw in some air fresheners or other car items to make it cuter, too, you know. For example: for a bit of fun, there’s nothing that says helpful and welcome and almost spiritual chaos like Totoro from Studio Ghibli’s My Neighbor Totoro. Like Totoro, your friend may freak you out while they’re whizzing along the breeze, but also like that big furry forest spirit, you know that your friend is also always there for you when you need them most.


Stay Safe Out There, Bestie

Your friend is adventurous, has a high level of queer can-do-it-ness, and is maybe doing things like venturing out into the early hours of the morning on their own or deciding to take on an ambitious DIY project with just the tools at hand. The following are some helpful things that they can have on-hand to help them deal with what may come. First off, when the power goes out or they’re somewhere dark, do they have a light that is better than their phone light? I’m sorry but once you start carrying a flashlight, the phone light just doesn’t hold up in the same way, and because I listened to a queer tell me on a hike about how they think flashlights are actually the most practical self-defense tool if you can only choose one, now you have to hear it, too. Regardless of whether that’s true or not, getting a powerful flashlight your friend can tuck in a bag or clip on a belt will suddenly have them thinking “wow there are so many times I’ve needed this flashlight!” Following that up, does your friend carry pepper spray? If it’s something they’re comfortable doing, you can get them a fresh bottle, especially one with a strap that can go handily around their hand. It’s not helpful if it’s at the bottom of your cross-body butch bag! I also recommend getting them a bottle or two of practice spray that matches the design of the actual spray you got them, so they can get used to the feeling and practice actually aiming.

Now, because they’ve undertaken an awesome DIY project, they now have splinters, or a minor burn, or something that needs treated. What if instead of running to the pharmacy…your friend just had a pretty decent home first aid kit? WHAT THEN? Beautiful. And along those same lines, if your friend is the hands on type who’s always got scraped up knuckles and hands, why not give them the gift of a nice pair of work gloves? I know leather isn’t everyone’s thing, and there are a lot of options out there, but I do personally really like this particular pair from Mechanix. Lastly, but not leastly, as your friend moves with a surety and a curiosity through space and time, why not gift them a personalized natal chart reading with Corina, former Astrology columnist with Autostraddle? After all, your friend’s a beautiful being made of stardust, and we all have our part to play in each others’ lives and making a better world.

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  1. I feel so seen!

    Although I think you’re not accounting for the risk of us accidentally pepper spraying ourselves. Which some people might have done twice. *ahem*

  2. I LOVE gifts that are practicalities so this is right up my street! I know EXACTLY who could do with that first aid kit, this is perfect.

    I love wants as much as the next person, but there’s nothing like the practical present that solves a NEED. My first christmas with my partner they got me One Nice Knife because I kept complaining about my blunt houseshare ones and it was the best thing ever.

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