Newly Sober Girlfriend Is Harshing My Mellow

I don't think smell is really the issue here.
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I’ve been sober from alcohol for a decade and my girlfriend has been sober for about a year. She’s not an alcoholic but just stopped drinking to improve her overall health. She was never into weed but I am, it helps me with anxiety and insomnia, and sometimes I smoke for fun with friends. She was cool with it before but as she’s gotten more involved with the sobriety community she’s been making these little jabs at me about weed. A few times she left the room when I had friends over that I’d smoked with, saying she “just can’t with us” when we’re high. (She doesn’t have the same reaction to hanging out with drunk friends.)
I finally asked if she had a problem with weed and she said that yeah, ...

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