Enormous age gaps seem to be a lot more common amongst same-sex couples — I’ve personally got a ten-year age gap in my relationship. A 2013 survey found that LGBT people were more likely than straight people to be attracted to people ten years older than them. Our own Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey (conducted last month, results still being tabulated!) revealed that 77% of 18-to-29-year-olds were open to being romantically and/or sexually involved with women 10+ years older than them, and 97% were interested in women 5-10 years older. Of respondents 30 years or older, 61% were open to women 10+ years younger, 91% in women 5+ years younger, 87% in women 10+ years older and 98% in women 5+ years older.
There are so many theories for why May-December hookups do seem to be far more common in the LGBT community than elsewhere: a smaller pool of potential partners overall, more age-diverse social groups, the fact that “lesbian years” (how long you’ve been out) can be the similar even when actual years (how old you are) are not, a general removal from traditional heterosexual life patterns altogether or just that queers as a group are more open-minded.
Whatever the reason, it’s definitely not uncommon! Here’s some of our favorite same-sex female couples with a 10+ year age gap!
1. Chely Wright (44) and Lauren Blitzer (34)
The country singer and star of the documentary Wish Me Away wed Blitzer, the co-author of Same Sex In The City: So Your Prince Charming Is Really a Cinderella, in 2011. They had twins in 2013!
2. Jill Bennett (39) and Lauren Neal (25)
Actress/musician Lauren Neal (who you may recognize from Words With Girls) and actress/producer Jill Bennett are both involved with LGBT Volunteer Vacations, “an exciting way for singles and couples to make new friends, learn about global cultures and make a difference in the community.”
3. Rachel Maddow (41) and Susan Mikula (56)
MSNBC Superstar Rachel Maddow and artist Susan Mikula met in 1999, when Maddow was hired to do yard work on Mikula’s Berkshires property. They now live together in a pre-Civil War farmhouse in Western Massachusetts.
4. Jenny Shimizu (47) and Michelle Harper (36)
Michelle Harper, a former club kid, is described by the New York Times as having “a genuinely original and fantastical style of dressing” that has made her a fashion it girl. She married renowned model (and legendary ex of Angelina Jolie) Jenny Shimizu in September 2014.
5. Stephanie Allynne (29) and Tig Notaro (42)
Tig Notaro and Stephanie Allynne are both comedians so they probably make each other laugh a whole lot. They got engaged last month, after meeting a few years ago on the set of In A World.
6. Robin Roberts (53) and Amber Laign (39)
Laign, a massage therapist who specializes in helping people with serious injuries, and Good Morning America host Robin Roberts met over ten years ago and have been together ever since.
7. Jeanette Winterson (55) and Susie Orbach (68)
The renowned author and memoirist has been with Susie Orbach for over five years. Orbach is a psychotherapist, psychoanalyst, writer and social critic and the author of Fat is a Feminist Issue.
8. Martina Navratilova (58) and Julia Lemigova (42)
Julia Lemigova, a former Miss Universe Contestant and 1991’s Miss USSR, is an entrepreneur with a tragic past. She has been dating the superstar tennis player for at least six years and the two were married in 2014.
9. Audrey Smaltz (78) & Gail Marquis (60)
(Photo by Neilson Barnard/Getty Images)
Marquis and Smaltz’s 2011 nuptials made the front page of The New York Times’ Wedding/Celebrations — unsurprisingly, as the two have a very intriguing story that you should read! Marquis, a former Olympic basketball player, and Smaltz, a former model and founder of The Ground Crew, also showed up on OUT Magazine’s OUT100 list in 2013.
10. Portia De Rossi (42) and Ellen DeGeneres (57)
THE GOLDEN COUPLE!
11. Sarah Paulson (40) and Holland Taylor (72)
Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor at the premiere for “Carol”
Paulson met her first girlfriend, Cherry Jones, when she was 30 and Cherry was 48. In 2015, she began dating the legendary Holland Taylor and we all lost our collective minds.
Ellen is really that age? I want to know what her secrete is(beside having an amazing & funny wife) that keeps her looking young?
probably being vegan and dancing a lot?
Didn’t realize she’s vegan. I may have to take it more seriously.
