Are we being petty to care?
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I have a straight friend who likes coming to queer events with us and basically does pretend to be queer: flirting with us and other girls, occasionally kissing girls at this one dance party. It never gets deep or anything — she is getting someone’s number or implying she might go home with someone.
She recently got a boyfriend, but this hasn’t stopped her interest in going to queer parties. Recently she said, "Don’t worry, I won’t try to bring my boyfriend to the gay party,” and my friend was like “Right, just your own straight ass,” and oof there has been some fallout.
I gotta admit I’m not gung-ho about her inviting herself to our gay lives like this, it’s starting to get old. Are we being petty to care? My ...