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Dykes Discuss ‘The White Lotus’ Season Three
*Parker Posey Southern Accent* Three dykes discuss The White Lotus season three, pitch The White Lotus: Florida, thirst for Walton Goggins, and ask important questions, like: Monkeys…what do they know? Are they scary? Scarier than PANTHERS? How did we end up on panthers? Guess you’ll have to read to find out. Let’s DISCUSS.
Can We Make Sure This New Baby Doesn’t Torpedo Our Friendships?
How can you make sure you don’t under-prioritize your friendships after having a baby? Also, recommendations for wax play!
Newly Sober Girlfriend Is Harshing My Mellow
You’ve compromised for her, but she still judges you for smoking weed. Also, is this out-of-state queer wedding worth the PTO?
My Girlfriend Has Money to Spare, So Can I Ask for a Loan?
She knows you can’t afford the thing you need, but hasn’t even offered to help?! Also, we settle a debate about bookshelves!
Why Am I the Only Friend Not Invited to the Wedding?
Do you think the invite got lost in the mail?? Also we help a reader who’s stunned by a sudden friend breakup.
Will She Dump Me If I Don’t Wanna Join Her Wellness Journey?
Is it OK to tell your girlfriend you’d simply rather watch TV than exercise with her? Also, what to do when texting people back feels like homework!
Baby Steps #6: The Best Laid Birth Plans
Sometimes you don’t know what you don’t know until you know it — and if there’s anything I can say about our little Prenatal Birth & Labor class, it is “there was a lot I did not know.”
Why Won’t My Gay Coworker Hang Out With Me and My Gay Friends?
Why does your queer coworker not want to hang out with you?? Also, a reader is given a Sophie’s choice between their husband or their would-be paramour.
I Don’t Think I’m Hot Enough Anymore To Date on the Apps
You’re newly single and worried your face card has expired on these dating apps. Also, we help a reader not text their ex!
Baby Steps #5: Fixing the Window
“If I’d made it this far into the pregnancy without being forced to face the reality that has inspired many of my generation to forego reproduction altogether, I could do so no longer.”
My High School Bully Is Happier Than Me
She bullied you for being gay, now she’s the one living a perfect queer life!?? Also, what to do about mismatched communication needs in a relationship?
I Love Living Alone, But My Girlfriend’s Ready to U-Haul
You’re not sure you’re ready to live with your girlfriend yet! Also, a reader is hurt by a friend’s rejection of her mother.
And I Feel God At This Baby Shower Tonight
“When it comes to baby showers, my wife was pretty certain about what she wanted: not to have one.”
Neither Of Us Know How To Make the First Move Sober. Will We Ever Have Sex Again?
Now that you’re sober, you’ve forgotten how to successfully initiate sex! Also, a reader’s partner has checked out post-election.
Good Boys Bonus Episode: Good Boy… Friends
The Good Boys’ girlfriends hop on the pod to discuss top surgery care, how to handle testosterone-inspired sex drive differentials, saying no to getting head, masturbating with the curtains closed, holding on to dyke identification when your partner transitions, embracing femininity on T and how Kylo made dinner one time.
Am I a Self-Hating Lesbian for Crushing on a Straight Woman?
A grown-ass lesbian is finally and fully crushing on a straight woman — now what?? Also, let’s all get back into reading!
Should I Get Married Before Trump Takes Office?
An international couple ponders a visa marriage before Trump takes office. Also a reader wonders if dietary restrictions can be a dealbreaker.
Baby Steps #3: Allegedly Essential Baby Products, Looking for Gays On The Baby App and Surveillance Anxiety
Of the many allegedly essential items we must procure for our baby — how many are actually essential and why do I feel so weird about surveillance products? Also: trying to figure out who all’s gay here on the Baby App boards.
My Straight Friend Wants Gay Attention
She’s straight but acts pretty gay at the parties! Is it allyship, or something else? Also, a reader requests some tittyfucking specifics please.