CovergGirl?
Good grl hot sexy pic
My belief is for most 15 on up age difference, has money involved. Of course not in all cases, but most. In my observation w/the common person, I dont see it in the LGBT community. Money and being famous is different.
In my opinion by an observation, those famous and rich, in the lgbt community, have age gaps. But, mostly there is money involved. The common person (lgbt) will stay closer to the age. Well, maybe that varies from city to city, depending on the states laws, that create a certain kind of social impacts. In general its money, popularity with age gaps. Mostly.
“…when Maddow was hired to do yard work on Mikula’s Berkshires property.”
THE GAYEST.
*ugly cackle*
YUP! Seriously can’t get any gayer than that. Their love story always cracks me up, lol.
Literally came down here just to say that. My first thought was “wait, is this porn?”
I feel like I read an interview once where Rachel described herself as a “pool boy” which makes all of this even better
jenny shimizu is 47??!!! looking good mama, everybody here is looking good. considering the prejudices that queer people have to deal with, i would find it odd if we were particular about the age of our mates. generalization i know, but I’m okay with it
That description for Maddow and Mikula is like reading the back of a lesbian romance novel. Perfect!
I came here to say this. “MSNBC Superstar Rachel Maddow and artist Susan Mikula met in 1999, when Maddow was hired to do yard work on Mikula’s Berkshires property” reads like the first line of my new favorite erotica.
I feel confident this was during the period of time that Rachel Maddow had shaved her head and wore cargo shorts a lot, which adds to the perfection of this image
Agreed.
I definitely pictured a really cute scene of Rachel showing up in khakis with lawn equipment and a smile. Later in this mental movie, there’s a flashback of Rachel calling up every other lawn service in the area to somehow make sure that she was the one that got hired for the job.
probably susan was like “you look tired do you want some lemonade” etc
The “lesbian years” thing is legit. It took a friend pointing it out to me to understand it; most women my age that I meet have come out sometime in the past 2-5 years – while I came out when I was in middle school.
I just…really really don’t care about the L Word…like, I probably would have, had it been around during my queer puberty, but…eh…
you mean like your lesbian age is more how many years ago you came out than your actual age?
That’s basically the idea, although personally I think “coming to terms with” is more important than the act of coming out.
Basically, when I got to college and I had queer girls telling me to my face that I should cut my hair, that I “needed” to watch/read/listen to this/that, I was really hurt and angry. I’d gotten crap from straight people for years about how I didn’t seem gay “enough” to them and now queer girls were going to do it too? It took me a long time to realize that these were almost always girls who had just recently come out and were going through something I call “queer puberty” – which, just like tween puberty, means you’re figuring out how to present yourself to fit in (or deliberately not fit in), and all the media that you are able to watch/listen to/read and relate to for the first time feels SUPER IMPORTANT to you. I don’t want to sound patronizing – I went through queer puberty too, I just got a head start on most women my age.
tl;dr – when this actual conversation happened to me:
“Do you watch the L Word?”
“No.”
“Oh. Who’s your favorite character, though?”
I had to remind myself how insanely important Sailor Moon, reruns of Xena and secretly borrowed VHS tapes of Queer as Folk were to me when I first came out :P
Strangely, I had the opposite experience it was the people that came out really young that seemed to be really into the L word and queer. It’s like queer culture was their clique in adolescence.
Though yea, I think there are different developmental arcs depending on a combination of coming to terms with and coming out. I realized I was different/gay in middle school. But wasn’t free to date/ find myself a lover till college. I remember not being able to relate to people that came out really young.
My identity was formed in the closet. Their sexuality as more integrated into their overall selves.
oops late response but: yes, i can see/have noticed both of these, actually!
Queer puberty, that’s brilliant. I totally agree. I had mine in my early 30s.
? a very beautiful article .. love seems to have no age limit ?
Yaaaay, I love this!
I’m 23 and my wife is 37, and we basically couldn’t be happier. We met when I was 20, and I was kind of like, “Uhhhh, what’s happening? Is this…okay?” Turned out to be a lot better than okay. :)
yeah, it’s weird, you realize that there are simply a lot of things you can or cannot have in common with a person, and age is just one of them. not the most important thing, just a thing. there are lots of things my girlfriend and i have in common that turn out to be a lot more important than the year we were born in.
