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AF+ Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

Cowboy Clairvoyant: A Queer Tarot Reading for Those Considering Breaking Up

Breaking up is hard to do, yes, but not impossible.

Autumn Fourkiller July 14, 2025
34 across / 3 letters / 20 ___ (length of a NWSL goal area)
AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Has a Few Tricks Up Its Sleeve

Don’t blink or you might miss it!

Darby Ratliff and Rachel
July 12, 2025 1 Comment
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AF+ Dating

Will Everyone Always Seem Second-Best to My Ex?

They checked every box, but now it’s over and nothing else seems to come close. Will it always be this way? Also, we help a reader decide if she should shave her bush just because someone asked her to.

the team July 11, 2025
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AF+ Parenting & Family

A Breastfeeding Journey Of a Thousand Miles Begins With a Single Baby Step

“I woke up feeling like someone had run me over with a truck and I thought, “I guess this is motherhood.” And probably would’ve died thinking that.”

Riese July 10, 2025 8 Comments
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AF+ Gender

I Treat My Wife Like a Barbie Doll and She Likes It

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Kristen Arnett discuss the sliding scale of gender expression and how a femme wife is like having an IRL Barbie.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and Kristen Arnett
July 8, 2025 6 Comments
9 across / 4 letters / "Call Me By Your ___" (2017 Luca Guadagnino film)
AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword’s Got a Real Jam Goin’ Down

And across, too!

Kate Hawkins and Rachel
July 5, 2025 1 Comment
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AF+ Dating

I’m Moving In With My Ex-Situationship (Wait, There’s More)

She’s dating your bestie, still flirts with you, and you’re all three moving in together?! Also, a reader wonders if she’s really a lesbian if all of her exes came out as trans men.

the team July 4, 2025
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AF+ Podcasts TV Feature

To L and Back Podcast: Ultimatum Queer Love Edition, Episodes 208 – 210

We got the ‘To L and Back’ band back together to discuss the messy glory of ‘The Ultimatum: Queer Love’ — the pain, the glory, the tongue kissing in sushi restaurants and why Haley does NOT in fact owe Dayna an apology.

Riese July 3, 2025
Every Al Pacino movie is gay: Pacino in The Godfather with the Out the Movies logo on the bottom
AF+ Movie Features

Every Al Pacino Movie Is Gay

The queerness of Pacino’s filmography is a reminder. While the media and your worst uncle claim the newness of queer and trans people, the truth is we have always been here. This cinema belongs to us as much as it does any straight film bro.

Drew Burnett Gregory July 3, 2025 3 Comments
13 down / 3 letters / Actress Hari who played Gittel in "Transparent"
AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Is Not So Odd

Normalize crosswords!!

Emet Ozar and Rachel
June 28, 2025
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AF+ Dating

My Boyfriend Doesn’t Trust Me to Party at Pride This Year

You cheated on your boyfriend and now he’s asking you to stay home from Pride parties — is that fair? Also, how to navigate different types of political activism.

the team June 27, 2025 6 Comments
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AF+ TV Feature

Mal Wright Didn’t Want To Be Your Favorite ‘Ultimatum: Queer Love’ Cast Member

In anticipation of the Season Two premiere, Mal tells us everything about how The Ultimatum: Queer Love works and what was really going on behind the scenes, from Choice Day procedure to Reunion regrets.

Riese June 24, 2025 4 Comments
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AF+ Sex

The Former Long-Distance Couple Who F*cked So Much They Made Each Other Sick

“I was showing up to classes late, missing deadlines, covered in hickeys.”

Sex/Life June 24, 2025 2 Comments
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AF+ Breakups

The People We Miss From Breakups Other Than Our Exes

I think of all the people who exited my life because of breakups and how neither of us knew our final conversations with each other were exactly that.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and the team
June 23, 2025 6 Comments
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AF+ Movie Features

Dykes Discuss Celine Song’s ‘Materialists’

Two dykes break down the baffling heterosexuality (and plot choices) in Celine Song’s second film, Materialists.

Drew Burnett Gregory and Christina Tucker
June 21, 2025 1 Comment
2 down / 4 letters / "Veneno" Actress Rodriguez
AF+ Puzzles

AF+ Crossword Says the Magic Words

Just thinking about how Abra evolves into Kadabra evolves into Alakazam.

Rebecca Goldstein and Rachel
June 21, 2025
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AF+ Identity

Should I Stick It Out at My Christian College?

You could graduate debt-free, or you could see what else is out there. Also, we help a nonbinary reader feel more supported in this binary world.

the team June 20, 2025
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AF+ Movie Features

Of Course Agnès Varda Was Bisexual

The reveal that Varda was bisexual should have filled me with the joy of a Gaylor finding a Karli Kloss sex tape. Instead, it felt like information I’d already known.

Drew Burnett Gregory June 19, 2025
AF+ First Person

I Miss Feeling Hot

My surgeon informed me that I’d have to spend the rest of Pride Month with my hair pulled back, ointment gooped on, and absolutely no hotness allowed.

Drew Burnett Gregory June 18, 2025 1 Comment
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AF+ Astrology, Tarot & Witchcraft

Cowboy Clairvoyant’s Guide To Pulling Three Tarot Cards for Yourself

Cowboy Clairvoyant interprets two dreams and also provides a short guide to pulling three tarot cards for yourself.

Autumn Fourkiller June 16, 2025
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