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Melissa Faliveno is the author of the essay collection TOMBOYLAND, which was named a Best Book of 2020 by NPR, New York Public Library, Vogue, Oprah Magazine, and Electric Literature, and received a 2021 award for outstanding literary achievement from the Wisconsin Library Association. Her work has appeared in Esquire, Paris Review, Bitch, Lit Hub, Brooklyn Rail, and Prairie Schooner, among others, and in the anthology Sex and the Single Woman: 24 Writers Reimagine Helen Gurley Brown’s Cult Classic. She is a Visiting Assistant Professor of Creative Writing at Kenyon College. www.melissafaliveno.com
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