I was feeling weird about being 31 and dating a 21 year old, but the way my room mate explained it helped: after a certain age, you’re both adults.
Really. . .. So you don’re like mens?
yikes
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Ahhhhh so THIS is why I find myself constantly attracted to women who are 10-15 years older than me! Good to know I’m not the only one.
Now, if only said women were not all universally straight and married as well…
I know what you mean. I thought I was the only one too for many years;) LOVE LOVE LOVE Holland Taylor and Sarah Paulson couple. Gives us hope!
“In a World” is not a documentary. It’s fictional.
To piggyback off of this comment, you also spelled Stephanie Allynne’s name wrong two different ways in this article. I know you want to publish something every day, Riese, but I think you should check things over more carefully!
i thought “in a world” was a documentary because that’s what i had in my head but my head was wrong. like i didn’t read that somewhere and not fact-check the fact, i added a “fact” from my head into this piece and it turns out that i was wrong and my head is full of lies! so i’m sorry about that, i’ve changed it. but checking things over more carefully wouldn’t have changed that, and i doubt a copyeditor or another editor would’ve picked it up either? i actually did double-check the spelling of the last name and somehow saw the correct one, looked at my spelling, and thought they matched, because again, my head is full of lies it would seem. i have a weird glitch in my brain with spelling names (of locations or people) (like i have to look up “Michael” every time to be sure i’m spelling it right and i can’t seem to record the correct spelling in my head), e-mail addresses and also with numbers but it’s sort of embarrassing.
i talk about this with other editors of online publications a lot but there is to some degree an inevitability that there will be small errors here and there unless you have a full-time paid copyeditor. when people write about me or this site, they spell my name correctly about 50% of the time and people have spelled autostraddle in a really impressive variety of ways! i used to get mad about it because i think that the standard should be Absolute Perfection but i kinda understand it now. You have to strive for perfection to get it right 99% of the time. we’ve had posts that three copyeditors looked over and it still went up with small errors. so i’m really sorry and i feel really shitty for spelling her name wrong b/c people do it to me so much and i know it’s so unprofessional and embarrassing.
but the problem isn’t me trying to write every day, i guess, is all i’m saying! i can mess up LIKE A CHAMP regardless of how often i’m writing.
Michael is IMPOSSIBLE to spell, and also all our brains are lying to us 98% of the time, is my opinion/personal fact
i didn’t mean to sound like an a-hole :/ i’m just anal retentive about spelling. i got an email the other day with “unfortunately” spelled “unfourtnely” and i almost jumped out of my skin.
you’re doing a great job with the site and sorry if i came off nitpicky.
it’s okay! i think if you ever got an e-mail from me you would probably stab your eyes out. but i finally learned how to spell kate moennig and restaurant so i’m almost a spelling bee champion
No, but Riese, when are you going to start spelling astrosaddle correctly.
Hey Riese, have you ever thought you might be dyslexic? Your wee description there is full of classic difficulties that dyslexic people have. (Sorry, wasn’t diagnosed till I was 22 and it made everything a lot more understandable!)
i actually have some form of dyscalculia, i believe? like, i’m pretty good at math and arithmetic (which most ppl w/dyscalculia are not), but my #1 problem is with remembering numbers, directions, and also sometimes names and place names because names I see as symbols rather than a series of letters, much like how i see numbers. I mix up numbers the way dyslexics mix up letters, basically i think. i have to double-check the address eighty times in the span of one block. when i’m driving, i forget that it’s I-280 and not I-880 literally two seconds after my co-pilot tells me which it is. i always tell my co-pilot to feel free to remind me ten times that we’re turning left, i won’t be insulted ’cause i’m probably on my way to turn right. I’ve sent mail to my social security number rather than my address, forgotten my own phone number, etc etc.
I would like to mention that while many many sites have spelling errors, AS rarely has errors in CONTENT; it is so uniformly awesome here in terms of progressive, informative, supportive, etc etc etc.
