How much space to give an aggrieved ex-friend?
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Hi, I wrote in several months ago about having a younger queer friend with whom it was hard to be in a relationship, as they make their own mistakes. Since then, I set boundaries that were truly the distance at which I could love myself and them at the same time—which was from pretty far away!
Recently, we had a check-in, and I shared some of where I was coming from. They admitted that there were many times they felt hurt by my actions but didn't share those feelings with me. During the conversation, they were very afraid to share what those times or actions were. I held a lot of space for them, and they eventually shared one example, which was useful to gauge the kinds of things they’re talk...