Feature image of Golden Curlz in Crash Pad Series episode 209. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
Dylan Ryan and T.Pfister in Crash Pad Series episode 306
“Orgasming was like a glint of light at the bottom of a dark well. The circumference of my world loosened slightly, and in those small moments of ecstasy, my mind let go of the painful reality that had overtaken my life.” At Bitch, Caroline Reilly writes about orgasms in the midst of chronic pelvic pain:
“I soon began craving those feelings of vitality, power, freedom, and pleasure more and more. These new experiences became an axiomatic part of my healing; I resolved to be sluttier. Sometimes this meant spending entire freelance checks on crotchless underwear from Rihanna’s Savage X Fenty lingerie line. Other times, it was giving a blow job in the back seat of a car on a first date because dating reminded me I could feel something other than pain. It was getting in bed after having an IUD inserted and then sending a picture of my ass to three different men. Sometimes it’s texting the guy who tells me I’m pretty and brave. Sometimes it’s texting the guy who tells me he wants to fuck me from behind in the shower. Sometimes it’s a wholesome DM from the older guy who makes me wet when I think about him. These experiences remind me that I am more than the girl with a medical chart so heavy that it thuds when it lands on the desk.”
Adina and Saffron in Crash Pad Series episode 303
Here are the platforms for remote quarantine sex, ranked. Instagram is the worst, Zoom is not great, and old fashioned phone sex is number one:
“When it comes to having a remote hookup in quarantine, it may be best to stick with the classics. “Phone sex for singles right now is huge as people are realizing that they’ll have to adapt their sex lives to the current quarantined times,” Levi tells me.
As people are baking their own bread, sewing their own masks and getting back to the basics all around, phone sex is just another way to embrace simplicity in such a complicated time, only while capping it off with an orgasm. Not only does it allow both parties to fantasize without worrying about how they look, there’s more mystery and anticipation if the CDC ever does allow you to meet IRL. Most importantly, phone sex requires the kind of skill, focus and sense of humor that most people are looking for in a partner (even a casual apocalyptic one).”
La Muxer Diosa and Zoie Blackheart in Crash Pad Series episode 281
Masturbation can be part of maintaining good mental health:
“It’s undeniable that taking the time to connect with ourselves, our bodies and what we like and don’t like is as empowering as it is calming, and adding little moments of pleasure to our day – whether via a crafting project or a vibrator – can only be a good thing, especially when times are tough. Gasnault also compares masturbation and orgasm to a moment of meditation: ‘When you experience sexual pleasure, you’re really present in the moment – it brings you back to yourself.'”
Byron DuBois and Daizy Blaze in Crash Pad Series episode 296
Here’s how to break up with someone you’re isolating with when you have to keep isolating together:
“Aside from processing your respective emotions, one of the biggest challenges right now will be setting new boundaries when you’re in the same space. ‘There’s an artificial oddness that you have to accept,’ said therapist and Detox Your Thoughts author Andrea Bonior. She compared the arrangement to being part of a couple who hasn’t told their kids they’re divorcing yet and is trying to behave normally in front of them. She recommended asking yourselves questions about managing every little part of day-to-day life: how to handle grocery shopping, how you’ll split up Zoom calls with mutual friends, and if you’ll even eat dinner together.”