To curate an online space with this result is outstanding. Spelling errors become like messy hair on a cute human — part of your charm.
aw shuckssss
Tig Notaro is soo adorable!!! She looks so cute and happy w/ her wife. I saw her perform twice during Sketchfest in SF a few years ago and she brought down the house. I listen to her Professor Blastoff podcast; it’s hilarious. My favorite quote of hers is, “I am drop, dead, cute.” lol! I now use that to describe myself when it’s appropriate. I’m so happy for her & her cute wife. :)
I think all the reasons you said, Riese are why lesbians are more open to relationships with age gaps.
I’m 32 and I love the movie Saving Face. Honestly, the woman I thought was the hottest (not that it’s a competition) was Joan Chen. I’ve seen her in person in SF at an anniversary showing of Saving Face. She bragged about doing a steamy scene with Anne Heche in a movie one time, (lol). She’s so hot & she’s 53. I”d totally date her (except, I don’t know her & she’s married to a man.) (lol)
But, yeah, age isn’t a big deal to me.
P.S. if any Autostraddlers are looking to support a lesbian geek comic book movie, here’s your chance: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1335851532/geek-loves-punk-comedy-about-a-lesbian-geek-and-he
another blastronaut! hi there! :D
Blasternaut here too! Happy birthday, Dan!
My 30th bday is fast approaching and I started to get the sweats thinking Im officially too old for a bunch of queers, and the ones my age all seem to be shacked up. Then I see how hot so many of these ladies are, and I hope my vampire like aging benefits me as well as Jenny Shimizu’s.
YOU ARE NOT TOO OLD FOR A BUNCH OF QUEERS YOU’RE A SPRING CHICKEN
Totally true, I am 50 and I think older women are more attractive, emotionally stable.
May my ship come In soon.
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@alarae
In a World isn’t a documentary. It’s a pretty cute movie, though, written/directed/starring Lake Bell, though, who’s a talent worth keeping an eye on.
sorry about that, i fixed it!
I feel like we need the opposite list of couples who don’t have much of a gap! It seems rarer.
I’m stunned that Ellen is 57, she looks no older than maybe 40. My first girlfriend was 15 years older than me (I was 22 at the time)
Jeannette winterson!
Also, that fat is a feminist issue book is real annoying. But she probably has other qualities.
I legit keep coming back here to look at that photo of Rachel Maddow and Susan Mikula. It just makes me so gladful and cheerness. Am I creeper?
Also how many people would laugh at me if I got those blue frames even though I don’t need glasses?
i would not laugh at you i would pat you on the back and say “nice glasses!”
Yeah the person I’m dating is 11 years older than me but I forget about that most of the time cause we have practically everything else in common. Not that I don’t tease her about it fairly regularly…
well i call my girlfriend ‘twinkerbell’ all the time so it goes both ways
I think you meant to say “same sex couples” in the headline, unless you are positive that all 20 of these women are lesbians!
second paragraph: http://www.autostraddle.com/comment-policy/#words
I mean this 100% respectfully, but writing bi erasure into your policy doesn’t make it not bi erasure. I personally find that way of thinking a bit odd, but it’s your site, and I still read Autostraddle every day and recommend it to friends.
yeah i mean i feel you, i do! i just don’t have a solution. even “same-sex” is a problem for some people b/c of their views on sex/gender/social construct.
but we do refer to these couples as “same-sex female couples” in the excerpt and in the introduction, it’s just the headline that says “lesbian.”
thanks for promoting us despite your feelings about our language, though. <3
My partner and I are 41 and 21 respectively and it don’t make no difference.
WELL THERE YOU GO
THIS IS SO RELEVANT TO ALL OF INTERESTS.
Happy May December relationships give me a lot of good feels for a lot of reasons.
My ex and I are 17 years apart. I have another ex who is 10 years my junior. I don’t try to date women younger than me, it just seems to happen organically. Also, at 50, I don’t look my age at all and I’m, admittedly, pretty young at heart. The only people who seem to notice the age gap are people who are outside of the “family”.
So many couples in a May-December thing… Awesome
my girlfriend and I are 10 years apart and it makes me the happiest clams of all clams
thanks babe!
also, #9, I saw Marquis & Smaltz in a short at some gay film festival thing= they are PERFECT.
