Beating Hart, C’est La Vie, and Cinnamon Maxxine in Crash Pad Series episode 308. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
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Is hand sex the safest form of sex after masturbating alone? Experts discuss:
“‘No sex act that involves contact with another person is totally safe, but hand sex is among the safest options available,’ confirms Caitlin Neal, a clinical sexologist and relationship coach. ‘As long as people are using proper hygiene, washing hands and not coughing or sneezing on each other, sex acts involving hands are the most safe,’ sex therapist Miro Gudelsky agrees. ‘The safest sex acts are obviously going to be solo, but the runner-up is definitely using hands.'”
At Kotaku, friend of the pod Chingy Nea wrote about her experience finding self-love through queer romance and video games:
“Her vibes were flirty and at the same time standoffish. I wasn’t sure how she felt about me. I later learned she had predisposed herself to disliking me before we had even met for personal reasons, but warmed up to me despite herself when I expressed interest in the then-upcoming Animal Crossing game.
As we played Mario Kart they sat on either side of me—my new instantaneous crush and the person I was there to have sex with. Desire is funny, able to suddenly make you feel as though someone’s knocked the wind out of you. Her soft arm brushed up against mine as she turned a corner, and I swerved Iggy right off the Koopa City road. It was the Joy-Con drift, I lied.”
Here’s what it’s like to get divorced over videoconference.
Tinder has made its anti-catfishing feature more widely available. Grindr still hasn’t removed its ethnicity filter.
Check out Carla Monir’s huge sex zine Napkin.
Here’s what happens when rapists use sexting as a legal defense.
Here are a few tips on quarantine, from an astronaut.
Here’s how modern thriller novels are exploring kink and pushing the boundaries of sexual fantasy.
Don’t take a road trip right now. But when it’s safe to take one again, here’s how to have road trip sex.
Here are a few solutions to cold lube. (You can also run the closed bottle under hot water for a few minutes.)
When friends (or Tinder matches) get too needy as we all continue to shelter in place, you can protect your friendship by figuring out and respecting your own boundaries, being clear about your limitations, and being more creative:
“Your friend became your friend for a reason; the fact that one of you is lonely doesn’t change that. You likely know them well enough to think specifically about what can bring them some joy—and offer some consistency and closeness in a time when things can feel so unpredictable and fast-paced. Keeping up with unprecedented social circumstances within our personal lives and friendships is practically and emotionally taxing—but we can find new, and grounding, ways to show up for one another and ourselves by being empathetic and forthright as we go.”