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Hi there! Here’s our third episode of A+ Inbox LIVE! If you’re listening for the first time, A+ Inbox LIVE! is where Riese, Heather, Yvonne, Rachel and I choose three questions from the A+ Priority Inbox and answer them live on a podcast, using amateur recording equipment and very little editing! It’s casual and honest and very 2006. You can dig back into the archives for previous episodes to feed into your ear canals.
On this week’s show, we discuss the pros and cons of including another woman in your profile pic, eliminating the risk of being someone’s experimental queer gateway drug, dealing with passive aggressive co-workers, and #space.
Don’t forget that we’ve set up a super special A+ Priority Voicemail set up just for A+ members like you. Have something to say with your voice? There’s certainly no better place to say it than in a voicemail. And you can rest assured that no one will ever ever answer this number. You’ll only hear a greeting and a beeping sound. I’ll be including a voicemail or two in the next episode, so if you want to ask your question via voicemail, do it!
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These are my favorite! Listening in makes me feel like I’m at a slumber party with you all.
would happily host a slumber party for a+, yes. so many doritos.
BISEXUAL GARBAGE ISLAND I’M SCREAMING
you’re invited
i was saying earlier today that i don’t know how i missed rachel saying “it’s just me and lindsay lohan” bc when i finally did hear it i laughed so loud it scared the dogs.
So funny. Thanks
thank YOU !
I’m here for the puppy barks.
But is an L Word box set really a definitive identifier of gayness?! I have some general queries about gay-acting straight friends that I may drop into the A+ voicemail if I can work out how to speak.
As always, thanks for letting us listen in to your rigorous discourse.
please do!
Honestly tho because I was introduced to The L Word by my boy crazy cousin and while she did later go on to date a girl and thus totally steal my Gay Cousin thunder, now she dates guys again and I just question the validity of this show as being The Way You Know Who Is Gay outside of that small window of time, if that makes sense
IDK
I stopped watching in season 2
You guys are great! This was very fun to listen too :)
thank you priscila!
Guys, it finally let me download to my phone. So happy I cab listen on my commute home today :)
*can
i hope this went well for you in all the ways you imagined that it would!
It did, Riese! I had a goofy smile on my face the whole time :)
I made the mistake of listening to #s 2 & 3 of these podcasts while walking my Dog Ward (headphones) and ended up being that psycho who laughs to themselves at the park
But I also met two whole very small puppies and one was named PENNY
“omg how old is she”
“idk I’m just the dogsitter”
“I AM ALSO THE DOGSITTER”
So I guess my strange giggling wasn’t too off-putting for the people and puppies of NW Portland
(because ppl actually spoke to me) (that was the conclusion there) (idk I wasn’t very clear)
Also idk it put me in a good mood on my Dog Walk, and recently those have been very “I don’t have a job or a social life outside of Dog Ward” levels of BROODY
Idk thanks guys is basically what I’m trying to say
PENNY
There is a video dating company in the same building as my work, or at least we think it is video dating. It is a match company and a lot of older gentlemen go in and they spend forever there. I’ll try and sleuth around to see if it is actually video dating and ask some questions. (They have the weirdest hours and never have the door open, it is normally slightly ajar if they are having clients in that day).
i suspect this may not be video “dating” per se
nikki i would watch an entire youtube channel dedicated to solving this mystery. like 5 mins each, updated once a week. oh my gosh it would be amazinggggg.
Guyz the second u brought up this video dating thing it reminded me of the Kristin Wiig snl digital short where she is Virginia something or other and she has a hot air balloon and shes selling rides
It’s amazing please try and find it on YouTube
Yes, everyone, go and find it on youtube. it is worth the quick search.
Wait but re: passive aggressive
I deal with passive aggressive by being incredibly nice to the people who are passive aggressive
Not in a way where you say shit that SOUNDS nice but is actually mean and backhanded
Just grit my teeth and say yes and also have a NICE DAY
Which is passive aggressive in its own way, bless-your-heart style
But I get actually happy when I fake happiness! Idk it gets me PUMPED
We don’t all have to love each other
Nothing matters
Black holes exist so really, who gives a fuck?