I always thought the 6 year gap between me and my girl seemed super normal to us because of our parents’ mammoth age gaps of 17, and 12 years…but it seems to be a gay thing. I consistently forget how old I am and think my girlfriend is older than she is (which drives her crazy) because numbers mean nothing…and I have dyscalculia.
I love this!
Am I also the only one who enjoyed the cuteness of the kinda-similar wardrobe style of these couples? Too cute!
My gay lil heart is so fucking happy right now…. This article gives me SO much hope!
My fiancee and I are 9 years apart! And we’re perfect for each other. We really complement each other. And I was really surprised with how well my parents took it, they’ve never even said a word about her being too old for me! But then again, most people think she’s in her mid twenties when they first meet her. I remember wondering if age was gonna be an issue, because 5 years older had always been my “limit”, but I’m so glad I took a chance on her. <3 It really hasn't impacted my relationship at all.
True life: Same Sex In The City: So Your Prince Charming Is Really a Cinderella, changed my life and opened my eyes to the wonder of being a New York lesbian. It was kind of my guide for a long time.
ANYWAYS, love all of these women.
Age should never be a factor… Myself and my Last Girlfriend had a Ten Year Gap between us.. I was 28 and she was only just turning 18 when we got together, we are not together now but I would gladly date somebody that I loved, whether they were Ten Years younger or older… I go with the Heart not the age.
I get the whole “age is just a number” thing, but as a single person now in my early fifties and starting to think about dating again, I do worry that dating someone significantly older than me means contemplating a relationship in which I could be “widowed” and single again far too soon for my liking. Obviously, everyone is mortal and can leave this planet at any age, but the odds of significant health problems definitely increase with age. Am I the only one who worries about this aspect of a May-December relationship?
Yea, that would be the main downside for the younger partner.
Let me just throw out something that no doubt is more rare than your worries but related… I’m a young but very ill lesbian. Actually I find the whole “lesbian years” concept interesting because I was out at 11, 12 and I often feel so much older than other lesbians I know and I’ve always sort of had even non lesbian life things more together than most my as. Anyway, I’ve always pretty much exclusively liked much older women, like I think women 40-50ish are just the most attractive (also worth throwing out, I have much, much older parents and had they not had serious fertility issues I would be in my 40s so I also find I relate to older women in some very basic fundamental ways because we have a lot in common in how we were raised). Anyway, people always gave me a hard time for it and would always throw out the idea that an older woman would die much sooner than me. But here’s the thing, that’s not always true and you never know.
What is so weird to me at this point in my life is that like I said, I am only 25 but very ill, and as I tend to tell people, I will die on the sooner end of “sooner or later” because of my disease. I don’t think most women my age could cope with that and even if I didn’t have all the other examples I gave on why I relate more to older women, just facing severe illness and mortality definitely put me in a far different place than my peers. My last big crush (unrequited but dang it’s been 6-7 years and I’m still rather hung up on her) is currently in her early 50s. And like I said, ha ten years seems like nothing to me, people who know me often mistake me for being ten years older than I am even when they’re older than me. Anyway, it’s so weird to think about but say that relationship had happened, even though she’s twice my age, guess what? She’s so healthy and active it’s almost certain shed outlive me. So I don’t know.. I mean I get it because having much older parents growing up my parents always taught me age didn’t matter and I truly believed I was no different having parents who were half the rime older than my peers grandparents yet now that my parents are in their 70s, yeah I realize having much older parents is different (and again I think this is a huge part of why I am attracted to older women, my peers might flip out because the women Im interested in May literally be their mothers age but they aren’t MY mothers age!) anyway, it’s a weird thing to imagine should I ever be so blessed to have the kind of relationship I long for, the older woman who would accompanying me to my doctors visits, pushing me in my wheelchair… Really throws the age thing on its head.. And yeah my circumstances (and also perhaps my tastes but like I said, it’s almost an exclusive interest to me and it’s not about the age difference, it’s something about how women in that age range are so profoundly beautiful to me and have something younger women don’t even if I can’t explain how…) my circumstances are rare but ultimately chronic and/ or life limiting and/or life threatening diseases are not, nor are they so much related to aging. So in so many ways you never know. And hey maybe you fall in love with a woman 10, 15 years older but she’s got the longevity gene, you die at say 80, she dies at 100, she could still outlive you or you die very close in time…
Just something to consider. And from where I stand, unsure if I will ever even live to see 30, I think love is still worth it. And also beyond your control to an extent (as of course is death, illness or age related decline). It’s tempting for me to feel that maybe I should never fall in love or allow anyone to love me because how unfair and painful is it for them to lose me? But my illness has come so close to killing me in the past and the one and only thing that has crossed my mind in those occurrences, in an ICU wondering if this may be it, is that damn it, I can’t die yet because I deserve to be loved and to love. I’ve lost so many things to my disease. And yet the only thing I want is to have one good loving relationship before I go. Isn’t a year, five years, a decade of a great, loving relationship still worth it even if you do have to face the pain of losing them? How much could you gain from this hypothetical older woman who may leave you widowed, and isn’t the greater loss then never getting to experience that at all?
