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Am I Allowed To Get Mad At My Flaky Friend?

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It’s Time To Make a Simmer Pot

The holidays are hard for lots of folks, but I know this can be especially true for queer people, myself among them.

Autumn Fourkiller December 1, 2025
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AF+ Lesbian Weddings

Is My Fiancée Wrong About Who I Can Invite To Our Wedding?

Her future wife is drawing a boundary around wedding invitations, and her ex is on the outside of it. Also: how to tell a date they have bad breath?

the team November 28, 2025 4 Comments
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She Thinks We Should Leave Brooklyn for Our Kids

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the team November 21, 2025 7 Comments
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the team November 14, 2025 2 Comments
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My Boss Is Withholding My Raise For The Most Annoying Reason

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the team November 7, 2025 4 Comments
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the team October 31, 2025 2 Comments
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the team October 24, 2025 8 Comments
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Ever dream of broken bones, tornadoes, dark skies, doppelgängers, or eerily familiar places? Cowboy Clairvoyant will help you understand what’s going on in your psyche.

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the team September 26, 2025 3 Comments
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the team September 19, 2025 2 Comments
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Autumn Fourkiller September 15, 2025 1 Comment
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