That’s What U Need, Anon Question Asker
The ability to stop caring on an existential level
*finger guns*
Also re: singles are so real and I miss the mystery involved in trying to rewind a cassette tape to a specific song
AND OUTER SPACE IS SO SCARY
I used to have panic attacks just thinking about infinity
“Mickey why haven’t u done your math homework”
“well I mean a variety of reasons but also are you aware that one day the sun will implode? It will and before then, all of us and everyone who has ever known us, will be dead. So I’m not sure why any of this Matters”
Basically get really depressed and then think about space and then re: the existence of black holes will become intimately connected to why nothing actually matters // why you cry at night
I can’t watch Battlestar Galactica anymore because I have TOO MANY FEELINGS because I binge watched the reboot in about 2 weeks in 2011 when I didn’t leave the house for about three months because I was really sad about life n shit and omg it was a lot ok
But I grew up with Star Trek in every flavor as the background noise of my childhood and I used to just panic about how YOU CANNOT BREATH IN SPACE
But I wouldn’t tell my dad this because Star Trek is his lifeblood second only to re-reading Lord Of The Rings and then explaining elves to my friends who don’t care because they brought it up in passing once at dinner
But the ocean is also so scary there are like so many jellyfish and glow n the dark shit down there that we don’t even *know about*
is your dad my dad?
Ok I’m done commenting
Sorry guys I don’t talk to humans these days
MICHOU YOU’RE A NATIONAL TREASURE.
THANKS I do try, I do try
Loved this! Especually the discussion on what to buy at the mall. Just great!
Hope I misunderstood the joke about Italians demanding respect and it wasn’t about what I thought it was about, though. I’ll go with that.
oh! the joke was on the sbarro restaurant chain and americans in general, not italians! like in this pretend joke world, we believe sbarro is super authentic italian food and that italians are in fact very proud of the restaurant and its offerings.
in reality i just really love their baked ziti and hope i pronounced the name sbarro correctly!
I just want to thank you some more. I got real excite about the no-one-will-ever-answer-this hotline and vomited some form of enthusiasm into it. This normally would over the course of several weeks destroy any confidence I had in my ability to form complete sentences, but then I heard the podcast and remembered this is Autostraddle, not your regular internet.
(PS the website is trying to squiggly red line it’s own name, we are all allies in self-doubt)
YESSSssssss
Coming from someone with zero experience in podcast production I always wonder… since you ladies are spread out all over the country what’s the set up for recording everyone?? I’m so confused if there is no editing how you all sound like you’re sitting right next to each other!
And, as always, this is my favorite thing ever. I laugh so much and get so emotional at how adorable all of you are!!
I feel like not enough attention was paid to Yvonne saying she was scared of bigfoots.
Also heather, i 100% agree about the ocean being much more dangerous to us than we are to it. I’m glad that there was a lot of talk about ocean fears this episode. That’s totally my brand. But, honestly, i’m kind of upset that yvonne and laneia never back me up on slack when i say i’m terrified of the ocean!!!
Also, seriously guys, it’s The Hundred, not The One Hundred.
mey when i was putting this together and heard yvonne say ‘and bigfoot’ i FREAKED OUT with glorious laughter and amazement. idk how i missed that when she said it live but gosh i’m so glad she said it. #shityvonnesays
also the ocean is a vortex of death.
i’m so sorry mey! i have failed you. i’m terrified of being swept up in the ocean and not being able to breathe and also sea creatures BUT i still really love the beach and go in at least waist-deep every summer, you know. so i’m not sure if you want me on your team!
thank you for understanding, re: bigfoot <3
They WANT it to be “the hundred” but you can’t WRITE OUT THE NUMBER and then say “the hundred” *there is a 1 in the title*
I have feelings about this
OMG WAIT!!!!!!!!
HEATHER!!!!!
HEATHER SINGING EASTBOUND AND DOWN IS LITERALLY THE BEST THING I’VE EVER HEARD IN MY LIFE!!!
THIS IS NOT A JOKE: I SPEND TIME EVERY DAY OF MY LIFE WISHING I COULD HEAR HEATHER SING!!!
I’VE LISTENED TO THE LAST 30 SECONDS OF THIS PODCAST 6 TIMES IN A ROW NOW AND IM CRYING!!!
I’M SO HAPPY RIGHT NOW!!! THAT WAS SO BEAUTIFUL AND PERFECT!!! HEATHER I LOVE YOU!!!
I K R
yvonne that tv show that you were thinking of that’s not The Bachelor is Millionaire Matchmaker, which was this gross show that started airing on Bravo in 2008 and was nearly as terrifying as the ocean
ah yes, that’s the show! i’m glad i haven’t watched it in years because i’m sure i would barf watching it
So much fun to listen to this podcast! Shout out to casingle purchases at the mall and old school
Dating sites. I put a nice little ad in the Ann arbor observer circa 1993 and dated a boy who is now most likely a rabbi. Good times.
i love these so much srsly and the mr. rogers-esque music is so sweet in a way that makes me wish you all video-ed these podcasts with puppet friends and glittery computer effects.
hopefully they are fun and easy to do! & you will do them more! i love reading the answers but it’s a little easier to listen in my ears while i’m doing something else rather than taking a break to read ’em.