Anyway I don’t mean to be all dramatic or a downer with my own life circumstances. It’s just something that’s really thrown my own perspective and just thought I would share…
Thankyou so much for taking the time to share your perspective, Tzipora. This situation has just become very real in my life with a woman 15 years my senior sharing with me today that she is attracted to me. Your comment has given me a lot of food for thought and this whole post and ensuing conversation is very timely!
My wife is 8.5 years older than me but we’re the same lesbian age. She dies her hair and I’m going gray naturally so everyone thinks I’m older.
What I find amusing is that Jenny and Robin’s younger partners look older than them O.o.
*golf claps*
Because it’s true.
As I have no intention of being sick and old, I’d rather go out with a bang, I’d prefer to find a partner my age so when we’re not hitting that time of our lives at different points, assuming we’re lucky enough to get there together.
Also my desire to have children would make it difficult I think to go too much younger or older…but you never know. People welcome kids at different ages.
My fiancee is 12 years older then me. We meet when i was 17. She looks young and is young at heart, so you don’t realy see the difference. So yeah, age ain’t nothing but a number to me.
And is Ellen realy that old?? See looks amazing!!!
My favorite part of this article was where I learned that you can be 60 years old and still be the May in a May/December relationship.
Wait, shouldn’t it be May/September? December is so harsh.
Aw, gee, I’m only just seeing this article. Which is crazy because it will more than likely be the only time in history someone ranks me over Rachel Maddow and Ellen DeGeneres on any sort of list.
Oh man, joy at unexpectedly seeing you in this article, Lauren!
age is no big issue if you really love the person..i and my girl are ten years different..were both funny and i think that speaks a lot why were still on..i love her so mucrh..hope to mary her one day..
Shes my life and my world..
My other half is 32, I’m 50. I don’t look anywhere near my age. My last partner is 37. I tend to gravitate towards younger, and 30 something’s gravitate towards me. My love always tells me I’m “smokin’ hot” lol The ones having a hard time with the age gap are her parents. They take issue with her being a lesbian to begin with so I’m an added bonus. Strike three – I’m Mexican- she’s Armenian. She’s told her mother that she’s in love with me – I know that must come as a hard pill to swallow. When the day comes that she tells her that she wants to marry me, her mom is going to lose it. Strike four – I’m not rich. My partner isn’t but she comes from money. When I saw the family home I nearly pissed myself.
I find that the race and age differences don’t concern me nearly as much as the ‘class’ thing. It can be mortifying realizing you’re walking into a family/group where their living room is larger than your entire house. Or they make more in a month than you make all year. You never know what to expect (discomfort? condescension?) Hard not to get stuck on the idea of ‘measuring up’! Lucky, I’m older now and don’t care what anyone thinks about me! :)
These age gaps aren’t that significant. I discovered my sexuality when I was about 16. My first lover was my then-best-friend’s aunt, who was 38 at the time (I know, I know – we didn’t have sex until I was legal!). We split up when I was about 20, and now at 26, my partner of 5 years is 54. I have an extremely high sex drive, and when we met I thought that it would be a good relationship but that she wouldn’t be able to fully satisfy my needs. I was very wrong – I can barely keep up with her!! We’re femme, we’re in love, we’re extremely sexually active, and the age gap means nothing to us.
