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Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

@Bootyconnaisseur via rodeoh

• When something good happens in your relationships, stop self-sabotaging and surrender instead:

“[S]urrender allows you to tune out neuroticism and tune in to your true desires. Many of us resist it because we’re deathly afraid of showing up and feeling seen and heard by someone who actually cares. Plus it’s just easier to stay in your head than it is to be present and feel exactly how flawed and fragile you are. But when you’re keeping your partner at arm’s length — and this can happen, off and on, throughout the course of a long relationship — nothing bridges the gap between you, sometimes, like saying to yourself and to the other person, ‘I’m flawed and fragile. I’m afraid and I want to turn away from you. But I’m here.'”

@queercooks + @juliarosaceae via rodeohs

• You can avoid toxic sex toys by buying toys made of medical-grade silicone, ABS plastic, glass, metal, wood and ceramics; making sure it’s possible to clean all parts of the toy to which your body is exposed; and making sure anal toys have wide enough bases to be safe (usually at least an inch wider than the diameter of the toy).

• “Dating a trans person changed my partner’s life,” and other trans-inclusive relationship stories, by Mady G at the Nib.

• “[G]ritting through a fight at all costs has its own consequences, and sometimes the only solution is to pass out and start again,” writes Jaya Saxena on why it’s okay to go to bed angry.

@topshelf_87 via rodeoh

• It’s okay to choose to be celibate.

@djchinag via rodeoh

• “Having a dog makes you hotter.”

@alannabeatsit via rodeoh

• Here’s what it’s like to try an “orgasm cleanse.”

@LCramer_ via rodeoh

+ Killing net neutrality could kill independent porn, writes Claire Lampen:

“The end of net neutrality means ‘the end of ethical porn,’ Lust said, and ‘the monopoly of punish-fucking.’ But ethical pornographers aren’t the only ones who get fucked. A non-neutral net would award ISPs the prerogative to decide what kind of content is available online, leaving them vulnerable to pressure from political and special interest groups, Singel said. That opens the door to censorship, arguably the worst outcome for indie creators whose adult narratives don’t conform to heteronormative gender roles.”

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