I’m jealous!!!;)
I’ll be 39 in less than a month, and my fiancee is 25.I look and act a lot younger than my age, and she acts older. I’m the one who likes to drink and stay up late, while she’s a teetotaler who goes to bed by 9. We joke that our mutual mental age is 28!
My wife and I are 10 years difference. the only bad part is sometimes people think she’s the younger one. I am. Hahaha. (see wedding pics here http://m.samesame.com.au/features/13052/I-pick-you-every-day-marry-me-Libby and decide for yourself. I’m in the dress)
Also Jen Cloher and Courtney Barnett, Aussie Lesbian couple with an age difference, have this great song ABOUT age difference that you could totally have YouTube embedded :
http://youtu.be/WqP3ICzc7eg
Ah, nice photos and video! Congrats on your marriage. I totally forgot that I clicked the link to see which one of you looked younger, you both look beautiful & happy!
I just don’t think Ellen is aging quite gracefully :(
10 years is not May-December, it’s *maybe* May-July. 5 years is not noteworthy unless you are a teenager. The older you get the less it matters anyway. “Significant” age difference measured in decades. Plural.
Agree with you completely but mostly I just wanted to say hey, from one lady-loving Tzipi to another. ;)
Isn’t the rule 1/2 your age plus 7? :) If so, Paulson & Taylor are only a few years off ‘socially acceptable’.
In my opinion, 32 years seems like a big jump – it would be like dating your mother!
Personally I don’t think I would have much in common with someone so much older, definitely different life experiences.
Each to their own, never say never! Wish them all the best :)
I doubt Sarah or Holland give what anyone thinks to their relationship a moments thought. They’re too busy being hugely loved up together
Not on point at all – but Ms. Barrett’s guitar in that clip is the bomb. Can anyone ID that work of art?
Holland and Sarah are literally the most adorable couple on the planet. See their twitters from October 2014 for proof
If they’re happy they’re doing it right.
But I have a problem when it comes to me. It upsets me to be personally approached by women more than 6/7 years my senior. There are many women who look awesome at more mature ages but I can’t wrap my head around it. I just feel I would be insulting my mother, she is actually ten years older than my father, but still…
Also I’m afraid an older person wouldn’t not respect my personality and ideas and try to baby me.
I’m 27, and I prefer to be the older one by 2 or 3 years. That’s my usual MO.
Don’t be angry with me, it’s just my opinion and story.
my girlfriend is 17 tuning 18 in three months and i’m 14 and age has never been a thing for us. She is getting really worried that bc she’s going to be 18 that we will get in trouble but both of our families know and don’t have problems with it so i think its all gonna be ok
This gives me so much hope! I am 36 and seriously in love with a woman who is 58. I totally don’t mind the age difference, and after reading this I hope she does not either.
If you have real chemistry, I say go for it! My GF is 20 years older than I. We’ve been together over 3 years now, and have an INCREDIBLE, life-changing relationship. There are some challenges, for sure… like someone guessing I was her daughter at a Christmas party last night… ugh. It happens. Make sure to talk these situations out beforehand, think about what the challenges will be throughout your relationship and how you’ll respond.
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I might be a little bit late to the party just responding to this post, but this is exactly what I needed to see toda. I’m 52 and my fiance is 34. We’re getting married in September and I couldn’t be happier. So sad society brings in so much self-doubt and to read these comments and this story made my heart happy tonight. Thank you all for being such an amazing family!! If anyone has any suggestions on reading material or social media groups or others to talk to in my situation I’m completely open to that. Thanks so much!
I love seeing this and perfect timing as well since I’m 22 and recently started dating my girlfriend who is 50. It kinda came out of nowhere and hit me like a ton of bricks before I even realized what was happening. She’s been a family friend as long as I can remember and now that we have formed a relationship, I already could never imagine not having her in my life. I know it’s entirely too soon but I can’t help but thinking about wedding dress styles and engagement rings.